my kinmunity guideline is always this: "Be So Normal". treat everyone as though they are not yours. while hope is a lovely thing, you don't get to just get overfamiliar with people immediately simply because you knew them Then. they're different HereNow—and, if you like it or not, so are you (yes! even fictives!) and so: i act as though sourcemates are simply sourcemates and not potential canonmates/timeline-mates/soulmates. this has the benefit of making it so i don't hold my tongue when speaking about memories: i am able to say "now, this is true for me, but your mileage my vary" at the start, without hurting my feelings or those of others.
this has lead to better results, frankly. i do know three of my soulmates, after all! just don't be afraid to reach out and ask when you think someone is familiar; that's the part i struggle with. when my captain brought up the possibility of being one another's canonmates, i left him with the impression that i didn't feel that familiarity as strongly, because i was trying so hard not to overreach that i stifled my joy completely. don't do that? do not do that. that's not "Being So Normal". be Actually so normal. ("don't overcorrect!" - his notes)
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