Cracks KnucklesOkay so the deal is

they Would have liked to keep it low-key (especially dankovsky who's used to having to cover his ass all the damn time), maybe the two of them + 3 friends each (rubin lara & grief for burakh, peter andrey and the rotten corpse of farkhad they haul around as a ghost like a noxious cloud over their heads for dankovsky), but burakh Is A Menkhu. he is the spiritual leader of the Kin, he is a vital social, spiritual and medicinal person within his community, so his business is the community's business, and vice versa. a sense of Ritual is deeply important to the Kin (not just to them tbh) and if he and dankovsky are to be seen, in the eyes of burakh's communities (kin and town) as bound by dedicated, committed love, a ceremony gotta be done. he WILL be put into a ceremony. dankovsky comes around to a wedding from a sense of What Happen In The Town Stays In The Town so might as well and when he comes back to the Capital the people don't gotta know and also it would make his mom soooo happy she so would so happy for her son to have a weddig(sic) so he's like oh my god okay fine. he's never been a big #marriagehead in no small part because it is like The institution of heterosexuality (especially within christianity) but he comes to consider that the whole "bride being given from father [her previous "master"] to husband [her new one] to go from domestic servant to domestic and reproductive servant" well Does Not Apply here from the But We Are Both Boys Men.

as far as age goes: vitally important to me that yeva (mamakosvky) get to see it so i think they marry age like. mid to late thirties. she's old but she still attends.

it's a whole ordeal because a Warden officiates a Kin wedding, and in the instance that burakh, The Main Warden, is the one getting married, another Warden must officiate. in my mind it is Oyun [cf this thing he's the one hidden and going over the book (2021 art jumpscare)], who also is in charge of updating the rites for Two Men [cf below] and it's kinda awkward due to the Almost killing each other thing.

there is a lot of motherhood - birth - death symbols within the kin's mythology (cf. Boddho herself, The Mother, the birthing of herbs, the "<o> brand" sigil associated with birth, motherhood, cycle and death...) which to me are apparent within the wedding rituals (not just for the fictional[ized] Kin tbh this is a widespread thing irl too) and as such said rituals have to be adjusted for the Gay Thing. it is not that no Kin member has ever been gay or bi, or even that a menkhu has never been that (i know what isidor did to that old man), it's just that burakh junior is the first one for whom such a ceremony pops up. whole ordeal. oyun has to go over the rites with burakh and a bunch of herb brides about what needs to be changed, what can be left in but adjusted etc. "we should probably take this sigil out of the rite it's for a descendance--" "[herb bride speaking] actually☝ it's technically for sexual potency so it can stay" meanwhile burakh is head in hands begging for it to be over. one of the rites include the husband helping his new wife hop on a bull and then lead that bull to the threshold of their new shared house and dankovsky has to sit his dad down and go "okay so i will be on that bull but this is not because i'm "the woman" in the relationship. you must understand this. not "the woman" because there is no woman. we're doing it this way because it's better for the bull to carry lighter (me) and also because i don't know how to lead a bull but burakh does. you understand this".

you are indeed here you are homonculus in my study from behind the glass of this bocal youre in you see me pace around talking to myself running my hand in my hair like a maniac until I suddenly walk to your shelf and lean over towards the bocal you're in like this

and force you to listen to me.

anyways as far as Rubins thought on Dankovsky Well he doesn't hate him as much as he's hated burakh in the past you know. even as the rubin burakh relationship has been/is more complicated than brotherly bond [I'd argue it barely is especially in p2, it's not about being a brother to him its about being him. A topic for another time] they've been very much Cain & Abel yeah. Like rubin has wanted to hit burakh over the head with a rock if that meant being favored by god I mean isidor. but dankovsky well. he has no animosity towards him, as a pseudo-in-law or as a guy in general. indeed they have mutual respect and indebtedness for The Plague Time and maybe rubin thinks dankovsky kinda has bad taste in men since he still has residual desire to hit burakh with a rock [not out of hatred or jealousy anymore, just to see what that'd be like], but like. <peterstakhblogreminder> rubin can talk. like he doesn't have the best taste in men either. </peterstakhblogreminder>. Rubin is doubly in dankovkys circle from him being 1) his pseudobrother's hubby 2) his own hubby's like. third side of the threefold coin or whatever. so they do run onto each other frequently. when dankovsky shoulders burakh at his medical practice rubin is also there. the healers and also rubin you know. he sees dankovsky be bad at cooking and burakh taking over the stove and is like damn maybe he's just some guy. there is the type of respectful distance you'd expect from in-laws except rubin has seen dankovsky get tipsy in Peter's attic and he called burakh to come pick up his man.

hiiii Smiles so already kinda of replied [here] so yeva gets along Great with burakh. She kind of spent her life not minding her business too much (and since dankovskys an only child she can't rely on siblings for gossip) + daydreaming about being a grandma (including bringing up adoption when dankovsky came out gay. I mean came out as gay) so when dankovsky shows up with this guy + 3-in-1 deal with kids in tow (including one whos brown-eyed black-haired bushy-browed it's like Christmas for her) it's like a gift. She looooves teaching him how to cook fun things from her family recipes book especially since dankovsky is chronic maker of. in french we say "cuisine de célibataire" mean "bachelor's (HA!!!) (unmarried man meaning) cooking" it's fucked up dishes you eat when you live alone. yeah that. So burakh can do the fancier cooking learned from mamakovskaya. teaches him to knit and embroider. she's a pious woman but basically every christian lowkey fw divination as long as you invoke the saints or mary so she reads his palm [2021 art jumpscare] and things of the sort. mostly she loves having him around to fetch stuff on the high shelves because she's 5 feet tall.

the Kin does have its proposal rites in my mind's eye (even though it is heavily fictionalized Not Always For The Best it is supposed to be centraleast-asian-ish and most cultures of this area [and of plenty others] have [often extensive] proposal rituals) but since to me these rites include involving the parents quite a lot and 1) burakh is an orphan 2) dankovsky's parents live on the other side of the country i think they Make Do. i think for a while they're both kinda "damn i kinda wanna propose to that guy" [dankovsky in no small part swayed by knowing his mom loves a wedding it has to be said But Also he means it for real. she puts the thought in his head and he lets it stew and is like damnnnnn yeah that'd be nice].

she's at the wedding❤️ not said in jest btw she is.

I've mentioned it a few times in my #dankovsky lore and/or #yeva nazarovna dankovskaya tags (latter one including images of yeva interacting with burakh. Need to remake them but they're here and real still) dankovsky has been out to his mother since he was 15 after he realized age 11. for a while he didn't say anything because at age 12 like who cares but later it became that he kinda needed to say something lest he gets asked over and over about a fiancée so he preferred to readjust his mother's priorities before it became annoying. she's taken it better than his father, for this stuff I'll send you to the tags mentioned above because rewriting that in full kinda tires me a bit so you can read it [here] or [here].

she loves her grandkids because she was all on his ass with "you can still adopt right 🥺" even as he hadn't gotten a companion in his entire life. she's particularly fond of murky because murky looks Just Like Him For Real and is sad that she dislikes bangles and jewelry because yeva had kept all her jewelry for a future wife of her son's, then when that became obvious that That'd Be A No Ma'am for a future adopted daughter of his.

haha yesss rubs hands so what i think happens is that for a while, when burakh ummm Visits, he brings back to ToG stuff for the kids (either that he buys himself or that dankovsky buys and then entrusts him to bring back) stuff like chocolates fruits plushies etc.

during one such visit, dankovsky would have offered to let him meet his mom. because i know her nosy ass has been after him like There Is Someone Right 👀. so they meet. (+meeting dankovsky's dad too i'm almost sure i answered something about that recently) during this visit burakh & dankovsky mention The Children and yeva begs brown-eyedly to meet them... so they agree... and preparations are made to have dankovsky's parents come to ToG. decided as such because it would be less pressure on Murky if they could meet her in her normal environment, the Lot Of New Stuff At Once weight would be reduced. by all means goes really well, yeva gets a good look at a murky In Her Natural Habitat, loves her lots. papakovsky is a bit more distant but his ass finds new beetles he's never seen so suddenly ToG is not that scary anymore.

the gigglers: main thing is constant loving jabs about the other's medical(ish) practice. "love you but this meat is so raw you could try your ressurection trick on it and it'd work without trying that hard". "you're my dearest but the weeds you've let grown in the garden are getting so tall they'll just walk themselves to your workshop". trust and believe. playful and dramatic declarations of abandon to the other's hands or will over silly stuff when one does not succeed immediately. a lot of playfully referencing how their relationship was when they first met with the distance, arrogance, power struggle they went on to various degrees. funniest shit to them. they have very little to laugh about but themselves.

the elders: they stay in medical practice for a significant amount of time, frankly i don't think burakh ever retires (especially since he's more than just the doctor guy he's a spiritual leader) even after Relief Team is secured. he gets visibly hunched because he spent his life bending over to talk to people (that's what he gets from being tall)