#bpdsplitting

I HATE how my friends do not communicate to me about stuff ahead of time and then make me split. I don’t know maybe if you actually communicated ahead of time and told me what was going on I would have not split? Please for the love of god, dont be in a friendship or relationship with someone with bpd if you cannot communicate well, comfort well, reassure well or wont work things out. Most of the time my splits come from miscommunication, people not communicating ahead of time, and not comforting or reassuring me enough and treating me coldly. People with borderline needs to be triggered in order to split, reread that. Please be kinder!!

why do i have to split on people and not know which skill is the best skill to stop splitting on people and i cant even call my therapist and ask for skill direction if this keeps up by Monday, i likely will but i cant do anything til Monday so its rather quiet annoying but i am sure i will figure it out,