Love yourself first!
Failure is a lie
How did you learn to walk? How did you learn to eat? How did you learn to draw?
By trying over and over again. By falling over and over again. Could you have learned walking without falling hundreds of times? I doubt it. Remember how you ate when you were a toddler? It took some practice to eat as you eat today.
As kids, we know it. We enjoy the joy of learning. We enjoy falling and getting up again. And then, when you get to a certain age and notice that people are watching you, it goes away... Suddenly, you want to maintain a certain image. Suddenly, you start avoiding instead of trying it. The famous “what if” comes in. “What if I fall?”, “What if she says no?”, ”What if my classmates don’t like what I say?” And we pay the price for it. This issue of not coping affects our self-esteem, it affects our confidence, it affects our resilience, and it affects our happiness levels in the long-term.
Remember how you learned! You fall, and then you get up again. You miss and then you hit. There is no other way. There is no other way to grow. There is no other way to learn. There is no other way to become resilient, to become happier, and to become more successful. It’s trying and failing, trying and failing and succeeding and trying and failing again. Accepting your mistakes as feedback and learning from them.
As Harvard Professor Tal Ben Shahar says: “Learn to fail or fail to learn.
” You MUST accept that you will fail every now and then. I hope you fail many times! Don’t misunderstand me now. It’s because the more often you fail, the more often you will succeed. It’s a numbers game. Babe Ruth one of the best baseball players in history said: “Every strike brings me closer to the next home run.”
