ā ļøKismessitudeā ļø
First of all letās get one thing straight, kismessitude is not inherently abusive/toxic/unhealthy; it certainly can be a abusive/toxic/unhealthy relationship like any other relationship, romantic or not, but itās not automatically so.
Ok, with that out of the way let me explain to you a thing(my depiction of) about kismessitude.
A kismessitude is in a sense a rivalry romance(particularly/specifically a shounen anime rivalry). You/Your pitch partner/partners look at you and see so much good or potential for good in and admires your virtues/highlights but thereās a fatal flaw that holds them/you back and it just grates on your nerves and makes you want to push them out of it any means necessary. One misconception of caliginous romance is that itās purely hate and intention to kill which is completely not true - that not a pitch relationship, thatās just hate. The whole point of a kismessitude is to better each other, to help your partner/partners grow & develop beyond what they are currently; you admire them and feel this compelling need to push them to be better, to fulfill their potential as best they can. You care about them, love them and cherish them and that, along with the aforementioned points, is what makes a caliginous romance/relationship a romance/relationship.
Also note that this can appear as simple bickering, jabbing and/or arguing or even physical fighting but whatever the relationship may present itself to outsiders/others the only thing/opinions that matter is those of the individuals involved and only they get/have a say in it. But no matter what a healthy kismessitude is like a boxing match: as long as thereās consent, all individuals are playing by & respecting the rules and thereās someone checking in to make sure no one is hurting themselves thereās nothing wrong with individuals in a circumstance that allows them to air out their frustrations.
Kismessitude can also 1000% be poly - 1000% valid af as well.











