When I first found out I was pregnant, I was thrilled to say the least! I was so excited I didn’t even know what to do with myself! After I settled down I thought, “What do I do now?! What do I do with myself for the next 9 months while I wait for this baby?!”
If you are anything like me, I immediately thought, “I need to start designing the nursery!” and “I should start working on the registry!!”Â
Unfortunately, preparing for labor and delivery never crossed my mind. I figured birth was pretty straight-forward and if there was anything I needed to know about birth then my doctor would tell me. Wrong and wrong. This may come as a surprise but birth education is completely on your own. Your doctor doesn’t give you a reading guide and a syllabus at your first appointment and check to make sure you did your homework (although that would be a great idea). You are supposed to find out which books to read and then read them.Â
When it came time for my first child to be to be born I was overdue and had a mandatory induction at 41 weeks. I was induced twice (because the foley bulb wasn’t inserted correctly the first time), had the pitocin up as high as it could go, had an epidural— the works. We checked into the hospital on a Sunday night and didn’t leave until Thursday afternoon. It was a long, exhausting week— to say the least.
Although our baby girl was born healthy through a vaginal delivery, I still left the hospital feeling defeated. I was traumatized by birth, unbelievably exhausted, and physically pretty banged up. I left feeling like my body was forced to do something it wasn’t ready to do. I remember telling my husband, “I never, ever want to do that again…” (More to come on birth story #1…)
Eventually I overcame the trauma of my birth experience and my husband and I began trying for baby #2. Once we found out we were pregnant, I was determined to not have another birth experience like that again. I truly believed there was a better way to give birth. Immediately I was on a mission to find out all I could about labor and delivery. The following three books were recommended to me and I read the first two (I ran out of time to read the third, although I still plan to read it!)
Supernatural Childbirth by Jackie Mize
Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth: Updated With New Material
Childbirth Without Fear: The Principles and Practice of Natural Childbirth
I cannot say this enough— the moment you get pregnant, begin your birth education! It is so important to learn about all the physical changes that will go on in your body during labor, how to labor effectively, how to do the least damage to your body, and what your options are in the hospital or birth center. A lot of women don’t know that you can say “no” to your OB and nurses in the hospital when they suggest options you aren’t comfortable with.
In addition to the books I read, I was also invited to a private Facebook group to watch Karen Welton’s teachings on childbirth. She is a Christian doula that has been in practice for years and is very, very knowledgeable (to say the least) on natural childbirth. She shared her teachings in 10+ videos and that completely transformed my understanding of childbirth, even after I had given birth with my first baby! It was mind blowing to me that even after I had given birth there was still so much I didn’t know!
After reading these books and watching Karen’s videos, I was literally EXCITED to give birth. I couldn’t wait to see, feel, and experience everything I had learned about since the beginning of my pregnancy. Then at 41 weeks + 3 days I finally went into labor and it was everything I had hoped and prayed for it to be :) Knowing what my body was doing during labor and made all the difference in my birth, and I was so thankful I had taken the time to study and learn! I’ll be sharing birth story #2 in a couple weeks, stay tuned ✨
What books did you read during pregnancy that helped you? What tips would you give a first time Mom for delivery?