#betteralone

I said who wants to ever be loved that way.

Hey guys, I hope that you are healthy and happy!

Today I`m going to think out loud concerning the topic "Dependancies" in life. I can hardly remember a situation in which I was not dependend from someone or something. And here it is definitely not the question of self consciousness or self esteem but sometimes also a question of keeping your job etc. It`s like a red thread throughout life: In your education, your training, your job, your private life, your relationship, your sports etc. I can`t think of a tiny area in which dependency doesn`t play a role. You always have to doublecheck if and how you can say something to a person "above" you. Everything that you say an do has an impact on your life. One little example: A friend of mine is in a martial-arts-club. In the changing room she asked a woman to wait with using her spray deodorant as she is reacting very sensitive to it. But instead of coming after this really nice little plea, she got very mad at my friend. In the end she had infected and pestered nearly everyone in the club with lies so that my friend ended up feeling absolutely uncomfortable and miserable. So she just left the club. I know it`s a very hard example but I think everyone knows a similar situation in which you didn`t behave wrong but nevertheless the situation turned against you by mean people and their behaviour. That`s why I`m really appreciation people with whom you can talk very openly, even about critical things. What a lot of people mix up is criticism of a thing or behaviour with criticism of the whole person. And that, of course, leads to huge problems. Whenever I experience a situation in which another person might feel inferior to me, that can be because of internal or external factors, I make sure, that the person feels comfortable and knows, that he or she has the same right to speak openly or utter criticism on what I am doing or just did. Valuable relationships can only exist and develop when they are at eye level.

Again I would like to hear your stories to that topic. Maybe you want to share them with me?

Take care, stay safe and have a beautiful day : ) Cheers