#bad asks

"Ska"

I’m not sure what the goal of your asks are because idk if you’re just coming across my blog recently or if you’ve misunderstood something I’ve said but I’m frustrated by this series of asks

Nico's actions were shitty and would ideally be addressed in canon. However, I stand on the fact that even people who do shitty things are deserving of empathy and compassion. During those eps, anons were driving people out of fandom because if you didn't totally see Nico as the shittiest boyfriend ever, then you’re automatically trash. 

Nico hasn't been magically forgiven or absolved of any guilt, and that doesn't change the fact that he's an imperfect character. I've said before that the perfect character is implausible and in terms of storytelling, a lazy, boring, unrealistic, and uncreative way of writing a character. You’ve said yourself that he’s never been provided the explanation or resolution to his actions. And that everything that’s happened with Nico and his parents and Levi was dismissed with one sentence (”I know you deserve better”). 

Villains in marvel have had sob stories to humanize them and they’re still the villain but Nico literally has zero. He’s not even afforded that and he’s not supposed to be the villain.

So I do not appreciate you coming in and telling me I have to manage my expectations or that my life isn’t the backstory that was chosen for Nico. 

I know.

And even though this work is fictional and he only has a small role, the mere existence of Nico Kim’s character still impacts real life and real people. Like it or not, greys is not some fantasy au universe. It’s supposed to be a dramatized version of real life. And with real life comes real life issues, like poor rep and racism.

Nico’s actions go hand in hand with his identity as a gay asian man. This followthrough you’re expecting, should also be applied to how poc and queer characters are written in today’s media. If they didn’t want someone like me to connect to a character like him, then they should’ve just casted a white man.

So regardless of the size of the role, characters from marginalized backgrounds deserve stories that resonate with the communities they're representing. Television writers and producers are capable of that, and we as their audience should not be policing each others thoughts and demanding we settle for less (esp in a well-funded, long running primetime drama like Greys).

This is what I talk mostly about on my blog: How the writing for schmico has been shit in handling poc and queer stories. How schmico’s storyline is written strictly from Levi’s pov (re: from a cishet white pov). And how by doing so, has made audiences villainize Nico when WORSE characters have existed on the show but get away with in both in canon and fandom.

I don’t expect people to always agree or understand me. I only wish to provide a place where likeminded people can come interact together because they’re missing something, or wanting something that isn’t being given to them from this show or western American media in general. 

The problem is not me and I’d argue it’s not even the fandom’s problem. The problem is in the writing, in the network, in the show. 

As @schmico-ing said so well: Maybe Grey's should've thought of that before they paraded Alex Landi for groundbreaking representation™ 

And I am not dismissing your experience as an addict in recovery and I see that is an experience I do not have and that is what has shaped your interpretation of schmico’s story (see how that works both ways?) and would in different circumstances (where if you didn’t tell me that I shouldn’t expect good asian queer rep because he’s only a recurring character), be something I’d be interested in exploring.

I. This is it. This is the worst one. This is. This is the worst one. I don't know how to pinpoint just how bad this is.

This ask broke me.

I really had no idea that it was my responsibility and my fellow shipper’s responsibility to make sure children don’t see such content. What are parents for then?

And if you’re going to continue asking me questions, just pm me. You want to justify your reasons? Please go ahead and send me threats and evidence by my inbox and not my asks. You’re pulling this way too long and I’m getting tired of having to justify myself to someone who finds themselves mature but cannot agree with themselves to let it be and understand that they cannot control everyone and everything, I’m getting tired of showing your hate and disagreement to my readers and followers. They didn’t come here to see this content.

I am not the government my friend, I do not make laws and rules.  I am simply a fellow human being who wishes to enjoy fiction and bring together people who like the same. And also: Our problem is that you won’t leave us alone. 

Leave US BE. 

Block us, block your children from it! These are fictional characters, learn and try to accept that. Kindly leave my ask box alone. Next time you send me something like this I will not reply. 

“As I hear more like this my desire to conquer Eorzea wanes and is instead replaced with a desperate need to wipe all traces of its existence from this very star.”