#aroaceshipperpride

before june is up and as a celebration for gaining 100 followers, i want to invite you guys to a week of celebrating aro/ace identities in selfshipping. i find a lot of comfort in selfshipping as an aroace person, and i want to spread that love for pride month!

how it'll work

starting on June 21st and going through June 27th, there will be a new prompt to make something for!

you can prepare it in advance or on the day of, or even post it on a different day, as long as it's posted throughout the week.

what can you make? that's up to you! it can be a moodboard, art, a fic, imagines, a long rambling gush post that's barely comprehensible, a playlist, a meme, whatever! you decide what you're most comfortable with and what would work best with the challenge.

when you're ready to post, please post it under #AroAceShipperPride! ill be reblogging as many posts as i can under that tag!

who can participate

im not one for gatekeeping, so if you identify anywhere on the aro and/or ace spectrum, you're free to participate.

if you don't identify anywhere on the spectrum, i ask you not to participate. this is meant for aro/ace shippers to get some much needed love and support in the community.

the exception is Friday's prompt - non aro/ace shippers are allowed and encouraged to spread love and positivity to your aro/ace community members!

prompt list & dates

sunday, june 21st: what being aro/ace means to you

monday, june 22nd: how being aro/ace has impacted your selfshipping

tuesday, june 23rd: how your f/o(s) react to you coming out

wednesday, june 24th: aro/ace headcanons

thursday, june 25th: why you enjoy id'ing as aro/ace

friday, june 26th: send some love to the other aro/ace shippers in the tag via asks/reblogs/replies/handwritten letters sent by carrier pigeon/whatever (non-aro/ace folks can participate on this day!)

saturday, june 27th: make whatever you want based on aro/ace-ness and/or the event!

all questions should be directed to the inbox of THIS BLOG!

thank you all so much for 100 and please enjoy the event!!

Yesterday I finally got myself together and just accepted that I'm aroace (on both spectrums) and I think that by doing this event it'll help me become more confident in who I am and who I want to be

it was already tricky enough figuring out I was acespec back in January but arospec too? I never thought I would understand how it worked or that I myself would be part of it but in retrospect it makes sense

in my future vision, I don't have a lover or children. I have my work, my success and my family. being aroace means accepting that I am outside what is normal even within the LGBTQ+ Community, I'll most likely not have a partner or even a QPR bc it's not what I want: and I think that's okay

being aroace means I can go towards the life I want without having to hold myself back for someone, or multiple people. being aroace means I can be free of what's expected of my destiny.

I've always valued friendship and bonds over romance. To me, romance is just a fantasy. It's a dream. If you're able to find someone, then your dream comes true! If you don't, then it's okay to keep dreaming. That's what selfshipping's for (for me at least)

Sex is not important to me either. It is to others, but it's not something I care for. And that's okay.

Being aroace alleviates the social pressures that I've stressed about for years. But I don't have to worry anymore.

squattin’ in ace pride

I'm AceAro-Jump, not pure acearo/ace/aro, and I'm not truly sure how to take the question? Like, I'm assuming I'm supposed to put my thoughts on being part of the community? So I'm going to that, I'm sorry if I took it wrong!

Anyway, I have ace spikes/jumps pretty often, like more often than aro spikes/jumps but still have both. I actually didn't know until June 16th, I thought I was just weird. I DON'T MEAN AROACE-JUMP PEOPLE ARE WEIRD IT'S HOW I FELT ABOUT MYSELF NOT PEOPLE WHO IDENTIFY LIKE THAT BECAUSE I DIDN'T KNOW IT WAS AN IDENTITY AT FIRST!!! I suck at explaining but hopefully you understand?? I don't mean to offend anyone!!! I think aro and ace are cool sexualities! And being in an ace relationship must be so loving because a lot of people think sex is, like, as close and intimate as you can get (not all!!) and ace people get that it isn't so I just think there would be a lot more intimate moments where it strikes you that you absolutely adore them and feel emotionally closer than possible. And aro people are so wonderful!! Imagine being in a friendship with them, I feel like they're amazing friends! You know they aren't being your friend purely to try to 1) get in a relationship with a friend of yours or 2) trying to get in a relationship with you, which, unfortunately, some people do. I feel like if you two get along well it'd be a solid and trusting friendship.

( @no-romance-selfship-imagines )

day 1: what being ace means to you

i’ve IDed as ace for six years now (≈ age 14 to now) and it’s pretty much the only aspect of my identity that has stayed static as i’ve grown. sexual attraction is simply not something i feel; not to strangers, not to celebrities or characters, and not to romantic partners. i’ve fluctuated between many different attraction labels and gender identities but my asexuality has always been a fixed point in who i am. discovering that i was ace brought me into the lgbt community and allowed me to come into my current identity as a trans/nb gay ace person. 

as far as what being ace means to me, my asexuality is such an integral part of me and i wouldn’t change it for anything. asexuality is the hook on which i can stick my feelings, my actions, and interactions; it’s a large part of how i conceptualize myself. and, honestly, i love being ace! even now, i’m still working to get past internalized acephobia but things like this remind me of why that label means so much to me. 

For me, being aromantic lets me jump between my group of f/os a lot easier.

I get to focus and appreciate on my familial and platonic f/o's 10x more when I'm in the mood!

I experience burn out periods with my romantic f/os (since most of the time my attention is towards them and them alone) where I can't process romantic scenarios or thoughts and that lets me think about other f/os I haven't really gave attention to!

As for being asexual, I would say the only impact it has is that it reminds me that not all relationships have to have sexual elements in it, including my selfships. Smut is cool but like have you ever wrote a oneshot fic about going to the grocery store? Me too! It reminds me that it doesn't have to go in that direction

Self shipping itself serves as a way for me "experience what I'm missing" so to speak. I mean I'm not really missing anything if I don't desire it. Having a romantic relationship despite my preferences with a fictional character is essentially play-pretend so it's not hurting anyone

It just makes me happy and after doing it for so long I can't just give it up so easily just because I've changed ✨

It'll be something that stays with me no matter what label I wear and that's totally fine

Honestly I feel a bit relieved but bad about it sometimes? I'm glad to have those spikes/jumps because I often hyper focus on one f/o but on and Aro spike, it gives me a chance to focus on my platonic and familial f/os and it feels nice. But I also kinda feel bad about because I'm ignoring my f/os, like I feel bad when I'm hyper focused on one f/o or one type of f/o because I don't want them to feel left out but my focus doesn't span that far :( but if I had to chose which why impacted me most? In a good way, because I'm always going to hyper focus on an f/o so that guilt isn't gonna leave.