#apperence

Perhaps it's that selfie you uploaded to Instagram where you was content at how cute you looked for those good few seconds or so, until you impatiently hit that refresh button only to see you have zero likes and your model ex best friend has uploaded a selfie that has those eleven likes along with her symmetrical appealing smile. You can't help but wish your smile was a little more like hers.

This is where negativity against oneself begins. The current generation of young men and women are more social media inclined than any other generation before. We are spending majority of our time on social media, when we should probably be investing  all that free time tweeting in something worthwhile. like actual reality maybe? sounds scary!

It is no lie that social media has a direct impact on our lives in fact some might argue that social media is a way of life, just me?-  but what the masses refuses to approach is that it is also quite harmful to our self esteem, confidence and not to mention our appearance. As inspirational speaker and writer Ilanya Vanzant quotes “Comparison is an act of violence against the self”.

It is  a harsh truth but I believe it to be true, every time I find myself comparing myself to someone else I always come up short, and end up making myself feel bad for how I look.  I can’t help how I look, -not on the wages I earn anyway.  In reality we shouldn't feel bad about how we look, because realistically should it matter if your smile is crooked if you are a wonderful loving human? I think not.

Social media has introduced this perfect idea of how a person should look, dress, think and act. It has created a unrealistic pedestal in which the average person is competitively trying to reach. The only clause is that it is completely unrealistic achieve. Anyone who lives in the real world can not attain it. Ridiculous really, even laughable, That this negativity impacts us more  than we realise. without even knowing it we are hating ourselves! and for all the wrong reasons. like not being as gorgeous or more stylish as a self proclaimed instagram model who only models for hand care products.. and honestly i get it.  It is completely plausible to some extent, feel this way. Especially as a women,  we go through periods where start to hate our arms, or we start to hate our thighs because they are too big and it’s a thing to have a “thigh gap”. but the extent of us disliking yourself should stop at our flaws.

 “You, see your face. You, see a flaw. How. If you are the only one who has this face”. - Nayyirah Waheed