#anon issues

my inbox: *empty as heck*

me a few days later: okay i think im safe. im gonna turn anon asks on again *turns on anon asks*

*a few minutes later*

my inbox:

also someone please tell me who the last one is, i am scared.

also ENOUGH WITH SONAMY ALREADY SHEEEESSSHHH

"We don't want to read..." Okay, so don't. No one's making you sit there with your eyes forced open to read them. If you click a link or read more when the warnings are perfectly clear, that's on you. You set yourself up for that.

PLEASE REBLOG

If you cannot say it to someone’s face/off anon/in person

You’re a coward.

If you are trying to be mean and derogatory and are trying to harm someone’s self esteem

You are a bully and a coward.

This is cyber bullying and anyone who does not agree is an instigator. There are no if’s ands or buts.

Standing by and refusing to do anything about it is still bullying. You do not get to watch it happen

ESPECIALLY IF THEY ARE SOMEONE YOU KNOW OR YOUR FRIEND

this is only a call out to the anons harassing Sam @samthegirlnextdoor and anyone else who has bullied anyone On Anon.

Cyber bullying is WAY too big of an issue in the 21st century and it’s disgusting to think that there are people who feel so terrible about themselves that the only way they can feel better is by making other people feel worse.

I do not know when you all made this update but it is now impossible for mobile users like myself to block and report anons.

Here is a friend of mine on computer:

As you can see, he has three options: Block, Report, and Delete. I asked him to send me an ask, one on anon, the other as visible:

As you can see, mobile users can ONLY delete anon asks while visible asks are able to be Blocked and Deleted. This is very uncomfortable for me and no doubt to other mobile users. I was suffering hate for a while but I felt reassured by my ability to block and report the harmful asks. Now this update is forcing me to get on a computer just to handle my inbox?

Hey my loves, I debated sharing this with you all, but I think it’s important.

I wanted to take a moment to share an anon I got a few days ago that, while I understand the motivation behind it, I’m not really ok with getting.

This anon was praising Unholy and I just want to thank them for that, but what I’m not OK with getting is a description of how you masturbate to my writing.

Let me be perfectly clear: if you wanna get off to my writing—please do! Enjoy! Be nasty! Get hot and bothered! It’s not like I haven’t done the same thing to fanfic and I’m not here to shame anyone (especially the anon who sent it) about what gets them off or how.

What I do have an issue with is that information being shared with me without my consent to receiving it. Just because I write explicit stories and enjoy such work, receiving an anon like that is, for me, like receiving an unsolicited dick pic.

I didn’t ask for it and frankly, I likely never will.

However, if you want to share with me your love for my stories, omg please do because I LOVE IT! I’m fine with comments like “omg I’m so thirsty” or “holy shit I’m so hot and bothered!”

Let’s make this rule, if you can’t write the comment publicly because it’s too personal or explicit, I don’t want to receive it. If you’d be uncomfortable with your family reading it, take a moment and reconsider and if you are unsure, message me!

(Seriously guys, I’m not gonna judge you. Just talk to me if you have something you want to share but aren’t sure if it’ll be welcome. I know it’s scary to come off anon and talk to people directly, but short of you being abusive and rude, I’m not going to get upset. I’m not even upset about this, I just want us all to be clear on where the lines of consent are in these interactions.)

So, to recap: comments, reblogs, anon/not anon messages are all loved and welcomed! I’m in no way going to shame anyone for their kinks or how they get off, I just don’t think “sharing is caring” is the right motto in this case lol

I hope this doesn’t discourage anyone from interacting with me or this blog. This is simply a lesson in consent for everyone that just because I write smut, doesn’t mean I agree to unsolicited erotic/lewdly descriptive comments in return. I love all of you who follow me, interact with me, and I want to thank you all so much for your support.

Ok? Ok.

Now back to your regularly scheduled programming 😉