#alibinary system

A note on the alibinary system (mentioned in the definitions of these spectrum terms):

Viabinary: Used to categorize the experiences of some nonbinary people with genders which are similar to a binary gender.

Mesobinary: Used to categorize the experiences of some nonbinary people whose genders involve both binary genders.

Ideobinary: Used to categorize the experiences of some nonbinary people in a way that relies on binary-related concepts without being directly connected to the binary.

Exobinary: Used to categorize the experiences of some nonbinary people with genders that are completely outside of or independent of the binary or anything related to it. This was the original usage of the word “abinary.” Abinary is now the term used to describe having genders that are entirely unrelated to the binary.

General Terms

Abiaspec (exospec/exterspec): Abingender spectrum. Everything within and around the exobinary spectrum. Includes abinary, abinarine genders, aphorian, neutrois, aporagender, maverique, all outherine genders, and all genders entirely outside of the binary. Also includes aben, abins, and abies (referential terms for those who are abingender.)

Agiaspec: Agingender spectrum. Everything on the agenrine side of the exobinary spectrum. This includes agender, genderlessness, agender-aligned genders, nixian, libragenders such as libramale and librafemale, agenderprox, gendervoid, gendernull/nullgender, voidfluid, voidflux, agendervir, agenderera, bxy, gxrl, nixvir, nixera, and all related genders. Also includes agen, agins, and agies (referential terms for those who are agingender) and genders that are tagiaspec (within and around the agenrine transgender spectrum.)

Aiaspec: Aingender spectrum. Everything on the aporine side of the exobinary spectrum. This includes aporagender, aporine-aligned genders (aporic genders), aporagender-aligned, neutral genders, outherine genders, aporaen, maverique, mavraen, ilyagender, ilyaen, péra(gender), mercurian, and all related genders that are abinary and gendered. Also includes aporen and apories (referential terms for those who are aingender) and genders that are taiaspec (within or around the aporine transgender spectrum.)

Atriaspec: Atringender spectrum. Includes atrinary genders such as maverique, ilyagender, péra(gender), all other outherine genders, and any gender entirely outside of male, female, androgyne, epicene, and neutrois. Also includes all atren, atrins, and atries (referential terms for those who are atringender.)

Biaspec (viaspec/xorspec/exorspec): Bingender/viagender spectrum. This includes genders related to or aligned with male and female, binary-adjacent genders, liaspec genders such as androgyne and femache, and any genders related to or existing within the binary in some way. May include circa-binary genders such as proxvir and juxera, as well as midbinary genders. Also includes bien and binbies (referential terms for those who are bingender.)

Eliaspec: Elaline spectrum. Includes elingenders, elale, demi-elale, elale-aligned genders, and all outherine genders with qualities such as creativity, honesty, passion, curiosity, and integrity. Does not include any xiaspec genders.

Enbiaspec (nonbiaspec/nbiaspec): Nobingender spectrum. Everything along the viabinary-to-exobinary spectrum that is not entirely biaspec. Includes genderfluid, genderflux, demigender, all other multigender identities, epicene, neutrois, aporagender, maverique, ilyagender, nonbinary, deminonbinary, nonbinary man, nonbinary woman, exterian, nonbinary-aligned genders, all abiaspec genders, all ouiaspec genders, and all related genders not fully male or female. Also includes enben, nonbins, and enbies (referential terms for those who are nobingender.)

Fiaspec: Feingender/fiagender spectrum. Everything from the female side of the binary-to-viabinary spectrum. This includes gyninous genders, genderera, female-aligned genders, woman, girl, gyn, wifgender, selenian, lunarian in its original usage, juxera, demigirl, paragirl, girlflux, girlfluid, and gxrl. Also includes genders that are tfiaspec (within and around the female transgender spectrum.)

Fideospec: Fideobinary/fideogender spectrum. Everything on the “feminine” side of the ideobinary-to-binary spectrum. Includes genders that are similar to feminine, partially feminine (demifeminine), feminine-aligned, and feminine-adjacent. Similar to fiaspec.

Fluidiaspec: Fluid genders such as genderfluid and all its subsets. Can fall within or around any part of the binary-to-exobinary spectrum. Includes boyfluid, girlfluid, agenderfluid, panfluid, demifluid, all genders within the genderfluid fragment gender system (genderfaun, genderfae, genderflor, gendersylph, and others), and all genders that are fluid. Falls under multiaspec.

Fluixiaspec: Fluidflux genders such as genderfluix (genderfluidflux) and its subsets (including demifluidflux.) Can fall within or around any part of the binary-to-exobinary spectrum. Includes any gender that fluctuates and is fluid at the same time. Falls under multiaspec.

Fluxiaspec: Fluctuating genders such as genderflux and all its subsets. Can fall within or around any part of the binary-to-exobinary spectrum. Includes boyflux, girlflux, agenderflux, panflux, demiflux, and all genders that fluctuate (such as the fluctuating energies seen in celestial genders.) Falls under multiaspec.

Ideospec: Ideobinary/ideogender spectrum. Includes fideospec, mideospec, lideospec, and nideospec. Relies on binary-related concepts without itself being binarine. Similar to bingender.

Ilyaspec: Ilyagender spectrum. Everything on the ilyagine side of the exobinary spectrum. This includes ilyagender, ilyaen, enfil, proxilya, ilyagine centrigenders such as mavilya, undel, exiel, and any gender that is entirely abinary, outherine, and tangible all at once. Does not include any mviaspec genders.

Kiaspec (keiaspec): Keingender spectrum. Everything on the kenoine side of the exobinary spectrum. Includes kenochoric and all its subsets, kenochoric-aligned genders, kenochoric-adjacent genders. Any genders based on the feeling of emptiness, eeriness, or genderlessness may be considered kiaspec. Also includes omens, kenores, and hexes. Does not include any xiaspec genders.

Liaspec: Lingender/liagender spectrum; being both fiaspec and miaspec; the mesobinary spectrum. This includes androgynous genders, androgynine genders, gendervira (genderavire), femache, androgyne, androx, gynx, angidrox, angidrox, boygirl/girlboy, manwoman/womanman, androgynous aligned genders, androgyne-aligned genders, calypsian, proxangi, nixangi, nixpangi, pandrogyne in its current day usage, and all related genders. Also includes angen, angyns, and angis (referential terms for those who are lingender.)

Lideospec: Lideobinary/lideogender spectrum. Includes all genders that are both fideo- and mideo- or both masculine and feminine without necessarily being androgynous or lingender. Similar to liaspec.

Miaspec: Maingender/miagender spectrum. Everything from the male side of the binary-to-viabinary spectrum. This includes andrinous genders, gendervir, male-aligned genders, man, boy, andro, wergender, helian, solarian in its original usage, proxvir, demiboy, paraboy, boyflux, boyfluid, and bxy. Also includes genders that are tmiaspec (within and around the male transgender spectrum.)

Midbiaspec (mbiaspec): Midbingender spectrum. This includes midbinarine genders, circa-binary genders, androgynous genders, liaspec genders, miderian genders, binarine centrigenders such as androx and gynx, midbinary-aligned genders, midbinary-adjacent genders, and all related genders within and around the binary of male and female. Also includes miden, midbins, and midbies (referential terms for those who are midbingender.) Not the same as liaspec.

Mideospec: Mideobinary/mideogender spectrum. Everything on the “masculine” side of the ideobinary-to-binary spectrum. Includes genders that are similar to masculine, partially masculine (demimasculine), masculine-aligned, and masculine-adjacent. Similar to miaspec.

Monoiaspec: Monogender spectrum. Can fall within or around any part of the binary-to-exobinary spectrum. Includes all monogenders and anything not multiaspec, fluidiaspec, fluxiaspec, fluixiaspec, or oiaspec.

Mtriaspec: Midtringender spectrum. Includes midtrinary genders such as androgyne, femache, neutremme, neutromme, neutramale, neutrafemale, circa-binary genders such as proxvir and juxera, and any genders within and around the gender trinary. Also includes midtren, midtrins, and midtries (referential terms for those who are midtringender.)

Multiaspec: Multigenders (multingenders) including all ampline genders, genderfluid, genderflux, fluidflux, mutogender, demigender, bigender, trigender, quadgender, quintgender, polygender, pangender, omnigender, nanogender, paragender, all amplusian genders, and all related subsets. Can fall within or around any part of the binary-to-exobinary spectrum.

Mviaspec: Mviagender/mvingender spectrum. Everything on the maverine (verine) side of the exobinary spectrum. This includes maverine-aligned genders, maverine-adjacent genders, maverique, maverique-aligned, maverique-adjacent genders, demimaverique, maverivir, maverera, proxveri, solugender, renexaen, régnavant, and all related genders that are outherine, autonomous, and unambiguous all at once. Also includes maven, veren, and mavs (referential terms for those who are mvingender.)

Niaspec: Ningender/niagender spectrum. Everything on the neutral side of the viabinary spectrum. This includes epicene, neutrois, neutral-aligned genders, demineutrois, neutroisflux, neutroisfluid, neutroprox, neutral aporagenders, neutramale, neutrafemale, stellarian, hesperian, astraean, asteresque, and all related genders. Also includes neutren and neuts (referential terms for those who are ningender.) as well as genders that are tniaspec (within and around the neutral transgender spectrum.)

Nideospec: Nideobinary spectrum. Everything on the neutral, null, and/or nonbinary side of the ideobinary-to-binary spectrum. Includes ningenders, agingenders, and other related nonbinary (exterian) genders and alignments.

Omiaspec (oiaspec): Omnigender spectrum. Includes omnine genders such as omnigender, pangender, panfluid, panflux, infiniversic, infiniversanull, infinixenic, and all genders related to having all genders or an uncountable number of genders.

Ouiaspec: Ouiagender/ouingender spectrum. Most genders within and around the exobinary spectrum that do not include niaspec. This includes outherine genders, outherine-aligned genders, proxouther, andergender, dipherine qualities, umbine qualities, ilyagender, proxilya, péra(gender), proxpéra, maverique, all mviaspec genders, and all related genders that are not masculine, feminine, androgynous, and neutral. Also includes oumen and ounes (referential terms for those who are ouingender.)

Triaspec: Tringender spectrum. Includes trinarine genders such as male, female, epicene, midtrinary genders such as androgyne, femache, neutremme, neutromme, neutramale, neutrafemale, and any genders related to the gender trinary. Also includes trien and triaries (referential terms for those who are tringender.)

Uiaspec: Uingender spectrum. This includes cassgender, blurgender, greygender, quoigender, pomogender, voidmasc, voidfem, voidenby, plutoian, and all genders that are unknown, unnamed, undefinable, unquantifiable, undetermined, undecided, unsure, and unidentifiable.

Xiaspec: Xingender spectrum. Everything on the xenine side of the exobinary spectrum. This includes xenogenders, xeno-aligned genders (xenic), xenoprox, xenobinary genders, spacialian, aesthetigenders, kingenders, neurogenders, noungenders, colorgenders and all related genders. Also includes xenen and xips (referential terms for those who are xingender) and genders that are txiaspec (within or around the xenine transgender spectrum.)

Terms Coined by YB3 (your-bigender-big-brother)

Amiaspec: Amingender spectrum. Includes ambiguous genders such as epicene, ambigue, neutrigue, angigue, maverigue, genderfree, ambix, antegender, and any gender that lacks distinction. Also includes ambiguous-aligned identities like elirgian and celestial genders like ixionian. Might fall under uiaspec.

Andiaspec: Andingender (andrine gender) spectrum. Negligibly interchangeable with miaspec.

Anobiaspec: Anobingender spectrum. Includes anonbinarine genders, genders aligned with anonbinarity, and genders that resemble anonbinary.

Astriaspec: Astringender spectrum. Includes asteresque, genders aligned with asteresque, and other asteresquine genders such as demiasteresque, asteresquefluid, asteresqueflux, mavasteresque, nixasteresque, astrix, and asterqueer. Falls under niaspec and aiaspec.

Cassiaspec: Cassgender spectrum. Includes genders such as cassboy, cassgirl, and cassenby. May fall under uiaspec.

Ceniaspec: Centrigender spectrum. Includes genders that fall between other genders (centrine genders) such as androgyne, angigynx, gynx, angidrox, androx, neutremme, neuxemme, neutromme, neuxomme, mavapora, mavilya, mavrox, mavrynx, and trinteri.

Exiaspec: Extingender (extrine gender) spectrum. Includes all extringenders, which are genders that are not fully masculine or feminine - androgyne, neutrois, aporagender, maverique, agender, ilyagender, and identities like demimasculine and demifeminine.

Gyniaspec: Gyingender (gynine gender) spectrum. Negligibly interchangeable with fiaspec.

Iquiaspec: Auingender spectrum. Includes all autonomous genders such as maverique (and related maverine terms), angique, neutrique, aginique, midbinique, abinique, and aporique.

Leptiaspec: Leptive gender spectrum. Includes all leptive (leptrois) genders such as neutrois, negatrois, positrois, electrois, nucleotrois, centrois, ambitrois, equitrois, nulltrois, and infinitrois.

Metiaspec: Metanine gender spectrum. All metanine outherinities, which fall within the outherine side of the exobinary spectrum. Includes itherine, ipsine, preterine, and ineffaline identities such as péra, aliagender (aliusgender), egogender, altergender, állosine genders, and infinitive genders. Also includes anything aligned with these identities. Falls under ouiaspec.

Syniaspec: Syncrine gender spectrum. All syncrine outherinities, which fall within the outherine side of the exobinary spectrum. Includes disine and circumine genders such as altraenine genders, pandrogyny, ainuline genders, ainemine genders, and some amingenders. Also includes anything aligned with these identities. Falls under ouiaspec.

Umbiaspec: Umbine gender spectrum. All metanine outherinities, which fall within the outherine side of the exobinary spectrum. Includes anderine, dipherine, and ectine genders such as andergender and solugender. Also includes anything aligned with these identities. Falls under ouiaspec.

Vociaspec: Vocingender spectrum. Can fall within or around any part of the binary-to-exobinary spectrum. Includes vocorian, vocorian-aligned genders, demivocorian, vocorine genders such as lusteraen, and any genders that are flashy, flamboyant, loud, or strongly felt. Also includes phonen, vivins, and vocs (referential terms for those who are vocingender.) Doesn’t typically include xiaspec genders.

Modality Spectra and Combinations

Cfiaspec: Cisfemale/cfiagender spectrum. Includes all genders that are both ciaspec and fiaspec.

Ciaspec: Cisgender spectrum. Includes all cingenders, cis genders, partial cis genders, cis-aligned genders, and cis-adjacent genders.

Cmiaspec: Cismale/cmiagender spectrum. Includes all genders that are both ciaspec and miaspec.

Tagiaspec: Transagenrine spectrum. Includes all genders that are both tiaspec and agiaspec.

Taiaspec: Transaporine spectrum. Includes all genders that are both tiaspec and aiaspec.

Tciaspec: Transcis/cistrans (tris) spectrum. Includes all tcingenders, tris genders, partial tris genders, tris-aligned genders, tris-adjacent genders, and any gender that combines cisgender and transgender together. Includes all genders that are both tiaspec and ciaspec.

Tfiaspec: Trans female (tfiagender/transfiagender/transgynine) spectrum. Everything on the “trans female” side of the viabinary-to-aptobinary spectrum. Includes all genders that are both tiaspec and fiaspec.

Tiaspec: Transgender spectrum. Includes all tingender, trans genders, partial trans genders, trans-aligned genders, and trans-adjacent genders.

Tmiaspec: Trans male (tmiagender/transmiagender/transandrine) spectrum. Everything on the “trans male” side of the viabinary-to-aptobinary spectrum. Includes all genders that are both tiaspec and miaspec.

Tniaspec: Transneutral spectrum. Includes all genders that are both tiaspec and niaspec.

Viawoman/Viagirl | Viaman/Viaboy

Viawoman/Viagirl: relating to having an experience similar to a binary womanhood, while not being 100% a binary woman. Ex: Juxera, Xirl, Paragirl, etc.

Viaman/Viaboy: relating to having an experience similar to a binary manhood, while not being 100% a binary man. Ex: Proxvir, Xoy, Paraboy, etc.

See Viabinary.

I don't know if there are already flags for these identities, but I wanted to make some for myself. The symbolism of the circles is to represent this relationship of proximity to binary genders, while being their own thing.

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The alibinary system - viabinary, mesobinary, ideobinary and exobinary - is meant to be a set of self-applied labels describing one's relationship with the woman/man binary in a more specific way than the word nonbinary does.

These words, therefore, should not be extrapolated to mean:

Relationships to any genders (for instance, viabinary isn't meant to be used to describe being close to maverique or neuangi; there are words such as paragender available for that instead)

Someone's gender identity, presentation or alignment (for instance, someone can be an exobinary juxera or a viabinary agender person)

Any specific subset of nonbinary gender identities (for instance, nonvir isn't inherently an ideobinary identity, because the reasons one may identify as nonvir may differ from person to person and some might identify with exobinary or viabinary rather than ideobinary)

I know about fiagender/miagender/niagender/etc. being based on the word viabinary. That's fine! Because, as I said on another post, those can be separated from the idea of trying to claim these experiences as inherently viabinary.

I also understand the impulse of trying to categorize every label in accurate ways and thus conclude there are certain gender identities that always correspond to any specific label under the alibinary system, but a lot of nonbinary people don't go for the most accurate labels they can. A lot of people use "demigirl" to mean "feminine nonbinary person" or "masc agender" to mean "genderless person who doesn't like being gendered but who doesn't want to call out being constantly misgendered as a man and who prefers that over being misgendered as a woman".

For those of us who live in exorsexist societies, there's value in being able to tell "I'm nonbinary and I relate to a binary gender", "I'm nonbinary and I relate to both binary genders more or less equally", "I'm nonbinary and I don't relate to binary genders, but my identity is dependent on the idea of binary genders somehow" and/or "I'm nonbinary and I'm completely outside of the binary". All of those terms were conceived because of intracommunity discussions leaving folks feel erased.

For starters, let me introduce you to an idea called the alibinary system, a system of gendered concepts based on how they do or don't relate to the gender binary. Under that, you will find the exobinary spectrum, which are any identities that are unrelated to the binary in any way.

Some exobinary identities may include:

Aiaspec - genders that are aporine in nature; outside of male, female, or anything in between while still being gendered. Niaspec - genders that are neutral in nature; aligned with neutrality but not necessarily genderless. Agender - genders that are nonexistent, void, blurry, or otherwise unrelated to gender (The link goes to a category of genders, not the page for Agender.) Xiaspec - genders existing outside conventional human categories of gender; xeno-aligned or xenic identities. (You may find more information if you just view the Xenogender page.)

All of the linked identities (minus agender) can be considered abinary, another word for genders outside of male, female, femininity, or masculinity while there is still some feeling of gender. It's also called "aphorian".

They are identity narratives. You could be masculine and your gender relative to female or feminine gender relative to male. These are also separated words, why could someone identify as woman/gal and not as female/girl?! It’s like exorsexist reductionism, identity erasure and macrolabeling supremacism. You can read more about these issues here (specially viabinary & ideobinary).

What is alibinary?

Alibinary is a word made from the prefix ali-, meaning other, and the word binary. I’m using this word because the system I coined has to do with how different people who are not binary have different relationships to the gender binary.

I think just using nonbinary would make this information hard to find and make this system hard to talk about, since there are many nonbinary systems already.

That said, I don’t think alibinary is meant to be an identity on its own here; please use alibinary system (or AS) when talking about the system, or “people who use the AS/alibinary system”, not “alibinary people” or “alibinary community” or whatever.

But ali is similar to allistic! Appropriation!

1. I’m autistic myself.

2. I don’t think coining new words based on prefixes or using words such as alias, alibi and alien constitutes any sort of appropriation.

3. Alibinary and allistic don’t even look similar.

What is this system composed of?

Viabinary, a word for those who relate to having an experience similar to a binary gender, while not being 100% that binary gender;

Mesobinary, a word for those who relate to having an experience of both binary genders, or to having an experience of being in-between binary genders;

Ideobinary, a word for those who relate to having an experience that does rely on binary or binary-related concepts, while not relating to have an experience that is similar of that of a binary gender;

Exobinary, a word for those who relate to having an experience that is completely independent of binary genders, or at least outside of binary experiences.

In the future, I hope to have more detailed posts for each of these experiences.

Isn’t it problematic/bad/exorsexist/binarist to have all of these based on the binary?

Since binary genders are considered to be the norm, at least in most Western societies, I think it’s fair to say our relationships to the gender binary may affect how we experience exorsexism, dysphoria, erasure, and so on. This is why these terms are the way they are.

If you don’t feel like they apply to your reality, if you don’t feel like sharing spaces with people with completely different identities even if you face similar issues in some ways, or if you are uncomfortable with this system, you are free to not use those terms or participate on communities based on those terms.

What about people with multiple genders? Or genderfluid people? Or people who relate to more than one of those?

Anyone is free to use as many of these labels they want, if they feel like they apply to them.

Someone may say they are mainly exobinary but also relate to some ideobinary stuff, or that they are genderfluid and experience exobinary, mesobinary and viabinary issues at different times, and so on.

Is mascgender a viabinary or ideobinary identity?

This system is based on what issues one is/feels affected by, not on what gender identity someone is. A mascgender person may relate to both, or to one of those, or to none of those; that may vary from person to person.

If you are unsure of what applies to you, you may want to read more on each of these terms.

Are there combo terms?

Not for now. If someone wants to make them, I don’t mind, but I think having more content for the system as it is should be more of a priority than coining more terms.

I want this system to be useful, instead of being just another set of identities and flags that people are like “oh cool” before moving into the next ones when the set is finished, with no one remembering which term means what one week later.

Is there a term for those who don’t fit any of these?

Not for now. If you feel like there is a specific set of issues that may need a word within this system (as opposed to something that may just be described as, say, neurogender issues, pomogender issues, aporagender issues or genderfluid issues), feel free to talk about it!

As for a term that just means “none of the above”, I don’t see how that would be helpful, at least for now. I don’t think you can manage to fit everyone who doesn’t fit into this system as people who face the same kinds of issues, and it’s not like anyone is being forced to choose between viabinary, mesobinary, exobinary and ideobinary, so if you don’t fit anything, I don’t see any reason to want to have a word for it at all. Most people don’t even know about this system!

Anyways, this system is not meant to replace any other sort of terminology. You can still identify as agender, lunarian, xenic, singularian, genderqueer, undefined, quoigender, apogender, genderflux, gendersylph, colorgender, nonbinary girl or whatever your other identities are, regardless if you use the alibinary system or not.

Don’t you think this system can erase certain issues?

This system is meant to bring up issues and discussions that are not taken care of if we are talking about people who aren’t binary as a whole, or if we are talking about issues within specific communities only.

This system is not meant to be a replacement for talking about more general or more specific issues.

We can still talk about aporagender issues. We can still talk about exorsexism. We can still talk about maverique specific issues. We can still talk about solarian specific issues. We can still talk about juxera specific issues. We can still talk about gender reductionism. We can still talk about bigotry targeting genderfluid people. We can still talk about hatred against xenogender identities. We can still talk about agender spectrum erasure. We can still talk about erasure of anyone who is not binary from transgender communities, or from “LGBT” communities as a whole.

Mesobinary is a term for people who feel like their gender identity and/or experience is related to both binary genders in some way.

It’s mainly a term for discussing the issues of having such an identity, while living in an exorsexist society that constantly tells/forces/etc. people to pick one binary gender.

You can read more about it and the system it’s in here, here and/or here.

Mesobinary, and other alibinary system terms, are not genders, or gender alignments, or ways to group specific gender identities. One can identify as mesobinary for being a man/woman bigender person or a man/woman androgyne, but one can also be a librandrogyne, an altefluid person, an ambonec, a millegender person, a genderfae person, a nonbinary person without further labels, and so on, and identify as mesobinary.

Meso means middle. My intention in coining mesobinary as such has to do with how mesobinary people are often asked/forced to “pick a side” between labels for men and labels for women, groups for men and groups for women, and so on, when they /do/ have ties to both of these groups, and thus they are in a way “in-between” those choices, regardless of their actual gender identity, or regardless of their actual preferences regarding those choices (man, woman, both, neither or in-between when that’s possible).

I’m using meso here to give people a starting point to remember this term. The same goes for exobinary, ideobinary and viabinary. These are just okay-ish prefixes, and not necessarily accurate depictions of the gender identities people in each of those groups use.

However, someone asked me (it’s on this blog) about changing the term or using an alternate term, because people who relate to being both men and women in some way while not relating to being “in-between” binary genders may think mesobinary can’t describe them accurately.

I talked with other people about this, and one of them asked me to make this post, separate from the ask, so people can see the context before responding.

I’ve seen a lot of people confused about how can they know whether they are mesobinary, viabinary, exobinary or ideobinary, if it’s not solely dictated by gender.

So here are some examples that might help:

Possible exobinary examples

⭑ Lyon is a maverique. Lyon's dysphoria makes them unable to decide on what kind of body they want, because they don't want a "feminine", "masculine", "androgynous" or "neutral" body. Lyon feels erased when people act like people who transition must be either transmasculine or transfeminine, or when people judge their presentation as masculine, feminine or androgynous. Lyon identifies as exobinary because they feel like they are completely out of the binary.

⭑ Allie is polygender. Some of faer genders are masculine or feminine, but most of faer genders are xenogenders, like caelgender, a gender relating to space, and gendoux, a gender relating to pastels. Fae feels like faer genders aren't acknowledged enough; most people who talk about them just do it to say they can't really exist, and Allie's local trans community has shunned faer for talking about faer "weird genders" instead of sticking to using gender identity just to define the body fae wants. Even if Allie has masculine and feminine genders, fae feels like the biggest hurdle fae faces is the lack of acknowledgement for different identities that don't rely on the binary at all, and this is why Allie only identifies as exobinary.

⭑ Yuri is genderless. Yuri identifies as exobinary and wants exobinary spaces because Yuri hates being gendered in any way, and even a lot of nonbinary-specific stuff acts like people can only be man-adjacent, woman-adjacent, feminine, masculine and/or androgynous.

⭑ Stela is a nonbinary girl. But ze is very political regarding hir identity; ze only identifies as a girl for political reasons, and would prefer people acknowledged the possibility of a world without the influence of binary genders. This is why Stela identifies as exobinary.

Possible ideobinary examples

⭑ Violli is an alteandrogyne; someone whose gender is androgyne, but a version of androgyne which is on a mirror universe/on a different plane of existence. Violli doesn't feel like eir identity is that related to binary genders and isn't comfortable with the idea that eir gender is just "in the middle" between male and female, but ey also doesn't see eir gender as completely independent from the binary, so ey just identifies as ideobinary within the alibinary system.

⭑ Giuli is a demiboy. He has a partial connection to the concept of boy, but he doesn't consider himself boy-adjacent. Giuli considers his gender to be a nonbinary mess, with some of this mess pointing to the idea of boyness and boyhood. He considers himself ideobinary because he doesn't feel close to a binary gender and considers his nonbinaryness more important than his boyness, but his gender relies on the concept of being a boy in some ways.

⭑ Jack is an antigirl/ungirl. This means xeir gender is defined as an opposite of girl. Jack doesn't consider xeir gender to be anywhere close to boy, just away from girl, and so xe has trouble figuring out xeir gender presentation and desired transition. Jack doesn't feel like xeir gender identity is free from the influence of binary genders, but also doesn't consider xemself close to binary genders, so xe identifies as ideobinary.

⭑ Wyr is genderfae, which means ver gender changes from time to time, but never to masculine genders. Wyr is sometimes a woman, or partly a woman, but a lot of the time, ver experiences genders that exist completely outside of the binary, such as maverique, neutrois or stargender, and sometimes Wyr is graygender or genderless. Ve also experiences feminine nonbinary genders sometimes, such as femgender. Wyr identifies as ideobinary and exobinary, since ve identifies with being outside of the binary and with having some relationship to the binary but not being close to it.

Possible mesobinary examples

⭑ Robin's gender is in-between woman and proxvir; a gender that is similar to man/male, but separate. To keep it simple, Robin just identifies as androgyne. Even so, zey feels like treating male and female as opposite universes that can't interact together in any way is invalidating zeir gender, and zey doesn't fit in very well with "fuck gender" jokes or "gender is not a thing" rhetoric. Robin describes zeir desired transition and presentation as transandrogynous, because zey wants to be in a state in-between binary genders, although zey finds it hard to find resources that don't equate androgyny with soft masculinity. Because of those things, Robin feels like mesobinary fits zem better than other terms within the alibinary system.

⭑ Jyoti is a neulier/gender neutral/femil/maverique polygender person. This means sie has many genders, and that one of hir genders is woman-like and entirely neutral, another is neutral, another is woman-like but masculine, and another is not male, female or neutral, but is a specific nonbinary gender that exists. Jyoti hates being seen as feminine and is undergoing hormone replacement therapy to be seen as more masculine, even if that means sie may get mistaken for a man. Even so, sie is not a man, and half of hir genders are woman-like, so sie would like to be able to participate in woman's spaces or identify with labels meant for women. This causes some problems, since people want Jyoti to "pick" between identifying as a trans man or as a cis woman, when sie is neither. Jyoti identifies as mesobinary because, even though sie isn't a man at all gender-wise and isn't much of a woman either, sie feels like hir experiences and struggles are close to those of people who are in-between binary genders.

⭑ Taylor is a man/woman genderfluid person. Taylor doesn't relate much to nonbinary-centric terms, such as diamoric or trixic, because hu is almost always either a man or a woman. However, hu doesn't think it's fair for hum to use terms such as sapphic or achillean on profiles since hu won't change those every time hus gender changes, and hu feels awkward on men-only/women-only spaces because people assume you can only be one and not be other the next day. Taylor identifies as mesobinary because, even if hu isn't "in the middle" between binary genders, hu feels like hu experiences similar issues to those who are.

⭑ Eri is a librandrogyne, which means voi is agender with a connection to androgyny. Eri wants voids androgyny acknowledged/respected, even though voi doesn't consider voidself as someone with a gender. Because of this, Eri identifies mainly as mesobinary, even if voi also identifies a bit with being exobinary and ideobinary.

Possible viabinary examples

⭑ Myriam is transfeminine. Myriam is generally fine with being seen/treated as a binary woman, but kit also wants kits nonbinaryness to be acknowledged, especially within nonbinary, trans and queer spaces. This is why kit identifies as viabinary.

⭑ Lex is a mutare, which means neir gender is always changing to something else. However, Lex doesn't mind being seen as a man in general, and some of the genders ne goes through are male-related genders anyways. Lex identifies as viabinary because even though neir gender identity is fluid and has multiple possibilities, ne doesn't like the idea of completely letting go from a binary identity and presentation.

⭑ Karo is a faesari: someone who's on the gender neutral spectrum, but who has a strong attachment to femininity. Gem doesn't really feel like a woman at all, but would like to be able to not care about being seen as a woman without getting or feeling invalidated for "not trying hard enough" to "look/act more nonbinary". Karo identifies as viabinary for that, but also as ideobinary, since gem fits that definition too.

⭑ Aldenir is a melle. As in, her gender is male, but not masculine at all; it's feminine instead. Aldenir considers her gender to be different from binary male, but related to it, and would like to be respected as a nonbinary person (instead of "just GNC") and as someone who isn't and doesn't want to be considered androgynous, neutral, transfeminine and/or a woman. Because of this, Aldenir identifies as viabinary.

Notes

⭑ The examples given are examples. Not everyone who is any of the gender identities listed will define them exactly as I have defined them here, not everyone who has those experiences needs to choose the labels or pronouns I've chosen here, etc.

⭑ These are *possible* examples because I want to stress there is not a huge pool of people who have defined themselves as exobinary/mesobinary/ideobinary/viabinary yet, these examples are all made up so I can show people what I am going for with this system.