#age30

5. Turning 30 is not the end. It's the beginning. 

I thought that at the age of 30 I had to have my life together. I was wrong. I myself had nothing together. I just started my career in health care. I was dealing with how to be a good mother and wife. On top of that I was fighting with my own demons no one knew about. 

It was the first time I had a clear view of what was going on in my life. It was like a new beginning. I had a chance to be reborn and take control of my life. I believe that my job was what saved me and woke me up. It shook me so hard that I awoke from my dissociation. I had no clue what had happened in the past but I was ready to start a new future. I became a hard working and passionate person. I am working on being a better mother and wife to my family every day and a better person to myself by going to see a therapist for my issues. 

4. Embrace yourself.

As cliche as it sounds, it's true. Being who you are and not what others want you to be is the best thing you can do for yourself. You may be weird and think differently but the best people are...MAD. 

I literally talk to myself out loud in public. I run around like a crazy person on crack. I even eat 3x my body weight. I’m loud, annoying, and a little...a lot bit of crazy. But my co-workers still love me for who I am. I’m also hard working, an overachiever, and very compassionate and kind person. I grew up with very little friends. No liked me because I was the angry short Asian chick. The only person I speak to from my past is my BFF. She still thinks I am loud, crazy and annoying but she still loves me all the same. 

3. It’s Okay to ask for Help.

My biggest weakness was asking for help. I was constantly on SURVIVAL MODE. I thought that asking for help was showing the world I was weak. I hated rejection with a passion. Asking for help was the worst way to be rejected. Especially by people who were close to me. I thought that if they said No I would see them in a different light and I would hate them forever. So, it was best to never ask. The reason for this is because I called out for help when I was a child but I was never heard or I was ignored. No one came to recuse me and ever since then, I knew I had to help myself. 

I was wrong. Of course, I was wrong. I finally opened up and asked for help. From my co-workers, my husband, and my friends and family. I’m seeking counseling. I learned how to trust others in my life and finally understand that people do care about me. Plus, they are always willing to help if you would just ask. Nicely! 

2. Everyone makes Mistakes.

It’s how you react to it that makes the lesson stronger. What did you learn? What will you do differently? How will you recover? All the things you ask yourself is what makes you a better you. A stronger you. 

I have made probably about a million mistake or more so far and I am still learning from them. (side note: my husband just calculated how many mistakes once a day would be 11,315 too funny!) I can’t name all the mistakes I have made in my life so far but I can tell you that I do look back at what I did. I take what I have learned and use it to my advantage. I am not very proud of what I did but I know better now. This will always be the first thing I think of when I have made a mistake in my life. What can I learn and what I can I do differently?

1. Have FUN!

Don’t take life so SERIOUSLY! Have Fun. Enjoy Life! Do what makes you Happy! These are things people say but we all know that it’s easier to say than do. It’s hard. Living with depression with constant thoughts of suicide is what most people deal with. I am one of those people. 

I am taking life one day at a time. Some days I enjoy life and some days I do not. I don’t expect myself to be happy every day but I want to have fun along the way. My best friend and I joked about my depression and dissociation the other day. How I can stare into space for a very long time and have no concept of time. She laughed and asked, “So, what have you been doing all week? Starting at walls?” I replied back, “Nope, just the ceiling.” in which she replied, “Oh wow, you really don’t get up!” and we both laughed at my issues but it was fun and really funny. Small things like that are what I enjoy out of life. So go out there and Have Fun!

వయస్సు30దాటిందా..! ..అయితే బీఅలర్ట్ …!! ఎందుకు ?

వయస్సుకు అలవాట్లకు సంబంధం ఉంటుందా …! వయస్సుకు అనుగుణంగా మన అలవాట్ల మారాలా ..! లేకుంటే ఆరోగ్య పరంగా మనం అనేక సమస్యలు ఎదుర్కొంటామా అంటే అవునే అంటుంటున్నారు… డాక్టర్లు . వయస్సు మూప్పై దాటితే .. అలర్ట్ గా ఉండాలంటున్నారు పరిశోధకులు . ఆహారపు అలవాట్ల నుంచి .. అన్ని మనం చేసే పనిలో జాగ్రత్తలు పాటించాలంటా. ఎందుకంటే 30 తర్వాత శరీరంలో రోగ నిరోధక శక్తి తగ్గుతూ ఉంటుందని పరిశోధన తేలింది. అందుకే 30 ఏళ్లకు…