#adhdadvice

What a legend 🙏🏼 Thank you u/beatadhd

One thing you younger guys, students in college or at school, young adult types, need to remember:

instead of focusing on -

the differences between you and neuro-typicals

the draw backs of ADHD

how frustrating it is that you are unable to function like everyone else

Focus instead on -

Understanding how your brain works

How your ADHD manifests

Knowing yourself

And know that you have many abilities that will give you an advantage over a lot of people

And try to find a future that suits you

A job where having adhd is a bonus, (I'm a head chef)

where being able to do everything at once at near light speed

Where being able to cope under pressure

Where being able to improvise on the spot with quick and concise (impulsive) decisions

IS A GOOD THING

Yes the drawbacks still manifest, you still get lazy when you're bored so FIND SOMETHING TO DO! Never be in a situation you could get bored of

You're not going to be able to sit at a desk

In a suit

Being quiet and reserved

In a stuffy office

Day in

Day out

So don't try;

You can't change how you work

But you can sure as fuck embrace it

Love it

Celebrate it

When I was younger I was so worried I would forever jump between my hyperfixations and settling on big things because of them only to be bored of it the next day. I can not describe how calm my mind has become since then. Kids, the patterns will come. Give it time. You’ll see through all the hyperfixations and you will see the common grounds. You will notice there are some that come back chronologically and you’ll find things that you want all the time, not based on the I want exactly that lifeTM.

I grew up in a village and always loved animals and gardening and I wanted to become a farmer when I was six. In the second grade we had to draw what our future should look like and I can distinctly remember I wanted to become a farmer, just like my godparents. There were times I wanted to live in the big city, NYC, London, Stockholm, Berlin. There were times when I wanted to have a grand mansion because I watched a show, times I wanted a cool apartment because I watched Sex and the city. And then I came around and began to remember what I always wanted in the end. I always had the calm, warm feeling in my tummy when thinking of the DISTANT future and that picture never really changed. I just never realised. I want to come home after sundown. I want to work from home, possibly. I want to sit on my patio and watch my horses graze on the pastures in the backyard in the last light of the day. I want all that with 60 and I want all that with 30. It took me so long to see what stays with me and what will go and this is honestly so hard. I noticed that my love and devotion for Harry Potter never left, neither did lord of the rings. I still want to live in Scotland for some time after being into Outlander. I no longer am ashamed for any music I like and it does not bother me to admit my fangirl side. I fricking love harry styles. I still root for one direction.

There are bits and pieces that you will take with you while others vanish. You have to listen a bit, for years, what the river of time will take with it. But I know what i want now, even if it’s not easy. I am almost done with college and I don’t think i want to be a teacher forever. That is okay.

But I would like to found a school one day. One that is for kids with ADHD and one that feels like home. One where kids don’t hate dragging themselves to.

I would like to work for Film some day. Maybe even writing something. A show. I would like to put my education in history to use and advise on historical correctness. I’d like to sew costumes.