#adhd parent

Computer how do I tell this man who’s used to being called lazy and childish by his own wife that it could all change with just a little capsule

Also I've somehow misplaced my kid's shell pants...

Spouse and I told her something along the lines of (paraphrased for flow):

You are a trained medical professional. Using that lens, look at your brother and sister, look at your parents, look at my brother, look at my parents. Look at all the relatives at the last family event. How many of us are probably ADHD or autistic and just never diagnosed?

me, attempt #17: mom, i think you have adhd. you know, like me?

mom: and that is?..

me: attention deficit hyperactivity disorder

mom: yeah, i think so too! i really lacked attention from my father as a child- *retelling her childhood story for the n×10³th time*

me: wait, that's... not the point...

mom: *zones out and returns to scrolling social media*

My Son, who is 9.5 years old, started medication on Friday for inattentive ADHD.  We started on the weekend so that he would be with us in case of any weird reactions.  It was also the start of a week long hockey tournament.  The difference was night and day. 

I always thought he was just an easy going kid with sport who didn’t really have the fire in his belly.  He was always skating behind everyone slowly-often no where even NEAR the puck.  if it happened to come near him it would startle him.  He would often be off in his own little world, seemingly dancing to a song in his head, dancing on the ice (or talking), sometimes with his stick blade upside down.  We were never hard on him for it, because it just seemed to be who he was.  

We started the medication for a lot of reasons, mostly school related.  It’s a long, personal story, but just know it’s been a huge struggle, i fought a lot to get someone to even assess him (and once he was assessed it was a no-brainer to the doctor he had it). I never imagined the difference it would make on the ice.