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Rocks? Yes

Altered speech patterns that explicitly define sentence type? Yes (statement)

World’s least neurotypical man? You bet

Stimmy alien? 🎶🎶🎶

Finding community among other beings that don’t have weird standards for “human” behavior? Uh huh

Edwina wanted to be a children’s fiction writer. She used to make up stories for her and Kate.

Kate got Newton as a dog for her stress. She noticed how calm she was around the puppy and kept him.

Pianoforte duets!

Kate got Edwina into philosophy and regrets it. That sister thing of pretending to listen when she’s arguing about Kant with herself.

Both 'adopt' animals that their parents just find around the house.

They both ride astride. Kate did teach Edwina to ride side saddle. But when Edwina is older - 16ish - she teaches her to ride astride.

Kate has been the queen of snark since she could start speaking, stressing her father because she has no filter and is probably why Mary fell in love with her as a child.

Kate and Edwina lie for each other. Edwina would cover for Kate when she would go for a ride instead of a fancy dinner and if Edwina wants to be with her books all day, Kate glares away anyone who could bother her.

tl;dr at the bottom

so today i was at the dentist and they saw that i take adhd meds. he said something like “your case must not be as severe as some peoples. my son has adhd and he is always bouncing off the walls. but i can just sit here and have a normal conversation with you.” 

there is so SO much stigma involved with adhd and it drives me insane. i’m so sick of the “10-year-old boy who can’t sit still” stereotype. this is definitely a way that adhd is presented, and of course they're struggles are very valid. but neurotypicals only seeing adhd through that lense is so harmful. first of all, adhd is NOT just a “kids disorder”. seriously with this one? every article you find is “my child has adhd how to fix?” or “does my child have adhd?” as if only children struggle with adhd. as if it will just magically disappear. i’m so freaking sick of it. next, it’s the lack of understand of the inattentive side of adhd. this most likely comes from many of the symptoms being more difficult for the untrained eye to pick up on. inattentive adhd isn’t “less severe” then hyperactive adhd or “easier to handle”. it’s just different! as someone who is primarily inattentive, people just seem to constantly underestimate the effect that it has on our lives. they don’t see that we spend hours and hours on a project, all they see is that we turned it in late. they don’t see that we have to actively focus on focusing, all they see is us not paying attention. we have to work longer and harder than our nt piers (i’m not saying we have to work harder than nt at everything, just many tasks that a nt would find easy and fast we don’t because of the way our brain works!), but since people can’t see that, they see us as lazy. “pay attention” “try harder” “look at the board” “are you listening” “look at me when i’m speaking to you” “it’s only a few problems”. these are things i’ve been hearing since i was in kindergarden. this goes for any neurodiverse person: you aren’t “weak” for using your accommodations. they are there to help you, to even out the playing field. i use all of my extra time every time i take a test. is it kind of annoying? yeah. but at the end of the day, it drastically helps me. school and our society in general can be very ableist, and just because you’re struggling with something that neurotypicals aren’t, doesn’t mean that you are “less capable” or “more stupid” than neurotypicals. be kind to yourself and don’t compare yourself harshly to a neurotypical who may be able to do what you can in a much shorter period of time. that’s not fair, because you have an extra barrier to work with. if you struggle with these things and feel unseen, i see you, and there are many others going through the same thing.

if you have primarily inattentive adhd, or inattentive traits in your adhd, or adhd at all, you are such a badass!

!! of course everyone with adhd is valid and a badass! and primarily hyperactive people are amazing and have some of these struggles and some different ones that i don’t fully understand i just wanted to address some things about the inattentive side. i also know everyone’s adhd is different, i don’t speak from everyone whos primarily inattentive and they won’t relate to everything i say!

*this is based off of my experience and research but i’m not saying everything here is a fact, i just want to start a discussion.*  

i realize that i just wrote an extremely long post about adhd, so here’s the very crucial tl;dr:

inattentive adhd is so valid and isn’t “less severe” then more hyperactive forms of adhd.

just because people can’t always see your problems right away, that doesn’t mean they aren’t valid.

you aren’t weak for using accommodations!

Me: Okay! Gotta do homework now.

Brain: uhhhgghh I caaaan't it involves READING!! I can't concentrate on reading!!

Me: Well what do you propose we do then?

Brain: instant gratification instant gratification instant gratif-

Me: NO

Brain: but whyyyy

Me: doing things we enjoy while procrastinating isn't really enjoyable, it just makes us guilty and depressed!

Brain: so... Can't work. But also no things we enjoy.

Me: Yes exactly!

Me: *wastes the day doing unproductive busy nothings*

Me:

Remember what'll happen if you don't eat, though. It'll only get worse, hun. Starvation is not something you should do to yourself.

Think of what people in a worse situation than you would do for the food in your pantry. Imagine how pissed off they'd be if they knew you had all this food and didn't eat it.

And above all, remember that it'll get better. This feeling only lasts a meal, and then it's over for the time being. If you'd just eat something you wouldn't feel this bad!