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The 4 types of narcissistic abuse victims.

Originally posted on May 15, 2015 It’s become clear to me that not all ACONs and abuse survivors are on the same page when it comes to their attitudes toward narcissists. Because we all are abuse survivors you would think there’d be more solidarity among us, but this is not necessarily the case. It seems there are four distinct types. In spite of things I may have alluded to in the past, I don’t…

“Out of the Closet: As a Borderline and a Narcissist.” (reblogged article)

Another ACON blogger who believed she was “just” a narcissistic abuse victim with C-PTSD and “fleas” has been doing some serious soul-searching.  This is what she is discovering about herself, and it’s like finding the world flipped around on its head–or walking into a house of mirrors. I’m reblogging this because it comes just days after my own “coming out.”   I can relate to everything she…

Upcoming guest post should turn the narc-abuse community on its head.

Credit: http://healingfromnpd.com/node/19 I am very excited to announce that the owner of the new blog, Living With NPD, will be writing a guest post for this blog. You may remember I was discussing this blog the other day — she is an ACON (adult child of narcissists) who recently discovered she herself has NPD. Up to 70% of children of narcissists develop the disorder themselves. I think this…

3 questions to ask yourself if you raised kids in a dysfunctional home.

Nobody’s perfect, and that goes for parents too.  There’s no such thing as a perfect parent. There’s something called a “good enough” parent though, which means that you are going to make mistakes raising your kids, no matter how much talent you have for the task or how well adjusted you are.  Children don’t come with instruction manuals, and some of the mistakes you make might even be pretty bad…

Envy is my worst character trait.

Envy, by Marta Dahlig, Deviantart I’m about to write a painful, bitter post. It’s about something brings me a great deal of shame, so much shame I hesitated writing about it at all. It’s about what’s probably my very worst quality. But my need to be honest on this blog (because it may help both me and others), no matter how ugly or socially unacceptable y feelings may be, overrode any misgivings…

While I wouldn’t wish narcissistic abuse from either families of origin or ex-lovers or spouses on anyone,  I’m grateful there are others besides me who have experienced it and that we have found each other.   If it weren’t for the Internet, that never would have been possible, and I’d still be reeling from the abuse all alone and wondering why no one else in the world could relate to my pain.  …

In the almost year and a half since I’ve been blogging, an interesting picture has emerged. I started to blog after I went no contact with my ex (actually very low contact since we have children) as a way to process having been a victim of narcissistic abuse, first by my family of origin, then by my ex. My focus for almost a year was primarily on my abusers, and my anger at narcissists in…