#8762

as promised.. oc stuff.. thank u @soremourn for asking about them 🥹🫶 here's the rly rough colors for their suits XD and some development sketches when i was trying to pin down their vibes!

more misc doodles and oc yapping under cut

Hi, sweetheart :)

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. Please, please believe that. Your body may be ready for a physical relationship, but your mind and heart probably aren't. That's completely normal with trauma. It took me awhile to be ready for physical things to happen in my relationship. I'm married now and we are so happy. I am lucky enough to have such a supportive and patient partner in life, and I honestly feel like it made all the difference.

It's easy to say that yes, this was one guy and not every guy is like that. Sure, and it's true, but how do you tell your mind that? Be gentle with yourself. Take the time to be in a relationship.. and be open about things that have happened to. Your partner will understand that you need to take things slow and when you're ready to take things to the next level.

Have you talked to anyone about what has happened? Even if it's a trusted family member or a close friend. It would help to let your fears out and work through them instead of holding them in and keep you from having the healthy, intimate relationship  you're looking for and so deserve, sweet pea. You're so worth it <3

Hi, sweetheart!

This is so true, and I should have added it in my answer. Too much water is harmful to your body and is a potentially fatal disturbance in brain functions that results when the normal balance of electrolytes in the body is pushed outside safe limits by over-hydration. Like lots of things, water is okay in moderation!

Thank you for sending this in, darling <3

Hi, love :)

I absolutely love it when our followers help each other out! Ya'll are so sweet. Different things help different people, and I feel like having lots of options and things to try definitely helps find something that works for you.

Not only does water help calm you down, but it's healthy for you! Thank you for taking the time to share what helps you, my dear <3

Hi, sweetheart <3

I want you to erase the thought of you being an idiot out of your mind! You aren't an idiot. I've noticed that when I really, really don't want something to happen, sometimes it does, and then I have to pull myself together and handle it. You're brave for coming here and talking with us, and since this ask was sent in several days ago, I'm hoping you have already gotten the courage to do what I'm going to tell you.

As women, when we get an inkling that we are pregnant, most of the time.. it's right. The only way to truly know is to take a pregnancy test. It doesn't have to be a fancy, expensive one. Most work the exact same way and come with two tests per package. If you've taken a test by now (I'm sure you did), your next step would be a health center like Planned Parenthood. Family planning clinics, like your local Planned Parenthood health center, have specially trained staff who can talk with you about all of your options. But beware of so-called "crisis pregnancy centers". These are fake clinics run by people who are anti-abortion. They often don't give women all their options. They have a history of scaring women into not having abortions. Absolutely no one should pressure you or trick you into making a decision you're not comfortable with.

I understand that this is a difficult process and very scary. Is it possibly to talk to a close friend or trusted family member to help you during this time? The decision to keep/end the pregnancy is entirely up to you, but having support can make all the difference.

Hey there, love :)

I'm so sorry this happened and you feel exposed. It's not a good feeling. Did the person say personal things about you that you haven't disclosed on your Tumblr, or did they just say they knew you in person? I only ask because they could just be bluffing and don't really know you in person.. in which case, they are probably just trying to get a rise out of you and don't really know you in person.

Sadly, Tumblr has disabled any relatively simple way to find out someone’s IP address. I don’t know of any way that does not rely on external tools. Here’s what I do: I have downloaded a Firefox Add-On called “IP Address Lookup”, which let’s me highlight any web-address and then check the IP and location for that site via a right-click menu. There are other add-ons that do the same thing, for Firefox and for Chrome, so I’m sure you’ll find something that works for you :)

Obviously, this doesn’t work for anons, though, since you don’t know their blog’s address. For that, you’d have to install an IP tracker to your blog, for example, statcounter. This will track everyone who visits your blog, I kind of think it’s quite a violation of privacy. Also, a lot of trolls use proxys to obfuscate their IPs, so you might not always get the actual IP.

I hope this helps.. and try not to fret too much, darling <3

Hello, love :)

We do have your three part ask, and it should be answered within the next day or two! Thank you for being so patient with us :)