#*mogai

“Xenogender (coined in 2014 by Tumblr user Baaphomett in a submission to the MOGAI-Archive blog, from xeno alien + ‘gender’) is a nonbinary gender identity ‘that cannot be contained by human understandings of gender; more concerned with crafting other methods of gender categorization and hierarchy such as those relating to animals, plants, or other creatures/things.’"

The problem I have with pansexuality is that it’s based off the incorrect assumption that bisexuality excludes trans people, and also that “unlike bisexuality” pansexuality is about the person instead of the body. Just another form of the homophobic/biphobic mindset that LGB people are sex obsessed but this identity is different.

But I can’t just stand by and watch as lesbians and gay men/boys struggle with their sexual orientation because of the pressure to not only be “inclusive” in their sexual attraction, but also the expansive label system that has been created which can easily guide sexually repressed teenagers down a path of convincing themselves they’re straight and “demisexual” instead of gay.

It’s depressing that people (particularly women and girls) are figuring out at 16, 20, 24 years old that they’ve been gay/lesbian this entire time but grew up in an environment where they were presented labels that can easily reinforce heteronormativity.

When you grow up in an environment where straight is the default and being gay/lesbian is now being called descriminatory you can easily repress your own sexual orientation with the logic that “Oh, I just haven’t connected with the right woman/man yet. I’m not gay/lesbian, I’m a straight demisexual.”

And that’s why the “how and when” of sexual orientation isn’t just unnecessary, but can also be damaging to the LGBT community.

The only sexual orientations I think are truly orientations and not just preferences are: heterosexuality, homosexuality, bisexuality, and asexuality.

I think things like demisexual are just preferences or personality quirks. I think pansexuality isn’t a necessary word, but it still fits with the definition of sexual orientation (since the attribute of attraction is sex/gender). So, I don’t fuss about it too much, don’t care a lot. The others deal with circumstances or the personality traits of the individual.

I don’t know what I think. I’ve flopped on the issue a lot, and because of that I don’t feel that strongly.

Right now, as long as you experience dysphoria then I think you’re trans. If you want to be called they/them I don’t really care as long as it’s because you’re legitimately trans and not someone who’s actually cisgender.

I think men, women, and those who are both are valid genders. I don’t think you can be without gender or completely removed from men/women.

I heard that it was made up in a fanfic. But it describes completely normal human behavior. There are so many ways we experience attraction, and there’s a significant amount of people who do in this way.

Demisexuality and the like are often branded as “alternative” sexualities. But they aren’t sexualities or alternative.

There’s been a word for the phenomenon of being attracted to someone when you get to know them: it’s called social attraction (or if you look on AVEN it’s similar to “secondary sexual attraction”).

We’ve studied it because it’s a common interpersonal occurrence in society. I’ve had boyfriends who I was socially attracted to before being physically attracted to.