Pressure from non-binary people to include them in groups specifically for women, lesbianism, and women’s interests wreaks of entitlement.
They’re not women. They insist they’re not women, and differentiate themselves from us. That’s fine. The problem is that they feel like it’s appropriate to insert themselves into groups and relationships that don’t include them.
There’s a lot of discussion about how it isn’t fair women are expected to put their needs last and be accommodating to other people even at the expense of our wellbeing and comfort. Yet we’re expected to placate the feelings of people who unnecessarily insert themselves into exclusive spaces made by women, for women, and for women’s interests.
I do not care if they feel “connected” to womanhood. It’s not about connection. It’s not about proximity. It’s about what you are. And they are not women, plain and simple.
To be frank, it’s not even about you! If you’re not a woman, women’s groups aren’t about you or how you feel. We don’t need to take that into consideration.
If you’re going to differentiate yourself from women, you don’t get to turn around and access the exclusive groups we’ve made for ourselves. Especially not when there exists non-binary and coed groups that do include them, that apply to them, and where they are welcome.
This also applies to lesbianism. Lesbianism is for women. If you’re not a woman, you’re not a lesbian. It doesn’t matter if you’re a 13 year-old boy who thinks he’s a genius because he “likes girls too, so that makes (him) a lesbian” or if you’re a 38 year-old non-binary person. You’re not a lesbian. You’re also not sapphic or a WLW.
This post does not exclude trans women. You’re women.
