AITA for applying parts logic to other systems when trying to give advice?
I'm part of a system that uses parts language and sees us all as part of one collective body/lived experience. This way of thinking has really helped us to cope and with our healing process! We've been friends with systems who all use people language. Some of them are really chill about parts language, but others have tried to (subtly and overtly) force us to adopt the people worldview, which is very harmful to our system and caused a lot of terrible outbursts and splitting. Therefore, we try to avoid using people language for our system, but we will for others!
Sometimes, though, when people ask for system advice, we will say things like "Remember you're all working together in one body, and you're all part of the same person" to encourage alters to work together and things like that. This logic has really helped us function as a team, lessen outbursts and isolation, etc, especially as we've separated from people who tried to push people language and logic onto us. But some of our friends have gotten mad at us for this, saying we're trying to invalidate their experiences and take away the individuality or personhood of their alters. I wasn't ever trying to do this, I was just saying things that helped me and that I thought might help them! Am I the asshole?
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