strip clubs and dollar bills

A homeless man just came into the club for the free buffet (it wasn’t busy so they let him in).

While he ate, he made sure to tip each stripper that went to stage $1. When I asked him why (he had $6 when I went up, and I was second). And he responded,

“Well, I’m here to eat. You’re here to dance and get paid. If I get what I want, it’s only fair you get the same.”

ngl this is not stripper territory anymore, this kind of behavior is beyond our job description. this is engaging in actual anal play and is no longer the very mild simulated sexual behavior and expression that defines stripping.

I don’t know what kind of glorification of the work conditions sweat shop workers are expected to dole out to keep their jobs. But no one outside the sweat shops glorifies the sweat shops and tells the workers there they’re liberated. Everyone knows a worker in a sweat shop is not consenting to their treatment in any real way. But women are expected to love the way men hate us. We’re supposed to bask in the whole fucking mess as if it’s all in our favor. We’re supposed to pretend it “liberates” us. And we’re just supposed to accept and understand that almost all men in the whole fucking world participate in this fucked up porn culture.

I was with you until you used that pivotal word, ‘but’, and now I have to give an answer that you probably won’t like.

Contrary to popular belief, many sexworkers are highly educated and intellectual individuals. It’s almost as if we’re regular human beings who are contributing and functioning members of society. Shocking, I know, but I digress.

Let me correct you. I sell a service, an experience, and my time; NOT my body or my very being.

Since you know my life so well; what, pray tell, do you think I should be doing? Tell me about myself so I can take some notes.

Since you want to be so technical, let’s get into it; shall we?

When someone pays for sex, they’re buying sex. They don’t suddenly gain ownership of a woman’s body any more than any other man who sleeps with any other woman does; but if that’s the case by your logic, then I sure do own a few powerful men.

If I sleep with someone, I don’t “give away” my body. Another shock, my body is no one’s but my own, no matter who I have sex with; I retain the right to do what I like with it, and to give or refuse consent as I wish.

Talking about selling a body rather than a service implies a permanent state of affairs. It leads to the belief that consenting to sex on one occasion means that consent is automatic from then on. If you haven’t caught on yet, then let me spoon-feed you and let you know that is a very bad thing to believe. I am autonomous when it comes to my body and my being.

So let me flip the script and ask you. Does your body and being belong to the person/people that you’ve engaged with?

And if you’re still under the misguided belief that I “sell myself”, then I urge you to analyze and determine whether you at any point in your life have ever participated in capitalism. I’ll make it easy for you and tell you that the answer is yes, and since the answer is yes, then congratulations! You’ve sold yourself, too.

Essentially what you’ve done is equated the services I provide to my actual being, which means you’re implying that’s all I’m worth. Believe me when I say that sexwork will get me to where I WANT to be and is my proverbial elevator up to the top. I’m sorry that you can’t understand that. But that’s okay.

Your question may have been well-intended, but I’m too far gone these days to really give much of a flying fuck about what anyone — especially a stranger on the internet — thinks, so I’m sure someone else will find it quite offensive.

But in a higher class establishment, people barely blink. Some still judge of course, but no one’s craning their neck to get a look of the mystery ho, or ogling like they can’t believe I’m holding his hand over the table.

Stopping at a convenience store to get some water for a roadtrip? The girl at the counter’s tryna ask me if he’s my father. 😂

But a 4 or 5 star restaurant in the business district? It’s “hello, what can I get for the lovely couple?”

Thank you!!! I appreciate it!!

My advice would be

Pls dont shit on strippers when explaining why you pole dance.

Don’t wear lotion when you go in HOWEVER please moisturize on a regular basis when not on the pole because dry scaly skin doesn’t help stay on the pole.

Don’t compare yourselves to others. See the beauty in your skills just as you see theirs.

Condition and warm the pole before you do crazy stuff

If you aren’t already flexible you will need to work for it and it’s gonna hurt. Locate videos on flexibility and active flexibility and do it A LOT

If you don’t have a pole at home but want to work on getting stronger. Core exercises help a lot and buying a pull up bar is super helpful and cheaper than a pole

Arnica gel is amazing for bruises and gnarly blisters you will get on your hand from static pole.

Eating bananas on a regular helps with muscle cramps

It takes 30 days to learn a habit so make sure to point your toes or it will be harder to remember once you get super into it

Everything you do on your good side, do on your bad side too.

Caffeine and anything high in sugar will make your hands sweat way more.

When learning beginner moves , remember to engage your arms and core.

When doing things involving the splits, ive found it helps to flex your muscles to get a better split and your legs look fabulous

Know your limits and don’t overwork yourself.

Drink ya damn water