“Labeling yourself as pan or bisexual doesn’t make your experience with homophobia any easier: homophobes don’t care and the hateful language will always still hurt, and there is a stigma associated with being bisexual/pansexual for men and women both within the LGBTQ+ community and outside of it.

We are not allies, we are members of the community. No matter who we sleep with or have relationships with, our identities are not defined solely by our partnerships. They are defined by our feelings, the people we’ve loved, and the full acknowledgment of who we are. There are bi/pan people who never got to date same-sex partners because they realized who they were in monogamous opposite relationships and that’s fine. There are many who have never had and may never have the opportunity to express themselves in this way. This doesn’t change who they are.

“Come on dream on, dream baby dream… ”