If i see another post from that person (i think they go by they/them, correct me if im wrong. They are a massive POS but i'm not misgendering them) with the Stella pfp i might scream.
Their takes are obscene,like is so glaring obvious they fetishizes lesbians, has a kink for thinking Stella would kick "Stolas's gay ass" . Yet they accuse Viv of fetisihizing gay man.
They are extremely biphobic too,their posts about Cherri are so disgusting i swear...
Plus don't think i forgot their redraw of human Tex... thank you for complaining about stereotypes and then you draw Tex super sterotyped... Hypocrite much?
I usually donât discuss people by name on this blog unless theyâve actively participated in harassment that needs to be called out, but Iâm making an exception here because the user youâre talking about has gone full mask off and is currently making posts about how Stella couldnât have abused Stolas while using radfem rhetoric as justification for their opinion.
Lin loves to use the âwell due to ~societal systems~ we canât consider Stella abusive towards Stolas!â excuse when it literally doesnât apply here. Itâs baseless intellectualizing that ignores basic facts about what we see happen in the show. Stella tried to hit Stolas. She attempted to backhand him across the face in a manner that the show all but states she has done multiple times in the past. I donât care how much you bring up misogyny or patriarchy or whatever the fuck, hitting your partner is abusive. Full stop. If Stella were a man and Stolas was a woman they wouldnât be fucking saying this, but because Lin is a diet radfem who thinks that women canât be abusive unless we exist in a misogyny-free society theyâll continue to peddle this harmful bullshit.
On the topic of harmful bullshit, how about some good old fashioned victim blaming!
So, Iâm gonna tell you guys a story. My aunt was in a relationship with a man for about four years. He was a huge fucking bum. He lost his job six months into their relationship and had zero savings to fall back on. He moved into my auntâs apartment and never got a new job while he was living with her. She went to work, paid all the bills, had everything in her name, etc etc. You could argue that she held all the financial power in their relationship.
He was an abusive monster towards her. He isolated her, verbally berated her, and once beat her so bad he fractured three of her ribs. Her final straw was when he held her captive in her own apartment at gunpoint for a full day because he thought she was cheating on him. When she deescalated the situation and finally got the police and our family involved he went fucking nuclear and tried to destroy her goddamn life. Itâs been years since any of us have seen him but the emotional scars run fucking deep.
According to Lin, my aunt should have just kicked him out! I mean, she owned everything. The apartment, the car, the furniture, her savings, all of it. If she kicked him out he would have been homeless. He had zero access to anything she owned. They didnât even had a child together. If she wanted to she could have left at any time!!!!
This is victim blaming rhetoric. Abusive relationships are complex and difficult to understand. Itâs not just about âemotional/financial powerâ, thatâs only one fucking topping on a shit cake. I donât know why my aunt stayed so long with that monster and itâs not my fucking business to know. Itâs my job to support victims of abuse when they decide to flee their abusers. Questioning them and trying to argue that they could leave whenever they wanted only furthers to shame abuse victims and make them less likely to leave their abusive partners.
This is the endpoint of radfem ideologies. Stolas isnât real and nothing you say about him can hurt him, but there are real people right now getting abused. Maybe theyâre men getting abused by a woman, maybe theyâre women with the financial or societal upper hand in their relationship getting abused by a man, maybe theyâre in an abusive relationship and see themselves as equal to their partner. It doesnât matter, because people like Lin will write this fucking bile and convince those people that theyâre not being abused. Or that their abuse isnât as bad as victims in other situations. Or that theyâre bad victims because they can âleave at any timeâ but are still with their abusers.
It actually makes me sick. I hate people who try to use the guise of feminism to push their victim blaming worldview. I hope Lin deactivates their damn account and never interacts with abuse victims in real life. Rhetoric like this has no place in any fandom discussions, ever. Stella isnât even a good enough character to pull this bullshit with ffs.