Studying and eating

5.3.17 - 31/100

ʚ 8th apr 2017 ɞ

hello people of tumblr! here is april’s 1st spread♡ inspired by iu’s through the night! oh hey orange turns out great♡ and if you guys look at days of the week carefully, yeah, i messed them up lol

i study because…

day 2/31 of #AugustStudyChallenge

4th February 2017

In preparation for the new school year I made some chemistry summary pages based off of the topics I learnt last year and I will be making one for Bonding soon :~) I am glad I did so as oour teacher said we won’t be going over these topics this year!

26th march 2016 : [36/100 days of productivity]

27 days until IB finals | 06.10.16

Hi Anonymous, 

This is my fifth attempt at typing a response to this ask. There’s so much wrong with what your teacher said that I’ve found it difficult to unpack it all without writing an essay, but in short: no, I do not agree. 

First of all, it deeply upsets me that an educator would say this to a young woman. It’s beyond patronising and reinforces so many damaging ideas. The idea that women should dumb themselves down for any reason; the idea that by your mid-twenties, you should by rights be so desperate for a man that you should be willing to do anything to get one; the idea that the state of being single is so terrible that you must get out of it by any means necessary; the idea that all men are unable to deal with intelligent women.

“Single and in my mid twenties” is a perfect description of me. I recently turned 25 and have been single for all but three weeks of my life – and I’m happy. I enjoy being single. I have the career I’ve always wanted and I’m happy with my independence. There will be people who don’t believe me when I say this, because the link between being single and being “sad” is so deeply entrenched in our society, but I promise you, it’s true. I don’t feel compelled to dumb down for a man (or a woman, for that matter). I know the pressure to do that exists – I felt and often succumbed to it at school – but now I’m an adult, and I’ve started to look at society’s expectations with a critical eye? 

Not a chance in hell. 

Some more thoughts: 

1) Men are not a monolith. It is ridiculous to suggest that all young men are intimated by intelligent women – in fact, there will be men out there who find their wives and girlfriends attractive because they are intelligent. Your teacher must not think much of them. 

2) Being single in your mid-twenties is fine. Being single in your thirties or forties or fifties is fine. Being single your whole damn life is fine. There’s this notion that at some point you have to “settle down and have a family” – you don’t. If you want to, that’s great, but it’s not a requirement. Let’s normalise being single. Let’s celebrate being single. Let’s not think that young women are abnormal if they’re not a relationship. (You know how we call men bachelors, but women spinsters? Yeah, that. Enough of that.)

3) Ask yourself a few questions: Do you really want to be with someone who can’t deal with your intelligence? How loving or real will that relationship be? What does that say about your partner, and how much they value and respect you? Do you want to spend all your time acting? What’s better: being single and yourself, or in a relationship with someone who doesn’t respect you and your mind? 

13/11/16 // 2:15 pm