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You don't have to date. You don't have to stop being friends. You can just keep hanging out. Self control and respect exists.

it reflects my own experience of finally accepting that im aromantic. I held onto the alloromantic title until I couldn't hold it anymore and im so much happier now that im comfortable being aroace. I felt like if I accepted my aromanticism there would be nothing left for me but no. I feel so free and happy now.

Here to talk about Baek Yerin’s “Square” since this song and its lyrics hold a very special place in my heart. I really love the lyrics of this song for but i saw a youtube comment saying it was a bit off, so again I’m here to talk about it.

Let’s interpret this song as Yerin being in her own “Square” kind of like her being confined in her own bubble, this will be connected to my own explanation throughout the song and will give a clearer picture to what I’m talking about.

Throughout the verses Yerin explains how she has a very complex personality and the person she’s pertaining to in the song can sometimes hurt her without noticing and not sense right through how she truly was due to her complex personality sometimes being indecipherable.

For the last lines in each verse I’d like to think they are metaphors of how she feels, the last line in verse 1 “I’m so so broke like, someone just robbed me” is a metaphor to how she has no one that can understand her in a deeper level.

For verse 2 the last line is “Was so so strange like, someone never loved me” it is connected to the line before it which is “You are gripping me without noticing was so so strange like someone never loved me”. This is again, a metaphor (this part is a bit confusing to understand even for me) in which the person she pertains to in the song has a hold on her (I think the “grip” she mentioned also has something to do with love) to the point where she feels like no one has ever done this before.

The chorus is what the person is telling her everytimes she’s going through her phases/stages of being “Blue”. This part of the song is actually really cute and sweet for me, especially since the person actually knows what how to comfort Yerin when she’s going through such times.

The Bridge is the part that I truly love. This is the part where she embraces and acknowledges the person, even though the person still truly doesnt understand her it’s clear that they are trying their best. “You’re the only one who saw my yesterday, thr one who knows I’m here alive today” is actually so powerful since even though she’s in her own “Square”, the person is the only one trying to get in and truly know what she feels, therefore the person is the only one who knows what she’s going through and the only one who also always knows that she’s still here. The last lines for this part are also really cute since she even asks for the comfort of the person and to say what she really means to that person.

That’s about it I hope you understood my interpretation, the lyrics of this song is mostly seperated from the other lyrics that it links to so by linking them you can have a better understanding to it. I’ll include the lyrics below for good measure.

[Verse 1]

All the colors and personalities

You can’t see right through what I truly am

You are hurting me, without noticing

I’m so so broke like someone just robbed me

[Pre-Chorus]

I’m no invincible

I have much memories of getting more weaker

Know I’m not lovable

You should know what you have to say

[Chorus]

Come on, let’s go to bed

We gonna rock the night away

Who did that to you babe?

If you’re not in the right mood to sleep, now then

Come on let’s drink and have

Very unmanageable day

Would you want me in babe?

If you’re not in the right mood to sleep, now then

Come take my arms in yours

I’ll be yours for sure

[Verse 2]

All the traces and reminiscenses

You can’t sense right through how I truly was

You were gripping me without noticing

Was so so strange like someone never loved me

[Pre-Chorus]

I’m no invincible

I have much memories of getting more weaker

Know I’m not lovable

You should know what you have to say

[Chorus]

Come on, let’s go to bed

We gonna rock the night away

Who did that to you babe?

If you’re not in the right mood to sleep, now then

Come on let’s drink and have

Very unmanageable day

Would you want me in babe?

If you’re not in the right mood to sleep, now then

Come take my arms in yours

I’ll be yours for sure

[Bridge]

You’re the only one who saw my yesterday

The one who knows I’m here, alive today

Comfort me, say what I mean to you

You should know what you have to say

[Chorus]

Come on, let’s go to bed

We gonna rock the night away

Who did that to you babe?

If you’re not in the right mood to sleep, now then

Come on let’s drink and have

Very unmanageable day

Would you want me in babe?

If you’re not in the right mood to sleep, now then

Come take my arms in yours

It comes with the assumption that sex-favorable = alloromantic which is not the case, and goes right back to the idea that sex is always romantic. Some sex-favorable asexuals are aromantic!!!

It places an unfair expectation on alloromantic asexuals who do not want to have sex with anybody and reinforces the belief that sex is essential to a romantic relationship

welcome to the phamily ꒰(˶• ᴗ •˶)꒱

inspired by ofc dan gifting phil the emo axolotl plush, this viral tweet by @catgirldjh and...my embarrassing rambly tags on a random post (i was having a moment)

I want to be love, i love love.

What I dread is the monogamous relationship escalator with all its steps and all its exclusivity wrapped in there. This expectation that if I like a person enough I will kiss them, move out with them, de-prioritise my other relationships for their sake, this idea that if i don't want to spend every day with a person then we are doing it wrong, the assumption that i will have children with them.

I don't want to be someone's entire world, i want to be a big swatch on a giant tapestry coloured by at least several people at once. I don't want someone to tell me "i need no one else".

And I hate how this being the message, directly or not, throughout my life has made me afraid of deviating from it too at the prospect of being "forever alone".

We have so many concepts that the average alloromantic person has never heard of. Concepts that make it so much easier to explain our experiences, desires and struggles to other people. They make it so much easier to exist as an aromantic person in this world. Of course, every aromantic person can decide whether they find these concepts helpful and applicable to their experiences. But I find it amazing how many cool concepts the aromantic community either came up with or took pre-existing concepts and made them our aromantic 101. I don't think the allos really get how being aromantic can fundamentally change your worldview. And to be honest, I think they're missing out because I think everyone would benefit from at least being familiar with those concepts.

Being aromantic is basically like this:

Aromantic shrimp colours are real.