I think too many compare Alicent and Rhaenyra and how they approach motherhood without truly giving Alicent a chance.
Because yeah out of the two of them Rhaenyra is a kinder and gentler mother, but saying she's a better mother off just that takes away from how different Alicents experience to motherhood is compared to Rhaenyras.
Cause Alicent never had a say on when her children were born or made, all of her children are products of rape. Alicent had no choice, on when, on with who, or if she is wanted more children. Where as Rhaenyra had a say, she got to chose when, with who, and didn't need to fear if the man shearried or is sleeping with will harm her or force themselves on her.
Then there's the fact Rhaenyra had someone to turn too for help raising her children, Alicent did it alone and in fear for her children. Rhaenyra had support and never feared for her children besides if they got to inherit or not. So one had someone to lean on and the other had to deal with a neglectful father who forced these children he is now neglecting upon her.
Also there is the fact that by the time Rhaenyra was birthing her FIRST child, Alicent was raising all FOUR of hers. While Rhaenyra was 19, a adult in modern standards and a woman who is well into her birthing age in the time of the show, becoming a mother, alicent was 14 young even for that time period, 14 was the earliest doctors or maesters in this case, recommended so the mother would live without many complications. Those two in its self is VERY different experiences.
So for people to act like Alicent and Rhaenyra were on even playing fields and can be assessed as if they are, is completely unfair.
Cause this is the Alicent who birthed ALL her children
And this is the Rhaenyra who birthed ALL of hers besides Jace.
So stop acting like their experiences are the same, stop acting like they should've both been good mothers. Alicent tried with all she could against all of court, while Rhaenyra had the mind of a adult and understanding of others for guidance. Alicent didn't so stop acting like she's the devil incarnate just cause she wasn't a perfect mother, she did her God damn best with all the odds staked against her, and to be honest I think she did a pretty damn good job even without all of it.