𝖜𝖎𝖘𝖊 𝖆𝖘 𝖆 𝖘𝖊𝖗𝖕𝖊𝖓𝖙,

huge shoutout to @sidebaxolotl for being the only mf in this city who gets me

sorry but if you’re a they/them woman who puts no effort into looking androgynous or masc or queer in any way and you wear makeup and nails and long hair and normal everyday woman stuff and you exclusively date men i just don’t think you’re LGBT. you’re literally just straight can you stop pretending

as a lesbian i find i have so much more in common with aroace women than with bisexual women

can't remember the last time i was so angry i cried

sick and fucking tired of how it doesn't matter how many great single people i meet and how many people sympathize with my situation none of it matters when the systems of society and family are built to exclude unpartnered people and everyone worships marriage and kids and that has to take precedent over everything else and i have to act like i'm just ok with the fact that it's my lot in life to be abandoned and never prioritized in any relationship because im just the single friend but also IM NOT ALLOWED to have the 1 kind of relationship that would solve those problems for me

sick and tired of every man’s testimony being about porn addiction

SIGH…… mother’s day is so weird for me because by all accounts i had a “good” childhood and a “good” mom but i struggle to think of a good thing to say about her. when i think of her i just remember all the ways in which i didn't measure up to her expectations, how i’d avoid her so i wouldn't have to talk to her, i never felt like i could trust her with anything because she’d dismiss me or talk about the things i confided in her to other people, i felt like she didn’t like me and her love for me was conditional on my performance or adherence to being the way she wanted me to be. i never really felt much attachment to her. i was an independent kid but i fear i was emotionally neglected. and i’m not sure what came first: if my independence fueled the neglect because it made her think i was fine on my own, or if i grew to be extremely independent at a young age because i learned early on that mom can’t be relied upon.

wtf is the church's (and the bible's) actual messaging for single long-term celibate adults. and i don't mean messages of love or validation or whatever, i mean like what are we supposed to do. because unless you're fortunate enough to be completely asexual, adult human beings are sexual beings. but the church's message is that lowkey we're just supposed to... pretend we're not? there must be something that i'm missing. what does healthy living look like as a single sexual being? the church just says 'give it to god' (i don't even know what that means) or quietly supports suppression and pretending like we don't have sexual wants/needs/desires but that CANNOT be the answer, because that's not the answer for literally any other issue. it just seems to me like we're all left stumbling around in the dark. seems like het people just hold on for dear life until they can just get married and everyone else gets nothing.

'just give it to god' 27 years in the church and im gonna be honest with you bro i have no idea what that means.

like it’s just not worth it anymore