I think it’s different for me in ways because I changed a lot, but I also went back to so many of the things I knew before, simplified many of my routines, and had a trial and error period where I was actively working on myself and figuring out what I wanted. I made a number of choices that were healthy and made sense for my lifestyle, financially viable, and sensible for my future, and while I don’t regret any of them, I do wish I had taken the time to gather a bit more information.

I took a number of months this past year to get myself closer to where I wanted to be again, and while I made some changes, I didn’t do anything that I’d consider to be drastic. The one thing I did was dye my hair color, but because I reverted back to my natural color, I wouldn’t consider that a major change. I also lost 30 pounds and really stepped up my nutrition and fitness, took the time to invest in my skin, and went back to refining the routines that I knew already worked.

I’ve been in the bowl for a year now, and for half of that time I’ll admit I was doing it wrong. I was picking all of the right men, but wasn’t acting appropriately when I was with them.

When I was in Miami recently, I hung out with a fellow SB and she told me how she wants a guy to buy her a car, pay bills, this, and that. She also told me when she was with these POTs she’s to herself and reserved. That’s exactly how I was when I first started, and exactly how you don’t want to act.

So, how should you act with your SD or a POT? Like he’s been your boyfriend for 3 years

Whether these guys want the girlfriend experience, a mistress, or something in-between, you can’t act distant, disgusted, or like you’re just patiently waiting for the cash and to go home.

I’ve had 2 SD’s: One I was distant with, and he gave me this advice and told me to “get in the game” - because, hey, this whole thing is a game. My last SD I was very affectionate with and it was a great, almost too emotional experience, but very beneficial.

I’m not saying succumb to a mans every need, especially if you aren’t comfortable in doing so, but read his profile and figure out what he’s looking for and what he needs, and give him just that.

Be affectionate, hold hands, touch him a lot, smile, wink, kiss, compliment him, play with his hair, and inquire about how he his. If you are sexual with him, spice things up, like telling him how bad you want him in his ear. Take an interest.

No man will buy you a car or pay your bills if you just sit there, look pretty, and give him the goodies. That’s very mechanical. While that could give you some extra money or have him asking to see you again, it won’t make him want to invest in you and see you regularly.

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Idk if these are available in the US or other countries but there’s an app called EVENTBRITE in Australia and it has all these events from clubbing to investor meet ups. Some are free, some you have to pay for.

I browse through them, looking for events where:

-there’ll be a Large turnout (tech events) or

-events pecific to an industry with high income professionals (investors! Whether that’s in stocks, bitcoin, tech, property.etc) or

-VIP passes are being sold (usually expensive, I just get the free pass but you’ll know there will be people there who will pay for the VIP pass. Those are the people especially to look out for.)

I say I’m from a startup (true) and pitch my idea to them as an excuse to start talking.

I recommend saying something along those lines- that you want to start a business, are looking for a job in that specific industry, want to learn more about the topics of the event.

They will be impressed to a see a young cute girl that is so hardworking and offer to meet up and give you advice. This is how you get in!

Make sure to dress nice. I’ve gone to some of theses events wearing jeans and sneakers and you look so out of place. Now I wear a cute pencil skirt with an off the shoulder top and it looks professional without you looking like a 90 year old.

Also a tip: most of the people will already know each other and will be standing together in a small circle. Just walk up to any of these circles with a space in between the people and introduce yourself to the closest person. Then turn and shake hands with everyone else. And bam you have successfully networked.

Trust me it really is as easy as this. Especially if you are on the younger side, people will appreciate that you put in the effort to come and help you (even though they don’t know your true intentions!)

My Uber driver once said it perfectly: if you smile and dress the part, nobody can say no to you.

I hope this helps and good luck!

Get facials and facial massages. Do your skin care. Stay hydrated. Get lymphatic body massages. Keep your brows done. Exfoliate your lips. Try different hair styles. Commit to a workout routine for 9-months. Depuff your face. Get Invisalign. Wear your damn retainer. Get 7-9 hours of sleep. Eat your collagen. Avoid sugar. Do mirror work.

 Thanks, babes. Don’t worry! You do not need to shed your morals, just your inhibitions. There’s no shame in wanting the finer things.

 For larger gifts: foreshadow. Send him a link to something and ask if he thinks you’ll look good in it. See what he says. Then: ‘So are you offering to treat me? ;p’ Maybe you want a phone or laptop. Lament about how yours is broken right now, how you’ve tried to fix it but oh it just hasn’t worked, has it? Then don’t touch the topic for a week or so. Then: ‘Baby, would you be mad if I asked you for a…? It’s just I’ve found such a good one!’ Your excitement is his opportunity to ‘save’ you. It becomes a win-win.

You want a bag or a perfume? Talk to him about designers, your love for fashion, engage him on the topic. Bring up that designer. ‘If I could have ONE thing from that line it would be…’ A week passes, don’t bring it up again. Then send him a pic of what you want. ‘Baby, will you buy it for me?’

 Just after the little niceties? Send out of the blue questions. ‘Want to give your girl red roses tonight?’ ‘Am I getting a box of chocolates for being so cute?’ ‘Hmm, seems like SOMEONE deserves a Victoria’s Secret gift card ;p’

 These are ways to gently extract gifts here and there from SDs that aren’t the wealthiest if you don’t want to actually take them out shopping. They’ve worked for me anyway.