can't keep a dead dog down

psst did you know midday showings of movies that have been out for a while are usually empty? :) and that if the movie’s loud enough nobody can hear anything else that might be going on?

Tiny bit of personal context, I'm transfemme (early transition) and have a.. surprising number of girls wanting me to domme them.

(oh also, if I have any follow-up questions, do you mind my DMing you?)

DMs are fine!!!

my advice is to practice making decisions without agonizing over them. 90% of the decisions you make while domming (what do we do next, should it wear a collar or a harness, can it cum now or should it beg more etc) are arbitrary. Learn to just decide. The more you think about every choice you’re making the faster youll burn out and get decision fatigue. If you realize you made the wrong choice, you can change it as soon as you realize. The most tiring part of domming is the overthinking. The second guessing. The “was that hot or embarrassing”. I can maintain my domme persona the longest when I can just say “whatever. I already made my decision. Time to move on”.

also, develop a list with your partner of things you want to do. “Fuck, what do I do now” was the main thing on my mind when I started domming. If you have your own list of options for stuff thats on the table you can go down the list in your head and select from it instead of coming up with things to do on the spot. Also, don’t be scared to just grab your sub and stare at them while you think of what to do. There’s no time crunch and the pause will make them anticipate something. Especially if you’re not talking, just looking at them and sizing them up.