Here’s some positivity for introjects of abusers!
As introjects, we often don’t get to choose our sources. Sometimes an introject can form who is based on an abusive or harmful figure, whether fictional or real. Life as an introject of an abuser can be confusing, painful, and scary, especially in a community where introjects of abusers are often cast aside or demonized for something they cannot control. This post is for those introjects!
Shoutout to introjects of abusers who have anger management issues! We promise your anger doesn’t make you a bad person - our characters are defined by how we choose to respond to our emotions, not the emotions themselves!
Shoutout to introjects of abusers who are attempting source separation! For many, source separation is necessary for healing and developing your own identity!
Shoutout to introjects of abusers who make conscious decisions to not follow in the footsteps of their source! Your choices aren’t going unnoticed, we see the good you do and applaud your efforts!
Shoutout to introjects of abusers whose source is a real person who traumatized the system, or even who caused the system to form in the first place! It can be terrifying feeling like you personally caused your system’s trauma, but you are not responsible for your system’s trauma and abuse.
Shoutout to introjects of abusers who have to deal with being treated as their source by others! Source separation is possible if you want it - just because many introjects are treated as their source in introject spaces does not make it true!
Shoutout to introjects of fictional abusers who are called “roleplayers,” “fakers,” or other hurtful names! Your identity as a fictive is not any less valid and you are not less of a system member because of your source. This includes fictives of villains and antagonists!
Shoutout to introjects of abusers who are feared or hated by other members of their system! It can be challenging to work through trauma responses, ill-will, or misconceptions, but it is possible to build trust and healthy relationships!
Shoutout to introjects of abusers who are struggling to change for the better, but haven’t given up! We know that positive change is a serious struggle. We see you, we understand your challenges, and we’re not giving up on you!
Introjects are sometimes demonized in system spaces, and this is especially true for those who are introjects of abusers. We want you all to know that we care about you and we believe in you! You are capable of change, you are more and better than your source, and we’re rooting for you in all that you do!
Please continue to take care of yourselves and your system to the very best of your ability. Remember it’s okay to ask for help, it’s okay to be vulnerable, and it’s okay to be open and honest about your experiences. We wish you and your system a future of hope, rest, joy, recovery, connection, or whatever your system needs in order to flourish! 💖
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