In Care of Relationships

10 Ways To Complain Less and Appreciate More

Written by Terri Crosby for In Care of Relationships

One practice that doesn’t work well in relationships — pretty much anywhere, any time — is complaining.

No surprise there, but why does complaining have such a detrimental effect?

If I’m complaining, my fingernails are on the personal chalkboard of the person to whom I’m complaining.  I might not consciously intend to be creating such a racket…

Help! The Honeymoon Is Over! Now What?

Written by Terri Crosby for In Care of Relationships

The beginning of a love relationship — ahhh!  It’s like a warm bath.  Everybody’s happy!  Partners sing each others’ praises.  The sound of the relationship is pleasant, melodic and beautiful.  There is plenty of purring, deep breathing (oh yeah) and sighing.  Things are looking up.  Life is good.  Getting to know each other is about discovery,…

5 Things To Remember When Your Fast Moving Train Derails

Written by Terri Crosby for In Care of Relationships

We’re sailing along in life, and BAM!  Suddenly, we’re off the tracks.  Whoa!  It’s messy.  There are consequences.  Temporarily, we’re a little worse for the wear and maybe others are, too.

My life is falling to pieces.

I’m sick.

I’ve fallen and I can’t get up.

I had a relationship (or fill-in-the-blank) and now I don’t.

Derailing or hitting…

Written by Terri Crosby for In Care of Relationships

This poem is credited to both Ernest Holmes and to Rev. Safire Rose.  Even by investigating the various entries on the internet, I can’t figure out who the author is.

So whoever wrote it, thank you, and it’s perfect for the beginning of a new day, new week, new year!

She Let Go

She let go. Without a thought or a word, she let go. She let go of…

For This Season of Indulgence and Influenza! Golden Milk!

Written by Terri Crosby for In Care of Relationships

All credit for this post is due www.healthy-holistic-living.com.   Their motto is “Simple Wisdom for Holistic Living.”

Golden Milk is a wonderful evening beverage and the benefits are extraordinary.

The main ingredient in this recipe is turmeric, which contains curcumin, the active polyphenol which exhibits 600 potential health benefits.

If you…

e e cummings: i thank You God for most this amazing day

Edward Estlin Cummings (October 14, 1894 – September 3, 1962) was a poet, painter, essayist, author, and playwright.  He wrote approximately 2,900 poems, two autobiographical novels, four plays and several essays, and also produced numerous drawings and paintings.  He attended Harvard and developed an interest in modern poetry which ignored conventional grammar and syntax, aiming for a dynamic…

The Biggest — Huge Deal — in Brilliant Relationships

Written by Terri Crosby for In Care of Relationships

SO many relationship-ish concepts, so little time.

But here’s one that matters.  And it matters BIG.

It has to do with how you perceive your partner, child, family member.

No surprise there, you say, but what else?

Here’s the question of the day.

As my friend, my mother, my partner, my whoever — Can you see me in this moment as I am now, or…

Test Your Food Smarts Against the French and Italians

Written by Terri Crosby for In Care of Relationships

In this wonderfully decadent season of “Please pass the gravy” and “Yes, I’ll have another piece o’ that pie, thank you!” it’s good to remember what food really does for us.

Food is medicine.  Natural food, grown in the ground is REALLY good for you.

So in honor of Thanksgiving leftovers and the beginning of yet another December season of FOOD,…

From Epicurious: The Procrastinator’s Guide to Thanksgiving

Written by Terri Crosby for In Care of Relationships

In honor of Thanksgiving, I’m re-posting something from Epicurious, one of my favorite websites about food.  If I need a recipe, this is my go-to site.

If you want a simpler Thanksgiving, here is the link!

The Procrastinator’s Guide To Thanksgiving.

Enjoy!

See you next week!

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Need A New Mantra? Try This One.

Written by Terri Crosby for In Care of Relationships

I’ve got a new Mantra.

And I’m willing to share!

It happened accidentally. Didn’t even mean to do it.

Here it is for your “trying on” pleasure:  I’M A NEW PERSON, EVERY SINGLE SECOND.

This means — basically, essentially, at the core — that we adopt the point of view, “Why not leave my baggage from the past in the past.  What about now? What…

Fall-ing Through Change, Heading For Winter

Written by Terri Crosby for In Care of Relationships

Every day, in every way the leaves are falling, swirling, plummeting past my window as winter approaches.   Yesterday morning, the valley below us was filled with mist, and hundreds of leaves were falling, down, down, down into the mist below.  It was surreal.  On one recent blustery day as I walked with Jackson (dog) on our country road which…

Dost Thou Protest Too Much?

Written by Terri Crosby for In Care of Relationships

Recently, I heard someone say how to live a happier life.

Ready?

The advice:  Give up any opinion that causes inner mental or emotional stress.

What-d-ya-think-of-them-apples?

Well, that really would do it, wouldn’t it?

Never have a feisty opinion…

Exactly How Would That Work?

So let’s try this idea on for size.

If an opinion of mine causes…

Coughing My Way To Enlightenment

Written by Terri Crosby for In Care of Relationships

I’m sure that’s it.

That must be what I’m doing — coughing my way to enlightenment.

Although I’m much better since the writing of this, thanks to the wonders of colloidal silver (using a nasal spray bottle), in the throes of the worst of it, I wrote just for a little comic relief — like if “life is rigged in my favor” as Rumi says, how could…

The Throwaway Question On A Longevity Study That Made All The Difference

Written by Terri Crosby for In Care of Relationships

Jeanne Louise Calment

The longest living human so far, whose birth date can be fully documented, is Jeanne Louise Calment from Arles, France.   She died in 1997 at the age of 122 years 166 days.  She is the only person confirmed beyond a doubt to have reached the age of 120 years.

Living a long time wasn’t the only rule she broke.  She smoked…

Got Your Underwear In A Bundle?

  Written by Terri Crosby for In Care of Relationships

Are your panties in a wad about something?

Knickers in a twist?

Uncomfortable?  Things not going too well today?  Something threw you off the happy merry-go-round?

Ahhhh, yes — happens to all of us.

Yep, there are good days, and there are days we’d rather forget about.

WHAT WAS I THINKING?

I had an experience recently that taught me really…