"trans men have privilege when people don't think they're trans men" imagine if we treated every other minority's oppression like that.
also at this point you're just telling on yourselves. if your only argument for trans men having privilege is that we have privilege when people think we're Not Trans Men, then you have literally just run out of arguments, gone round in circles and accidentally admitted that trans men do not hold systemic privilege.
if a person in a minority group only holds social privilege when no one in that social scenario knows that they are part of that minority then that is called Not Holding Privilege actually. and kind of applies to almost every other minority group ever, including other trans people. only exception I can think of off the top of my head is invisibly disabled people but that experience is very different overall.
TLDR: if you ever find yourself saying "people from X group hold privilege when people don't know they're part of X group", then you need to put down your phone, close the tab, and repeat out loud what you just said. S L O W L Y.
IT SHOUULDN'T BE!!! GET THAT SHIT OUT OF THE TAGS IT'S IMPORTANT!! THAT'S WHAT FRAGILE MASCULINTY MEANS!! ALL MEN ARE THIS CLOSE TO LOSING MASCULINITY, TRANS OR CIS.
trans men have one more thing to worry about than cis men (with a myriad of applications); if people find out they are trans, the masculinity breaks.
















