problematic rage gap. one partner tries to bring nuance and understanding to a tough situation. the other wants to blow up the earth about it.

watching my promised afternoon thunderstorm slip from a 90% chance to a 20% chance.... baby come back i can change

Best brain hack is taking “this too shall pass” and applying it in the micro. The panic you feel from an argument with a friend, wanting to get on your phone when you should be studying, the absolute obsession with someone you’re crushing on, pain from rejection, utter hopelessness at a situation that is not entirely hopeless. Heavy on situations that induce panic and incentivize you to act out of turn, maybe to send a text you shouldn’t be sending or to blow up at someone or whatever it is. The antidote to knee jerk reactions is literally just “this too shall pass” and allowing yourself to feel the physical manifestation of your extreme emotion. Literally just ride it out. Even for things that can’t immediately be resolved, it makes such a big difference and prevents you from reacting in ways that you would undoubtedly regret down the line.

The thing that truly fucked me was that I knew the plot of the book was something about a group of people having to stay in a haunted house, so when the movie opened with Vincent Price going “Mmm I’m hosting a party at a haunted house and if you survive the night you’ll get $10,000” I thought it totally checked out