I hate that, as an asexual, I will tell people that I don't care how much I love my partner, I will not have sex with them and people immediately go, "what if you really want to connect to them?" Because that's not connecting to me. Feeling like a blow up doll is not a fucking connection. It's damaging to our relationship. Sex is not a compromise.
It just sucks that every time I have to say that, the other person doesn't get it. And then I get in my head about it and starting doubting my life and who I am as a person.
As if loving someone means I have to accept that sex is going to happen vs them accepting that sec isn't going to happen.









