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treat people nice and they walk all over u

treat people bad and they hate u

no good choice, so - be an introvert. avoid all people

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dragon-in-a-fez

consider: teenagers aren’t apathetic about everything they’re just used to you shitting all over whatever they show excitement about

Teen: *gets a job*

“I GOT THE JOB!”

Parents: Well, when I was your age, I already had 5 jobs and was supporting my family

discowitchparty

Teen: *gets all A’s*

“I worked really hard!”

Parents: Well, of course you did, this is the expectation, not a celebration.

silver-tongues-blog

probably why so many teens take to social media where they can enthusiastically share their interests and achievements and get positive feedback that their parents never gave

moonlighteduniverse

A LITTLE LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK

This hit hard

rowark

I remember once, when I was in my early 20s, I was an afternoon supervisor at my job, and I worked with mostly teenagers, and the one day this one kid, who was like 15, was bored so I suggested he could clean out the fridge. He did and when he was done I said he did a good job.

After that, this kid was cleaning out the fridge at least once a week, and I was like, “why are you always cleaning the fridge?” Like, I didn’t mind, but it seemed odd. And he said, “one time I cleaned the fridge and you said I did a good job. I wanted to make you proud of me again.”

Literally, I changed the entire way I interacted with teenagers after that. I actually got a package of glitter stars and I would stick them on their nametags when they did a good job, and they loved it.

My manager had commented on how hard these kids work and I said, “they’re starved for positive feedback. They go to school all day then come to work all evening and no one appreciates it because it’s expected of them, but they’re still kids. They need positive feedback from adults in their lives.”

Like, everyone likes feeling appreciated. Everyone likes being complimented and having their efforts be noticed. Another coworker (who was a mother of teenage children), hated that I did this, and said they were too old to be rewarded with stickers, but like… it wasn’t about the stickers. The stickers were just a symbol that their effort was noticed and appreciated. I was just lucky that I learned this at a time when I was still young enough to remember what it was like to be a teenager. I was only 2 years out of highschool at that point and highschool is fucking hard. People forget this as they get older, but ask anyone and almost no one would ever want to go back and do it again, but they expect kids to suck it up because they’re young so they should be able to do school full time, plus homework, and work, and maintain a healthy social life, and sleep, and spend time with family, and do chores and help out at home, and worry about college and relationships and everything else, and then just get shit on all the time and treated like they’re lazy and entitled. And then they wonder why teenagers are apathetic.

zediina

For a german exam I had to argue against an article that was essentially „kids these days, they don’t care about anything and are constantly on their phones“ and really it was the easiest essay I‘ve ever written.

Teens don’t talk to adults bc adults only ask „so, how‘s school“ to then interrupt them two sentences in. And because they can’t engage in a conversation about buying houses and working in a bank. I would’ve loved to talk about philosophy and politics and history with family the way I did with friends and in class but because I was young no one took what I had to say seriously.

And no, teens aren’t always on their phone. They’re on their phone when they’re bored. You think I‘m on social media when I‘m with my friends? When I‘m talking about something I‘m interested in?

Maybe the reason kids are so distant and always on their phone during family parties and the like is because you‘re failing to engage and include them.

aromantic-goldfishdeactivated202

Whoop there it is

midwesternlikeope

When you respect kids, they really respond and learn from you. But if you treat kids like “theyre just a kid, what do they know??” then you’ll never find out.

imagitory

As a Disneyland Cast Member, I’ll add my own experience onto this –

Very frequently, when I first speak to a child while I’m at work, they’ll kind of withdraw and act uncomfortable and shy. Their parents will then rather frequently tell them to not be shy and try to coax them to talk to me – whenever that happens, I always, without fail, politely dissuade the parents from pressuring them.

“I’m a stranger,” I’ll tell the kid’s parents. “I don’t blame them for not talking to me – if they were anywhere else, they’d have the right idea, to not immediately trust me.”

I cannot tell you how many times I’ve seen that same kid – simply after hearing their initial reaction being validated, instead of reproached – immediately open up to me after that. I also cannot tell you how many times that child and I would go on to start a friggin’ marathon conversation, and I got to hear all about how great their day was or what their favorite Disney movies were or what rides they liked and didn’t like or how much they like a certain Disney character or song…all from me validating that initial feeling and showing genuine interest in what they had to say.

This isn’t just young children, either. I will always remember being positioned outside the Animation Academy one day and starting up a conversation with a young lady, perhaps 12 or 13, who joined the line with her father a full 25 minutes before the class was supposed to start. Now keep in mind, we do a drawing class every 30 minutes: there was no one else in line at that point, and no one else joined the girl and her father in line for a full fifteen minutes. So I could tell pretty quickly that this girl was very emotionally invested in getting a good spot for the drawing class: a conclusion all the more bolstered by the fact that she had a notebook under her arm. I asked her if she was an artist – she said yes, but seemed uncomfortable at the question, so I skipped even asking her if I could see her work, instead admitting that I myself wasn’t very good at art, but that I’m trying to get better and that I love the history of Disney animation. On the screens around us was video footage of different Disney concept art and animation reels, so I pointed one of them out (for Snow White) and asked if she knew the story behind the making of the movie. Upon confirming that she didn’t, I proceeded to get down on the floor so I could sit next to her and her father and dramatically tell the whole story of how “Uncle Walt” created the first full-length animated motion picture, even though everyone and their mother thought he was an idiot for even trying, and how the film ended up becoming the first Hollywood blockbuster. After the story was over, the girl’s father said that his daughter really wanted to be an animator when she grew up, and she finally felt comfortable enough to open her notebook and show me some of her artwork. It was wonderful! Every sketch had such character and you could tell how much work she put into it! And I could tell how much telling her that – and sharing that moment with her, where we got to connect over something we both really enjoyed – had meant. And after the class was over, she sought me out to show me what she and her father had drawn – and sure enough, hers was great! (Her father’s was too, really. XD)

People, kids and teens included, love sharing what they love and how they feel with others. You just have to give them the chance to show it.

moony-moons-world

A LITTLE LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK!

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I feel like I am obliged to add one more thing: don’t ever think that the kids won’t feel your unspoken judgements cause they do!

I felt always like a ‘problem’ in my family, until I was about sixteen, I got this teacher who was litterally the first to tell I was worthy. He changed my life up till this day.

Also how do grown ups imagine how ‘we’ will ever learn to engage in conversations with adults properly if you don’t teach us?

manifestingdestiel

This post is

Everything

branchesofyggdrasil

I told one of my new coworkers (who is 26) that he was doing really well and that I was proud of him and his progress. I thought he was going to start crying for how quietly he said “really?”.

Positive feedback makes the biggest difference to everything.

zarekarstudio

i’m extremely lucky that i’ve always gotten positive feedback and proper attention + engagement from my parents.

i can count on one hand the times i’ve gotten it from anyone else.

teenagers are so attached to their phones at school because it’s one of the only things we have all day that makes us feel vaguely alright

feral-gremlin-pretty-uwu

Zare why would you hide this nugget of glorious truth in the tags this is literally everything I want to say but couldn’t figure out words for it

silver-tongues-blog

the majority of the worlds “best” is average. Thats just how statistics work. you cant expect every single person to be above average because then the average would shft to be more difficult. we saw this in real time with the job market and education system. our generation has to learn so much more and jump through significantly more hoops to get ahead in life than the generation before us. so when the generation who could just walk into a store and get a job, a generation that had significantly less things to know about in terms of history and science, dismiss all the effort we put into our lives because “when i was your age i already did all that” its like. no. no you did not. its alienating and dismissive.

alexcraft760-deactivated2023120

I don’t usually read through whole long posts like this in the mornings because my brain can’t focus long enough nor can process long enough to get it all in, but this one? I made an effort to stay focused and process long enough to get to the end. This is- I don’t even have words for it. Just it’s awesome and amazing and I hope a lot of people see this.

Nyugalom

Eső. Az egyik hang, amely megnyugtat. Az ok, amiért szeretem az őszt: Az a sok színes levél, amely beborítja a földet, az avar alatt megbújó terméseket. A hűvös napok dobosa, az eső, a vihar. A szél nádsípja. Sokan ezekért átkozzák ezt az évszakot: én ezekért imádom. Szeretem akkor is, ha bőrig ázva, csontig fagyva érek haza, ilyenkor a forró zuhany felmelegít, majd egy meleg teával, pokróc alól csodálhatom tovább az esőt, a színeket. Szívdobogás, légzés. Az eső hangján kívül ezek nyugtatnak meg csupán. Az oka? Nem tudom. Talán annyi embert elveszítettem, olyan fontos emberek haltak meg, hogy az élet e kettő alapvető jele az, ami tudatja velem: van még, aki él, nem mindenki halott, nem vagyok egyedül. Bár ezt a magányos estéken, mikor ezeket a hangokat csupán az internet és egy fülhallgató biztosítja, nehéz elhinnem. Mégis, ahányszor ezeket hallgatom, eluralkodik rajtam a nyugalom, a béke, nem fáj semmi. Gondolkodom, de nem túlgondolok. Ébren vagyok, de alszom. Szükségem van ezekre a hangokra. Amíg hallhatom őket, nincs szükségem semmilyen gyógyszerre, vagy másra. Azt hiszem, a szívdobogás szükséglete nem teszi lehetővé, hogy vámpír legyen a fiúm :( (jó, ez nem illik ide, de muszáj volt leírnom xD)

#magyar #hungarian #nyugalom #szívverés #szívdobogás #eső #ősz #autumn #heartbeat #rain

Amikor itthon megkérdezik, hogy miért vágok ilyen szomorú fejet, rutinból azt válaszolom; elfáradtam.

Ez természetesen igaz, csak nem fizikailag, hanem mentálisan merültem ki.

#magyar #gondolat #fáradt vagyok

I made this for Halloween! It supposed to be Slenderman, but my drawing skill is not the best. I'm going to leave this little guy here

#balloons #creepypasta #slenderman #black and orange #halloween #kablood

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Happy!

I took my dog for a walk today. Not far from our house, there is a train station, what is quite creepy at night. It’s empty, suspicious people walking slowly, or smoking, drinking alcohol or energy drinks outside the waiting room, staring at you like they’re about to murder you or rape you. So, I only go there with my dog, because my dog is big, and those people don’t dare to mess with me, when he is with me. And as always, we were walking by the station, when I saw a cat. I looked closer, and realized, it was a fox! It was sooo beautiful! Altough I don’t know, how it came out so far. Maybe because the rails and the road is under reconstruction, so there are almost no vehicle these days. Anyway, I was happy to see a fox, and I wanted to share this little, probably useless information. I shouldn’t be walking around that place. Really, once I’m seriously going to get caught in some trouble there. I can’t help it, it looks like the places in the horror movies, and I love the atmosphere xD

#fox #train station #horrormovie #dog #walking with dog

My opinion

Today I came across some“Try not to cry - share if you are not cold hearted” kind of posts, and I really hate these. Why? Because this not decides, whether a person is cold or warm hearted. I can not cry on these stories, for the reason that I read them a hundred times, and sometimes they aren’t even that sad. Like, I didn’t cry on this one, and I got pissed. (I don’t know why, it happens once a month) I mean, in Hungary, there was a scandal recently, where a famous woman shredded a book. The book was for kids, it’s title was Meseország mindenkié (=Wonderland is for everyone) and it was a Hungarian folk tales recast. They put LMBTQ members in these stories, so there were gay marriage, and with transgender people. In Hungary, the government recently made a statue, with what they made the gender confirmation surgery (I hope this is the name of it in English) impossible for transgender people. They blamed the decreasing of the population. I was like “Man, you are making these stupid, hateful rescripts, of course LMBTQ people are leaving this country”. Anyway, back to the scandal: the book was trying to make the young ones more open to LMBTQ members. And the woman, who shredded the book, said that “Hungary is not a place for these aberrant creatures. This book is violently attacking our traditions, it shouldn’t be published” But hey, it is called Hungarian FOLK tales. It changes with the generation, because it spreads with parents telling these for their children, who will tell these for their children. These stories are owned by the people, who live in Hungary. Wonderland is for everyone. But sadly this country just can not accept this, because they aren’t able to change. Back to the start: I was raging so much about the scandal, I love everyone, why can’t people accept that some people are different? I’m not even LMBTQ member, but I do care about them. They are also humans, like everyone. We should care about each other more. So, if I don’t share a “Try not to cry” story, I am cold hearted, and just because that? It’s stupid. This is quite messed up, and I’m sure I have some mistake in my English, (or a lot :’) ) but I hope it turned out understandable. I know, it’s a small things, it just didn’t let me pass by. And, I’m curious, are things like this only in Hungary? I’m sure there are places where this topic is even more... *Google translator* blameworthy. So if you can, share some interesting stuff with me, I’m open to everything. Thank you. PS: I don’t know, if anyone will even read this, but it felt good to write it down :D

#lmbtq #hungary #myopinion #point of view #scandal

October

Me: *looks at date, smiles* Friend: What? Me: Look. It’s October. Friend: Aaand? Me: Halloween is coming Friend: *realise* No, no, no way, please no Me: *crazy smile* Friend: God save me from you Me: What’s wrong? Friend: You are going to tell me creepypasta stories AGAIN, showing me scary, weird pictures all day AGAIN. You are obsessed with those serial killers. You are weird Me: Thank you ^^ *happily sings Spooky scary skeletons* Friend: Why am I talking to you? *sighs* And she is still my best friend at school xd Yes, and again, please correct my mistakes, I’m doing my best

#creepypasta #amiweird #october #halloween #true stroy

Short story

I have no idea what to do on this site so I just tell some funny thing. Okay, so it really happened to me. A few years ago I was wearing only black clothes. Once when I was waiting in a bus stop a very old woman looked at me and asked ,,Who are you mourning?” I was pretty shocked, so I didn’t answer. I think I should have look around and said with a poker face ,,I haven’t chosen yet” I’m sorry if I wrote something stupid. I’m not good at English. You can correct the mistakes I made, thank you.

#shortstory #funn #funny situations #hungarian

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