Sparkle✨

(And like, I learned this the hard way through personal experience – holding it in and trying to be polite just caused resentment, and in the end it just caused a lot of drama. Granted, in that specific incident there were external factors so I don’t think even politely saying, “Maybe we should just agree never to talk to each other again,” would have worked, but at least I could have saved myself several months of spending time with people I didn’t like.)

You might have a toxic friendship if:

your friend complains or rants about something and you give them your undivided attention but when you try to complain or rant about something they hit play on whatever they’re watching as soon as there’s a break in your speech and then get visibly annoyed when you continue speaking and they have to re-pause their video

when they rant, your responses are caring and considerate but when you rant, their responses consist solely of “aw” and “that sucks” (in a tone that screams “pls stop talking”)

they refuse to respect your privacy and your romantic relationship, then throw a fit when you bring your SO around

they forget any time you make plans with them

they literally never listen to anything you say and can’t remember anything you tell them (to the extent of getting you a “gift” of something that you already have and spent at least ten minutes telling them about how great it is then say something about not knowing you owned the thing)

they somehow always forget your daily schedule even though it’s written very clearly on a white board that can be seen from across the room

they get pissed off when you don’t want to share every moment of your life with them (when they won’t even listen anyway)

they take things without asking

they complain about certain aspects of their life and you tell them exactly how to fix the problem, then they do the exact opposite and continue complaining

they literally lie to people’s faces just to fit in

they’re actually just a super shitty person, but can’t seem to figure out why you don’t want to tolerate them any more and why no one else seems to want to tolerate them

If you have a friend that’s a bitch to you, throw them in the trash.

If you have a friend that makes comments on things they know you can’t change, punt them across a football field.

If you have a friend that treats you like shit, toss them into the ocean.

I don’t care how long you’ve known them.

Being friends with them a long time doesn’t make them a good friend.

You’re pushing me away and I don’t know what to do. I care about you, I always have and I always will. Do you, do you care about me? You say you do, but then you ignore me. “I’m that way with everyone” you say, but there you are laughing, having a thirty minute conversation with another. When I try to talk to you, you barely respond; you brush me off. You’re someone I thought I’d know forever, but there you go slipping away from me. Although I’m fully capable, I don’t understand and I don’t think I ever will - because you’ll never tell me. Inseparable one minute, barely talking the next; oh, how the times change. I’d do anything to help you, and I’ve proven that. Once things got better for you, do you leave behind the ones who have helped you in the process? Is that what this is? You should surely be able to clear this up, but you won’t.

I’ve hurt my self to help you. I’ve made sacrifices to be there for you. Is that not enough? Is wanting what’s best for someone 24/7 not enough? I never asked for anything in return but honesty. This is didn’t even get.

So it’s been almost a month since you last texted me first to talk. And I realized that I shouldn’t have to question if you still want to be my friend or not. So our friendship is in your hands. Take care of it or don’t; I don’t care anymore. I love you and I’ll miss you and our close friendship but I’ve learned where I hold myself as a person. And I will never beg for someone’s attention, I will never force a friendship, and I will never keep myself in a toxic one-sided relationship. I’ve made the effort, now it’s your turn. I’ve shown you that I care, prove to me you do too. Nurture our friendship back to good health, if I really mean that much to you like you say.

I care too much about people. People take advantage of this. I get used; my feelings abused. Hopefully you won’t do the same.

There’s a chance you’ll see this but a very strong one you won’t (I assume you don’t pay attention to me as much as I do to you). If you do see this, you’ll know this is about you. I want you to see this, in fact I’ll be happy if you do.

Do what you want; it’s your life. But don’t you ever say I was the one who drifted away from you or that I was never there for you. I was, however you wernt. I still want to be friends, but a friendship can’t work if it’s only one way. At the end of the day, if you wanted to be my friend, you’d be acting like it.