Joey Hudson's Biggest Fan

only ever liking male relationships and calling a relationship with a women in it 'het slop'

'she's just not that interesting compared to [insert male character]'

only talking about female characters in a shipping context

treating a female character as an accessory or self-insert next to the male character

calling a female character toxic or bitchy for the same things that a male character gets coddled for

'if you want more fic/art/content about female characters/wlw ships make it yourself'

yuri but it's only genderbent yaoi

saying a female character 'deserves better' and then sidelining her completely

claiming that favouring yaoi is 'escaping misogyny'

a complex female character being used in fics solely as a yaoi cheerleader

female character's mental health gets ignored in favour of a male character's development

female character being reduced to a mom or sister character when they aren't related to x character at all

'her character was so underdeveloped' but then their fav is a man with much less screentime

'fandom isn't activism'

the tag about a female character being 80% shipping content

complex female character being called bitchy while an equally complex male character is adored and coddled

killing a female character off in fic

not listening when women in fandom point out something about the source material being sexist

calling a female character overrated

male character's sexism being excused because 'he didn't know any better/he's mentally ill/he didn't mean it in that way'

giving a male character/mlm ship the same traits that an existing female character already has; while not engaging with that character at all

female character in a straight ship being written ooc because the author only wrote the fic because of the male character

'mean lesbian' trope

'stop dictating how people should play with characters'

'it's not that deep'

canon sapphic ship has about 10% of the fic compared to the non-canon yaoi ship

calling women in fandom hysterical for being upset at how the source material treated a female character

go to discord support ( https://support.discord.com )

sign in or sign up (you do not, and imo should not, use the name and email you use for discord proper. this is a different account; if you've got Firefox, you can use an email relay mask very easily, and the email will end up in your inbox but the site won't know your email from it)

"Submit a request" (at the top)

fill all the dropdowns (I did "Help & Support" -> "Technical Support" -> "Account Settings" -> "[OS type"). it won't let you proceed until you do

Subject line: something about age verification

description box: keep it civil, but be clear. you don't like this, you're not participating, and you're not giving them your money anymore (whether you had nitro or not is irrelevant, remember that you didn't use your actual discord login to get here and they have no way to verify).

some reasons possibly worth mentioning: the insecurity of databases (Discord's had multiple leaks; databases being hacked isn't possible to prevent afaik, it's a matter of mitigation), the dangers of putting one's govt id on such a database, the technical problems people are already experiencing where it's already been established, how it will disrupt communities

be very clear that this is going to cost them money. "I won't use your service anymore" is a common threat ("I'm never shopping here again!") - you need to make them feel that they are losing money just by considering it, and it will get much worse if it's implemented.