Sir’s Property

Edging isn’t for you.

Denial isn’t for you.

Pain isn’t for you.

Anal isn’t for you.

Oral isn’t for you.

You’re also not a bad sub if you need to safeword, if your limits are different today, if you have chronic conditions or mental health struggles that limit you more than you’d like.

And also, because she has been discovering being a dominant with our time together:

You're not a bad dom/me if:

Humiliating others isn't for you

Hurting others isn't for you

Oral isn't for you

Denial isn't for you

Total power exchange isn't for you

Bondage isn't for you

And so on, and so forth. Being a dominant doesn't mean you have to be all powerful and all knowing. It doesn't mean you can't safe word out of a scene that you find uncomfortable. It doesn't mean you can't drop after a really intense play session.

Hi there!

I am a kink blog, but I am also a coping trauma survivor. I am in a lot of trauma communities (on a separate Tumblr account) but kink is not usually accepted and so I never mention kink and how it can affect my trauma and vice versa. Therefore, we (myself and a couple others) are creating a kink friendly trauma discord. It is meant to be a place that survivors can get support in a judgement free place. This space is open to all kinksters, regardless of role, so long as they have survived trauma (any trauma is valid.) 

We need this place to be safe, so there are a few rules after the ‘read more’. 

Please message me for the link! There are questions to answer at the bottom. 

Please reblog this so people see it! 

"who's my precious baby?"

"who's my dumb little pet?"

"who's my spoiled angel?"

"who do you belong to?"

"who owns you?"

April 17, 2018

This morning when I woke up and checked on Pip, I discovered that she wasn’t feeling well, and thought she might be (getting) sick. I was up early because I was stopping by to wake her up and press all her fun buttons, before we had to make our way to work. I sighed with empathy at my phone. My girl has been having a rough time on various fronts lately, and sick is what I was sure she didn’t need on top of it all. Immediately, I altered my headspace from one of Dominant, to that of Caretaker. This morning was going to need to be about comfort and care for my sick little bean, and not playing with all the fun holes. You know what folks? - that was just fine. 

I know all the subs out there are all about being good little service girls. They want to have the holes available for their partner “anytime and anywhere”, as the kinky adage goes. I’m here to tell you that it’s 100% OK that you don’t, and you can’t. You take care of us plenty, and sometimes it’s time for you to just be, and let your partner take care of you. It doesn’t make you any less of a submissive. Let that toxic guilt go. 

I know there are Dominants out there who don’t give a fuck if their sub is sick, if they are sad, or just simply not in the headspace to be of service. They will go ahead and dig into what was given to them anyway, sighting the agreement of submission over the reality of present circumstances. Shame on you. If your sub can spread those legs, take those licks, and care for you as often as you want, why can you not make some small effort to care of he/she who takes care of you and your every need? 

I spent the morning laying in Pip’s bed, letting her drape herself over me in various positions as she slept fitfully. Before I left, I made sure she had some medicine in her, and water by her bedside. She didn’t need much from me, just a Daddy who understood that the order of the day was being next to her in bed, holding her for a couple of hours while she slept, and not one that was focused only on themselves, and their own desires. Thankfully Pip’s Daddy knows that it’s not always time to play.  

Here is my latest blog post! It talks about the Wise Mind DBT skill which is useful for several situations. 

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