Sir Kenny

Every submissive person contains their personal Owner's Manual within themselves.

You have to get it from them, to be aware of how they work, and what uses they may have to you.

You access the Owner's Manual, by asking questions, and listening to your submissive partner.

Every Owner's Manual will be different, because every submissive person is different. There is no "Universal Owner's Manual For Subs"

As time goes by, and you consume more of your submissive's Owner's Manual, you will understand how to better care for your submissive, and how you may make the best use of them, for yourself.

Finally, never stop consulting the Owner's Manual, because it will change. Edits will occur. Entire sections of the manual may get revised during your ownership. Stay up to date. There is always more to learn.

What is it to be shelved? When a partner disappears from your dynamic for days/weeks at a time, and returns to pick it back up when it is convenient to them, you are being shelved.

What will happen to me if I am being shelved?

When someone builds strong trust and expectations with you, and then suddenly vanishes and treats you in a careless offhand way, your psyche reels, and struggles to come to terms with the dissonance between the love and dynamic you were promised, and the reality that you have become someone’s D/s booty call. I find the answer the psyche comes up with is, “I am not worthy of more than I am getting.”, and a gradual degradation of your personal value starts to take place. If you don’t have a lot of personal value to begin with, you are especially susceptible to being shelved. Without a partner to celebrate and engage you in your role, you will come to believe you must be a bad sub/dom. It’s the only explanation your brain has for the disappearances. “If I was a good dom/sub, they would be invested in me.”, is common psychology among people who get shelved.

How will it end?

You will be ghosted. To be ghosted is to have a partner disappear on you entirely, and never come back. Being ghosted often is the last nail in the coffin of someone’s personal value. It is devastating to have someone who convinced you that they would love and care for you abandon you. Yes I know they will ghost you. That’s how the script always ends. People tire of games, and like to move on to play with new ones. If you are a thing that can be shelved to someone, you are a thing can and will be forgotten eventually. I guarantee it.

The Irony…

People who shelve and ghost have a fundamental problem with how they view other people. Shelving is abusive. Shelving is red flag behavior for toxic narcissism and misogyny. People who shelve are ugly and broken, but suffer very little as they pick up and put down people and relationships.

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If you only pay attention to your sub when it is convenient for you, you are not a Dom.

If you tire of a submissive, and ghost her, rather than having an honest conversation with her, you are not a Dom.

If you view boundaries, limits, and the word “no” as impediments to your will to push past and degrade, you are not a Dom.

If you make a sub doubt and question themselves to produce an outcome that’s favorable for you, you are not a Dom.

If you think Dominance is all about having a relationship that revolves around you and serving your needs, you are not a Dom.

If you refer to subs as “broken”, or view them as a hassle because they have mental, physical, or emotional challenges, you are not a Dom. 

If you think that your way of being a Dom is the only right way to be a Dom, you are not a Dom. 

If you are having multiple relationships with submissive girls without them all knowing about each other, you are not a Dom. 

If you degrade your partner’s relationships to isolate them so that they don’t get opinions other than yours, you are not a Dom.

If you play or prey on girls who are under the age of 18, you are not a Dom.

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