better, not bitter

instead of watching the abuse on screen, we hear about it through the interactions between the wives. they tell us what happened, and in that way they take control of their own narrative.

rather than being voyeurs witnessing the wives’ trauma played out onscreen, we were an audience listening to their story.

“So instead of showcasing the specific treatment we were told of it, which is the contrary philosophy of most filmmaking (show, don’t tell)”

demonstrates a fundamental misunderstanding of the idea behind “show, don’t tell.” I would argue that Mad Max: Fury Road DOES show us how the Wives were treated by Immortan Joe. However, it chooses not to do so in the obvious way (which would be showing the abuse), but rather by showing us in other ways.

We’re shown the message the Wives leave behind: “We are not things,” from which we can infer that’s exactly how they’ve been treated for God knows how long.

We’re shown that they wear flimsy white fabric that leaves their bodies on display, unlike pretty much everybody else in the film.

We’re shown them using boltcutters to rid themselves of chastity belts, devices which pretty much exist solely to remove a woman’s ability to choose her sexual partners.

We’re shown rage from the Dag when, even though time is of the essence, she takes the time to run back and kick one of the discarded belts as hard as she can before running back to join the others at the War Rig.

We’re shown Angharad using her pregnant body to shield Max and Furiosa from Immortan Joe, because she knows beyond a shadow of a doubt he won’t shoot her or her unborn child because he still views her as his property.

We hear Furiosa’s “Remember me?” before she kills Joe, and there’s so much fury and anger in those two words that you know she was a Wife before she was an Imperator.

me: i cant

girl: i understand

abundance. financial security. new career. + benefits + salary increase joy. love. peace. confidence. purpose. spiritual growth. change. new opportunities. traveling. knowledge. reciprocity. creativity. passion.

that’s heartbreaking that you no longer feel adoption is the way to go and i hope you get your head back on straight soon. you can adopt a lab (russell’s aunt and uncle just adopted a lab recently), you can adopt a border collie (one of the volunteers from my old job has two that she adopted at 8 weeks old), you can adopt any breed of dog you could ever imagine at any age you want. there is no such thing as a responsible breeder when 2.7 million shelter pets are euthanized every year. there are too many dogs in this world and bringing more in is only ever irresponsible, there’s no way around that. i’m sorry you were irresponsible and adopted a dog before you got to know it’s personality, the rescue or shelter you worked with should have known better. but also, people who adopt and return dogs are the lowest - get a trainer. i wasn’t prepared for minnah to have all the issues she came with so i learned how to be a better dog owner and i stuck it out and worked with her for years. hopper ended up being way more work than we anticipated, i’ve never heard of a dog requiring more energy and time and patience. we gave it all to him because we adopted him and we owed him everything. no excuses. 

buying a dog from a breeder means the dog you could have saved gets euthanized. how could anyone ever live with themselves knowing that?

i dislike you, but when the time comes tell me where you live and what age you want and i will personally find a lab for you to adopt. anything to save that poor dog’s life. (although i really don’t think you have any business being a dog parent tbh)