Siddarth Sharma

Ideas and Tips

These tips may vary depending on what your sub likes/enjoys or doesnt like/enjoy.

Try taking these into consideration before anything else:

Always ask how they feel, does anything hurt?

Make sure they know they are safe and you care about them

Simply ask if they need anything, Reassurance? A glass of water? Cuddles?

Respect if your sub needs some space, doesn’t feel like talking, or just wants to sleep

After Care Ideas

• Holding/ Cuddling your sub

• Praising them: ex. ‘You were such a good girl’, ‘You did so well’

• Treating any wounds: ex. from spanking, rope burn, etc.

• Putting a cold/warm wet compress on any welts, cuts, or bruises

• Kissing any welts, cuts or bruises

• Running them a warm bubble bath

• Wrapping them into a warm fluffy blanket

• Massaging them

(w essential oils, sensitive skin lotions)

• Watching their favorite movies, shows

• Listening to their favorite music*

*preferably soft, calm music

• Giving them a treat they enjoy

• Carrying them where ever they might need to go

The Importance of Aftercare

Aftercare is not only very important but essential, for both vanilla and kinky sex.

Sub drop is how a sub might feel depression/anxiety or even considering their self worth after sex, especially BDSM/Hardcore Sex.

It is very important to be there for your sub as well as reassure them that they are safe, and you care for them.

This is also when you tend to any wounds that may have occurred during sex, like welts, bruises, cuts or rope burns.

DO NOT:

Immediately leave your sub alone or unattended to for an extended amount of time after sex! especially after hardcore/rough/bdsm sex scenes.

Leave any wounds received by the sub unattended to

Try to jump into some unrelated activities THAT CAN WAIT, without proper after care; ex. asking them to do chores, get ready to go grocery shopping.

Failure to comply with essential aftercare risks the trust you and your sub share and your subs mental security after sex,

1. First kiss?

2. First time masturbating?

3. First sex toy?

4. First kink tried?

5. First time doing oral?

6. First time having sex?


-Turn Ons

7. Biggest turn on?

8. Biggest turn off?

9. Quickest way to get horny?

10. Weirdest thing that ever turned you on?

11. Top 3 places to be touched?

12. Ultimate fantasy?

13. Do you like the idea of a three or moresome?

14. Do you send nudes? Do you like receiving them?


-Preferences

15. Sex or masturbation?

16. Spit or swallow?

17. Cut or uncut dicks?

18. Rough or sensual sex?

19. Oldest person you’d sleep with?

20. Loud or quiet partners?

21. How much foreplay do you like?

22. How much teasing do you like?

23. What is too big for you to take?

24. Do you do hookups or only sleep with a partner?

25. How much kissing do you like during sex?

26. What’s the most attractive part of the body?


-Location

27. Would you have sex in public?

28. Last place you had sex?

29. Where would you most like to have sex?

30. Do you like spontaneous sex, or do you need to be in the mood?

31. Could you go through with a hookup at a strangers house?


-Kinks

32. What’s your biggest kink?

33. Are you okay with name calling in bed?

34. Would you do any BDSM?

35. Do you prefer to tie somebody up or be tied up?

36. Do you like orgasm denial/forced orgasm?

37. Do you like overstimulation?

38. Do you like having pain involved?

39. Do you like biting/being bitten?

40. Have you ever been made to/made somebody beg for it?

41. Do you have any strange or extreme kinks?

42. Have any roleplaying preferences?


-Masturbation

43. Do you own sex toys? How many?

44. What do you masturbate to?

45. How often do you masturbate?

46. How often do you use sex toys to masturbate?

47. Do you masturbate with penetration?

48. Do you go for multiple rounds or settle at one or no orgasms?


-Oral

49. Do you enjoy giving oral?

50. Do you prefer giving or receiving oral?

51. What makes you orgasm the fastest when receiving oral?

53. Can you deepthroat?


54. Do you like playing with your clit? If so how do you prefer to do it?

55. What’s your breast size?

56. How often do you go braless?

57. Do you finger yourself?

58. How familiar are you with your g-spot?

59. Do you squirt?


-Sex

60. How often do you do unprotected sex?

61. How loud are you in bed?

62. Do you enjoy having nipples played with?

63. Do you like/dislike cum?

64. How good are you at dirty talk?

65. Do you get sleepy after an orgasm?


66. Do you trim, shave or leave pubic hair untouched?

67. How do you prefer partners pubic hair?

68. How many orgasms can you have in a day?

69. How many other people know your bra size?

70. What do you wear to bed?

71. Any funny sex stories?

72. What food if any would you use during sex?

73. Would you give somebody a sex toy as a gift?

74. What’s the weirdest porn you’ve ever seen?

75. Do you often get horny in public?

76. Ever used something that isn’t made for sex in the bedroom?

77. Have you ever walked in on somebody or been walked in on?

1. Are looks important in a relationship?

2. Are relationships ever worth it?

3. Are you a virgin?

4. Are you in a relationship?

5. Are you in love?

6. Are you single this year?

7. Can you commit to one person?

8. Describe your crush

9. Describe your perfect mate

10. Do you believe in love at first sight?

11. Do you ever want to get married?

12. Do you forgive betrayal?

13. Do you get jealous easily?

14. Do you have a crush on anyone?

15. Do you have any piercings?

16. Do you have any tattoos?

17. Do you like kissing in public?

20. Do you shower every day?

21. Do you think someone has feelings for you?

22. Do you think someone is thinking about you right now?

23. Do you think you can last in a relationship for 6 months and not cheat?

24. Do you think you’ll be married in 5 years?

25. Do you want to be in a relationship this year?

26. Has anyone told you they don’t want to ever lose you?

27. Has someone ever written a song or poem for you?

28. Have you ever been cheated on?

29. Have you ever cheated on someone?

30. Have you ever considered plastic surgery? If so, what would you change about your body?

31. Have you ever cried over a guy/girl?

32. Have you ever experienced unrequited love?

33. Have you ever had sex with a man?

34. Have you ever had sex with a woman?

35. Have you ever kissed someone older than you?

36. Have you ever liked one of your best friends?

37. Have you ever liked someone who your friends hated?

38. Have you ever liked someone you didn’t expect to?

39. Have you ever wanted someone you couldn’t have?

40. Have you ever written a song or poem for someone?

41. Have you had sex so far this year?

42. How long can you just kiss until your hands start to wander?

43. How long was your longest relationship?

44. How many boyfriends/girlfriends have you had?

45. How many people did you kiss in 2012/2013?

46. How many times did you have sex last year?

47. How old are you?

48. If the person you like says they like someone else, what would you say?

49. If you have a boyfriend/girlfriend, what is your favorite thing about him/her?

50. If your first true love knocked on your door with apology and presents, would you accept?

51. Is there a boy/girl who you would do absolutely everything for?

52. Is there anyone you’ve given up on? Why?

53. Is there someone mad because you’re dating/talking to the person you are?

54. Is there someone you will never forget?

55. Share a relationship story.

56. State 8 facts about your body

57. Things you want to say to an ex

58. What are five ways to win your heart?

59. What do you look like? (Post a picture!)

60. What is the biggest age difference between you and any of your partners?

61. What is the first thing you notice in someone?

62. What is the sexiest thing someone could ever do for/to you?

63. What is your definition of “having sex”?

64. What is your definition of cheating?

65. What is your favourite foreplay routine?

66. What is your favourite roleplay?

67. What is your idea of the perfect date?

68. What is your sexual orientation?

69. What turns you off?

70. What turns you on?

71. What was your kinkiest wet dream?

72. What words do you like to hear during sex?

73. What’s something sweet you’d like someone to do for you?

74. What’s the most superficial characteristic you look for?

75. What’s the sweetest thing anyone’s ever done for you?

76. What’s the sweetest thing you’ve ever done for someone?

77. What’s your opinion on age differences in relationships?

78. What’s your dirtiest secret?

79. When was the last time you felt jealous? Why?

80. When was the last time you told someone you loved them?

81. Who are five people you find attractive?

82. Who is the last person you hugged?

83. Who was your first kiss with?

84. Why did your last relationship fail?

1:When did you lose your virginity?

2: Rough sex or soft sex?

3: Do you have any unusual kinks/fetishes?

4: Weirdest place you’ve had sex?

5: Favourite sex position?

6: Do you like to be dominant or submissive?

7: Have you ever had any one night stands?

8: Sex on the bed, couch or the floor?

9: Have you ever had sex in a public place?

10: Have you ever been caught masturbating?

11: What does your favourite sexy underwear look like?

12: How often do you have sex?

13: Is there anybody right now you’d like to have sex with?

14: Do you prefer giving or receiving oral sex?

15: Most embarrassing thing that’s ever happened to you during sex?

16: A song you’d listen to during hard/rough/kinky sex?

17: A song you’d listen to during soft/slow/passionate sex?

18: Are you into dressing up for sex?

19: Would you prefer sex in the bath or sex in the shower?

20: If you could have sex with anyone right now, who would it be?

21: Have you ever had a threesome? If not, would you?

22: Do you/would you use sex toys?

23: Have you ever sent someone a dirty text/picture?

24: Would you have sex with your best friend?

25: Is there anything you do after sex? (for example, smoke, eat, drink)

26: Something that will never fail to get you horny?

27: Early morning sex or late night sex?

28: Favourite body part on the opposite sex?

29: Favourite body part on the same sex?

30: Something that you have hidden in your room that you don’t want anyone to find:

31: Weirdest sexual act some has performed [or tried to perform] on/with you:

32: Have you ever tasted yourself? [If no, would you?] [If yes, what did you think?]

33: Is it ever okay to not use a condom:

34: A food that you would like to use during a sexual experience:

35: Worst possible time to get horny:

36: Do you like it when your sexual partner moans?

37: How much fapping is too much fapping:

38: Best sexual complement you ever got:

39: Favorite foreplay activities:

40: What do you wear to bed?

41: When was the first time you masturbated:

42: Do you have any nude/masturbating pictures/video of yourself?

43: Have you ever/when was the last time you had sex outside?

44: Have/would you ever have sex in public?

45: Have/would you ever had a threesome?

46: What is one random object you’ve used to masturbate?

47: Do you watch gay/lesbian porn? why/why not?

48: Do you like oral sex? (why/why not)

49: How do you feel about tattoos on someone you are interested in?

50: How would you feel about taking someones virginity?

51: Is there any food you would NOT recommend using during a sexual encounter?

52: Would you rather be a pornstar or a prostitute?

53: Do you watch porn?

54: Have you ever been called a freak? Why?

55: Do you feel comfortable going “commando”?

56: Would you have a problem with going down on someone if they hadn’t shaved their pubic hair?

57: If you could give yourself head, would you?

58: Booty or Boobs?

59: Have you ever cheated on someone? (Why?)

60: If you were the other sex for a day, what are five things you would do?

61: have you ever watched someone masturbate?

62: has anyone ever watched you masturbate?

63. Have you ever had an erection and someone noticed?

64. What is your method of masturbation? (ie. toys, clitorial, prostate)

65. What is your bra/penis size?

66. What is the strangest thing you have ever put up your vagina/anus?

67. When was the last time you masturbated?

68. When was the last time you had sex?

69. When was the last time you watched porn?

70. Have you ever bought a sex toy? If so, which one did you buy last? First sex toy? If not, which one do you plan on buying when you do?

71. Guys:Circumsized?

72. Which not-genital part of your body do you like being touched?

73. Which genital part of your body do you like being touched?

74. Girls:Are you able to achieve orgasm just through breast stimulation?

75. Have you anonymously sent a sexual ask to someone on tumblr?

76. When was the last time you have had a wet dream?

77. Which wet dream was your favorite?

78. Is there a friend you would willingly have sex with?

79. Is there a celebrity/character you would willingly have sex with?

80. Favorite sexual position?

81. Do you like being called a slut or whore in bed?

82. Are you into any BDSM?

83. Have you ever wanted to have sex with someone but knew you couldnt for any reason? Why?

84. Do you like dirty talk?

85. Are you loud or quiet during sex? Masturbation?

86. Have you ever been inturrepted during sex or masturbation? Who/what?

87. What kind of porn do you like to watch?

88. Have you ever confessed to someone that you got an erection over them? What about masturbated to them?

89. Have you ever masturbated because your sexual partner wasn’t there when you needed them?

90. Have you ever had a one night stand? Do you still keep in contact with them?

91. Have you ever had a friends with benefits? Are they still beneficial?

1. Do you ever go commando?

2. What clothing do you wear that makes you feel sexiest?

3. What are your go-to clothes to sleep in, if any?

4. Do you have any hidden tattoos that you would have to take your clothes off for me to see?

5. What part of the body turns you on most?

6. How noisy are you in bed?

7. Does dirty talk get you aroused?

8. Top 3 non sexual turn ons not including appearance?

9. What is your favorite body part or physical features of the opposite sex?

10. Top 3 sexual turns ons?

11. What kind of underwear do they like to wear or have their partner wear?

12. What’s the 3 most sensitive parts of your body?

13. If you were to pick an animal that represents you in bed what would it be?

14. Whats a song you would pick to have sexy time to?

15. Do you have any fantasies that embarrass you?

16. Do you fantasise more about real situations, or imaginary/impossible ones?

17. Do you have sexual dreams? What are they like?

18. What's something sexual that gives you the "ick"?

19. Do you like to be dominant or submissive?

20. What’s your most unusual kink?

21. Have you ever cried or fallen asleep during sex?

22. Would you rather have sex in the shower or the bath?

23. How do you feel about watching a couple have sex? reversed How do you feel about a couple watching you?

24. What’s the most random, non-sexual thing about opposite sex that turns you on?

25. On a scale of one to Mount Everest, how high is your sex drive?

26. What’s your favorite time of day to have sex? 

27. Which do you prefer: rough sex or romantic?

28. If you could only have sex in one position for the rest of your life, what would it be?

29. If you could only choose between oral sex for the rest of your life or intercourse, what would you choose?

30. Have you ever devoted an entire day to sex and sexual activity?

31. If you had to choose one, would you have outdoor sex or car sex?

32. What’s the best sex you’ve ever had?

33. Would you rather have sex in a secluded forest or on a secluded beach?

34. Top or bottom?

35. Would you rather have hard and fast sex or slow and sensual?

36. Are you into role play? If so what’s the best role play you’ve had and one you want to try?

37. Describe a fantasy you think about often and with detail.

38. Are you into orgasm control/denial?

39. How would you react if someone ate food off you?

40. Thoughts on hot and cold play? (Wax, Ice cubes)

41. What's your favorite place to touch yourself that's not your genitals?

42. Do you use toys? If yes, what’s your favorite?

43. What’s your record for the number of times you’ve masturbated in a single day?

44. What is one random object you’ve used to masturbate?

45. Have/would you ever masturbate at work/school?

46. Where’s the most unusual place you’ve masturbated?

47. Has anyone ever caught you masturbating?

48. Do you enjoy watching porn or reading smut?

49. What is your favorite place to be massaged?

50. Whats your favorite pornstar or porno?

51. Are you a fan of foreplay? If so describe your favorite way to give/receive?

52. Does giving oral turn you on? Why?

53. Longest oral you ever given/recieved?

54. Do you enjoy deep throating?

55. Do you have a gag reflex?

56. Thoughts on swallowing cum?

57. Are you for or against facials?

58. Have you ever licked or sucked on someone else’s feet and/or toes? Vice versa.

59. What are your sexual hard no’s?

60. Do you enjoy anal sex?

61. Have you ever went into public wearing a plug?

62. Ever pee on someone? If not would you?

63. Are you a little/middle? If so do you listen to your Mommy/Daddy and what makes you turn small immediately?

64. Have you ever touched yourself with stuffies?

65. Brat? If so what makes you act up most?

66. What are your thoughts on bdsm in general?

67. What are your thoughts on dd/lg?

68. What are your thoughts on cuckolding?

69. Do you enjoy punishments and spankings?

70. Do you like biting? Are you a biter?

71. Thoughts on being choked?

72. Do you like your hair pulled?

73. Have you ever been tied up? If so do you enjoy it?

74. Are you into cnc? (consensual non-consent)

As a submissive, I'm often asked what type of submissive I am.  There was a time when this question really gave me fits. For the most part, I abhor labels. I find them too restricting, and I tend not to like being stuffed into a box, confined by the label attached to it. 

And yet, I've acknowledged before, and shall again, that labels can be useful at times. Since so many others tend to use labels to refer to specific traits, it's good to know, at least generally, what they mean. 

With that long preface, I'm going to address labels used to identify different types of submissives. 

24/7 Submissive

A submissive who lives the life 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, is based on total power exchange. This is when one person surrenders total control to another for an indefinite period of time. In a relationship like this the power exchange is super-imposed over the other roles that these people may assume; such as parent or spouse. One person is always dominant and the other is always submissive to them. Sometimes also referred to as Lifestyle D/s. Due to the confusion created by the name 24/7 and the application of this principle to dynamics in which the participants don’t live together, and may not even live in the same city or country, other names have been suggested as alternatives - Full Spectrum Submissive being the most recent. 

Alpha Submissive

Alpha sub is a colloquial term for the most powerful submissive individual in a polyamorous relationship. The term is only used in a polyamorous relationship where more than one submissive individual is involved or when the multiple submissive individuals in a polyamorous relationship are ranked according to a formal or informal hierarchy.  An alpha sub may also be known as an alpha slave. 

In current society, “alpha sub” is sometimes used to refer to any strong-willed female sub who holds a powerful job in her vanilla life, and is sought out by others in the community as a force to be reckoned with, despite being a submissive.  

Bedroom Submissive

There is a tendency in the community to look down upon those who consider themselves bedroom submissives or dominants, and yet many have started as exactly that - experimenting in the bedroom and keeping it there.  A bedroom submissive is one who is comfortable submitting to her Top or Dominant only in that venue, rather than a “lifestyle” submissive, or a submissive who submits beyond the confines of the bedroom walls.  

Brat

Brat is a term for the BDSM role of a bratty submissive or bottom. Unlike the common conception of a submissive, a brat talks back, misbehaves, and is otherwise difficult.On the surface, this is a negative quality in a submissive; however, a certain amount of “brattiness” is enjoyed by some Dominants, and may in fact be a large component of a power exchange relationship. It must be negotiated, however, as not all Dominants enjoy such bratty behavior. 

Collared Submissive

Whilst this is not technically a “type” of submissive, it is a term oft heard.  And so, I’ve included it for those who might not be familiar with the intricacies of its use or meaning.  A collared submissive means, simply, a submissive who has accepted a collar from his or her Dominant, accordingly, pledging a level of commitment to that Dominant.  In many circles, a collar is akin to a wedding ring. In this post-Christian Grey kink society, the collar has lost some of its power and meaning for some of the newer generation coming into the lifestyle, but it still tends to signify some level of commitment.

Digital/Internet Submissive

This is a form of LDR submission.  For those who argue that it’s not “real” submission, I simply say, you have no idea.  In this day an age, there are a significant number of relationships that exist primarily through the convenience of the internet or other digital means.  Certainly precautions must be taken by each party to ensure the legitimacy of one’s partner, the seriousness of the dynamic being formed, etc., but it is not impossible (as some might claim).  The hardships, redflags and pitfalls are the same as with any LDR dynamic.

Forced Submission (different from CNC) 

Despite the term, make no mistake, this type of submission is consensual. Some submissives don’t want their submission coerced or seduced from them; they want it taken, sometimes with brute force. It may be primal, but not always. With an attitude of  “Make me”, it’s about the Dominant proving they’re stronger and worthy of submission.

Full-Spectrum Submissive 

Also sometimes referred to as Lifestyle Submissive or 24/7 Submissive, refers to a submissive who, although he or she may not technically live together with a Dominant partner, nonetheless never drops out of a submissive mindset or role.  At all times, all parties in the dynamic maintain roles and responsibilities, encompassing the full spectrum of any D/s dynamic. However, there is no specific dictated shape to a full-spectrum dynamic, as this will be determined by its participants.  Therefore, the particulars of any full-spectrum submissive may vary. The one constant is that the submissive is serious about submitting, and the dynamic retains the same components of any other similar dynamic.  

LDR submissive

In our current “on-the-go” culture, and with the global community becoming ever more accessible through the variety of technology available in the ever shrinking devices we carry in our pockets, it’s no wonder that a large number of people are entering the kink community through LDR submission. Ignore the naysayers who insist that LDR can’t work; it can.  D/s requires hard work, a high degree of communication. So does LDR.  

There are a significant number of websites, articles and blogs that discuss LDR both as D/s and vanillas and how to succeed.  The key is communication, flexibility, and creativity. LDR can include a sub who sees his/her Dominant periodically as well as one who has never met the Dominant other than contact through the phone or online.  The options are as varied as D/s is.  

Lifestyle Submissive

Lifestyle Submissive refers to a submissive to submits on a level that extends outside the bedroom, and can encompass a multitude of levels up to and including full specturm or 24/7 submission. 

Little

Little refers to a submissive person, who role plays a younger age. The little is the little girl or little boy in a Daddy-dom BDSM role playing relationship. This person is dominated by a daddy (or mommy). The little may or may not dress for the part. They may also alter their voice to seem younger.  Some littles regress into “little space”, others do not. Some littles are sexual, others are not. The range is quite significant. The trait that is fairly constant is that a little tends to exhibit behaviors that are younger than their natural age behaviors, traits or mindset. Their Dominant is in the position of a Caregiver regardless of whether the Dominant uses a “Daddy” or “Mommy” title.  

A little wants or needs to be nurtured, taken care of, and, sometimes, be completely free of responsibility for a period of time.  The age range of a little can vary significantly from one in diapers to a young teenage girl.  

Middle

A middle is similar to a little, but roleplays someone aged slightly older - more in the pre-teen to teenage range, somewhere between 11 to 17.  While there are plenty of middles in the community, there simply isn’t as much information about middles as there is about littles. 

Owned Submissive

Similar to a “collared” submissive, this isn’t an actual “type” of submissive, and yet, is frequently used term and is therefore included.  An “owned submissive” is essentially a submissive who is “taken”, claimed by a specific Dominant, and is therefore “not available” to another Dominant.  

Pets and Furries

Some submissives will take on the characteristics of an animal, for example, a kitten, a puppy, or a horse, and the Dominant will act as a Caregiver or trainer of the “animal”.  The type of play involved can vary depending upon the type of animal and may or may not involve costumes, anal plugs with tails, collars, latex suits, harnesses, or any other acoutrements, depending upon the type of animal played and the play between the parties. “Furries” tend to wear full-body costumes, irrespective of sexual play. 

Pro Submissive

While Pro Doms and Dommes are much more common, apparently, there are some professional submissives. Generally they serve clients who want the experience of dominating someone but don’t have a steady partner. Or they need a second partner for a  scene with their submissive or bottom. There is negotiation and consent before anything begins. 

Service Submission

A service sub does not (necessarily) engage in sexual submission. On the contrary, service subs perform a variety of services for their Dominant, which can include domestic service such as cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. However, a service sub could just as easily do your taxes, mow your lawn, clean your pool, or fix your car. The key for the service sub is not the type of service but rather the feeling behind it — being of service and making the Dominant’s life a little (or a lot) easier and more comfortable.

Sexual Submission

A lot of submissives fall into this category. When it’s time to get naked, I’m the bottom, you’re the top, and I need you (the Dominant) to lead. Sexual submission might be taking orders and being of use. But it could also be more primal with some amount  of resistance and making your Dominant work for your submission. And, as always, it could be somewhere in between the two.

Slave

Some would argue that a slave gives up all consent in order to become a slave. I would argue that no submissive has given up all consent (not even a slave).  Otherwise it’s gone into the realm of kidnapping. There has to be consent for a power exchange to exist. And like any other form of submission, there’s a spectrum in being a slave. Some want to be and are extremely micromanaged. Details like when and what to eat, when to use the bathroom, and whether and when to speak are decided by their Master. Other slaves may have a slave heart but their outward actions may look quite different Slaves tend to give up even more control to their Dominant partner than other types of submissives do.

Smart-Assed Masochist (SAM)

There is another level though, called Smart-Assed Masochists.  According to The Submissive Guide, “submissive who exhibits bad behavior (such as sarcasm, talking back, or disobedience), either because her Dom enjoys it or to get attention.”  It’s not even clear that SAMS are all masochists, but they’re definitely brats, trying to provoke their Dominant. Some SAMs are driven by the punishment, others by the pain.  

As I wrote this, I kept thinking of new “submissive types” to add.  Did I miss yours? Feel free to add a comment if I did, with a short description of it!  

I completed some major changes to the Library For Kinksters. Here is the update…

Aftercare

Aftercare 101

Aftercare For Dominants

Coping With Emotional Subdrop

Dom Drop

How To Make A Sub Drop Kit

Online Aftercare

sub/Dom Space, sub/Dom Drop and Aftercare

Subdrop and Aftercare

Subspace and Aftercare

Consent

Consent & BDSM

Guide to Consent

Doms, Daddies & Masters

7 Fundamental Characteristics of A Daddy Dom

12 Characteristics Of An Ideal Submissive

25 Things Daddies Should Do For Their Littles

30 Rules For A Modern Gentleman

45 Things A Girl Wants, But Won’t Ask For

50 Rules for Daddies

100 Sweet Things You Can Do For Your Princess

101 Things To Do To Make Your Slave Feel Owned (loved)

Alternative Names For “Daddy”

Alternative Domme Titles

Aspects Of Control

Asserting Ownership - Rules

Daddy Up!

Defining A Daddy Dom

Dominants Need Training Also

Fun Tasks Daddies Can Give Their Littles

Help For New Doms

How (and Why) To Go Down On Your Submissive

How To Be A Good Dominant

How to Find a Submissive

Knowing when to be a Dom and when to be her Man

New to DDLG - A Daddy Dom

Observations On Doms By A Submissive

So you want to be a Dom?

So Your Girlfriend Wants You To Dominate her

Some Little Rules All Daddies Should Know

The Dom Commandments

Things for Daddies to Keep in Mind

What Being A Dom Is About - A Submissive’s Perspective

What does the title Daddy mean?

What is a Daddy Dom?

What is a Daddy Dom Mentor?

What It Means To Be A Dominant

What Makes A Good Dominant

Littles, Subs & Slaves

6 Questions Every Submissive Needs To Ask Her Potential Dominant

7 Common Types of Submissives

10 Tips For Living With A Sadist

10 Things A Dominant Needs From A Submissive

11 Red Flags Of An Abusive Dominant

26 Baby Girl Jobs

50 Things You Can Do For Your Daddy

A Bottom’s Responsibility

A Dominant’s Advice To His Submissive

A Man Who Knows You…

A Good Dom vs. A Bad Dom

Acid Test For Subs

Ask A Million And One Questions

Attraction to DD/lg: A Little’s Perspective

Baby girl or little? A brief introduction

Care and feeding of Daddies

Characteristics Of A Good Daddy

Coaxing The Daddy Dom Out Of Your Partner

Feminist Submissive

Finding Your Dominant

Good Rules For Middles and Littles To Live By

Guide For Young Newbie Sub Girls

How a Dom Behaves Shows How He Will Behave Towards You.

“How do I find Daddy?” A guide to help you safely find the Daddy you’re looking for.

How Does A Submissive Ask for Something from Their Dominant?

How To Find A Dom

How to Take Proper Care of Your Dom

I Solemnly Swear I Will Not Do This To Daddy

Novice Submissives

Physical abuse of littles - it is never OK

Signs Of A Fake ‘Dominant’

Stuff no one tells you about submission, until the spreader bar is on and you are trapped.

Submissives, Learning to Trust Your Instincts

Submissive Pride

Submissive Traits - Intelligence

Things My Dream Daddy Would Say To Me

What is a Little?

When newbie subs, with asinine “doms,” need to run away.

Why I call him Daddy

Your Rights As A Submissive

Long Distance Relationships

10 Ways To Survive A Long Distance Relationship

Getting The Most Out Of A Long Distance Relationship

How To Make Long Distance Relationships Work

Long Distance Relationships - Tools To Cope

Long Distance Relationships (LDR) Contemplation: Sticking with plans

The Long Distance D/s Relationship

Mental Health

BDSM practitioners ‘healthier and less neurotic’ than ‘vanilla’ peers

Body image & BDSM

How to Get Over Feeling Sad

Is BDSM normal?

Love your Vulva – a self-esteem guide to your sensitive bits!

Managing bipolar disorder in a D/S relationship

Meditation And Mindfulness

On Cutting

Steps For Letting Go of Painful Memories

Things to Do When You’re Anxious, Scared, or Just Need a Distraction

Tips for Recovering from Codependency

What Are Anxiety Disorders? (Infographic)

Why Do I Feel Unloveable?

Relationships

10 Habits of Happy Couples

10 Top Communication Mistakes

10 Types of Emotional Manipulators

12 Relationship Truths We Often Forget

50 Best Ways To Say “I Love You”

BDSM Breakups: All Good Things Must Come to an End

BDSM: Control Goes Both Ways

Collars and Collaring - A Personal Perspective

Communication Is Key

Concept Daddy Dom/Little Girl Relationships

Daddy Doms and their little girls

Daddy Doms, Baby Girls, Little Boys And More

Date Night In A Jar

DD/lg In Public

D/s and Domestication

Factors That Make A Relationship

Finding Love When You Least Expect It

Finding Others with Common (Adult) Interests

How To Be Present In Your Relationships

How To Build A Healthy Relationship

How To Get What You Want In A Relationship

How To Know When You’ve Found “The One”

How To Take Your Relationship To The Next Level

Importance Of Confidence In RelationshipsImportance Of Trust In A Relationship

Key Ingredients of a Happy and Healthy Relationship

Needy Girls Are Daddy Dom Bait

Relationship Advice To Follow, And What To Ignore

Searching for a D/s partner?

Self-Fulfilling Prophecies In Relationships

Stop Arguments Before They Start

The Rewards of a Submissive

Types Of Relationship Insecurity

Well-Balanced Power Exchange Relationship

What Is Real Love?

When He Doesn’t Call

Why Love Makes A Night Of Kink Even Better

Safety

Another life ruined because of the morality police

Bondage Basic Safety: Crops, Paddles & Bondage!

Kinks, Risks, How To And Why Sometimes You Shouldn’t

Limits in BDSM

What is Emotional Abuse?

Self Improvement

10 Tips for Creating a Happier Life

10 Steps To Self Care

10 Ways To Be Happy

10 Truths To Live By

Guaranteed Ways To Be More Attractive

How to be Yourself

How To Deal With Your Enemies

How To Ignore Haters

How to Recognize a Toxic Friend

How to Stop Being a People Pleaser

Slut Shaming Explained

Tips for Healing a Broken Heart

What are the Signs of a Jealous Friend?

Sex

50 Cunnilingus Tips from Women

Basics of Breath Play

D/s or Kinky Sex?

Fetishes Explained

How To Make A Girl Squirt

How To Tell Your Son About Sex

Intersection of BDSM and Queer Heterosexuality

Sensual Biting

Sex: Myths & Stereotypes

Sex: Practical Details

Sex: Pregnancy and Birth Control

So You Want To Try Anal? A Practical Guide For Women

Squirting Educational Video

Squirting Notes

Toys

Advice on Dildos and Buttplugs

BDSM on a budget

Bondage Rope: How To Choose Yours (And More)

Training

10 Considerations for Inexperienced Subs

30 Things You Can Do For Your Human Kitten

40 Very Important DD/lg Facts

Age Play: A Short Guide

BDSM for Beginners: Safe and Affordable Play

DEFINED: SSC (Safe, Sane & Consensual) & RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink)

Etiquette in BDSM Part 1

Etiquette in BDSM Part 2

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 1 - Beginnings

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 2 - The Dominant Mind

Glossary of BDSM Terms

Guide To Blood Play

Guide To Bruising

Guide To Talking Dirty

Guide To Wax Play

How Do I Get Started In BDSM?

How to Make a Blanket Fort/Cuddle Nest

How To Make A Comfort Box

Introduction To BDSM

Newbie’s Guide To Vaginal Fisting

Punishments in BDSM Relationships

Red Flags For Online BDSM Relationships

Some Thoughts On Rules

The Leash Has Two Ends - Responsibility

The Need For Rules and Discipline