shrummrums

your favorite bubg,

bug. your favorite bug

And I hand you your social security card

...she tastes like the real thing

I hate how most people's initial reaction to stories like that are things like:

"How could you have ever done those things?!" "Oh my god, you believed those things?!" "Well it doesn't un-do the harm you did!"

People incessantly advocate for change but then refuse to allow people who have changed the grace of being acknowledged and given opportunities and chances.

I love hearing about ex-antis talking about how they don't spend their days being angry and sending death threats anymore.

I love hearing about ex-homophobes who realized there's no magic law about what is "natural."

I love reformed bullies talking about how they made amends with their victims and spend their days being considerate of others.

You can't scream about wanting people to change but then expect them to spend the rest of their lives stuck in the past and on who they used to be. You can't expect people to spend the entire rest of their lives grovelling and apologizing and demeaning themselves.

Instead of clinging to who they were, latch onto who they are.

It is so easy to raise people with that negative mentality and of course a child is going to blindly follow their adult into that. They have no reason not to.

It sucks to have once been that kind of person, myself included.

And you can not like the person someone once was,

Or not accept the apology or associate with the person who's actions may have harmed you,

But advocating for change and denying someone the ability to grow is not only wrong but feed this kind of thinking.