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problem solving steps

To recover, you literally need to manually learn skills that most people learn as a toddler

You need to learn what makes your body uncomfortable, and what to do to fix it

If you are high-masking, that usually means that you have learned to ignore every distress signal your body sends unless it is a distress signal that a neurotypical person would recognize. People have likely been unintentionally gaslighting you about your lived experience your entire life

If you feel bad or panicked for no reason, stop and try to pay attention to your body. Are you tense? You are likely feeling physical pain somewhere. If you've been gaslit about your pain your entire life, you might not be able to identify it.

Go through a sensory checklist.

SIGHT: Try closing and covering your eyes. If this gives you relief, the lights are probably too bright. You may also need differently-colored lights

SOUND: Cover your ears. Does this give you relief? If so, you may need earplugs or noise canceling headphones. You may also benefit from a neutral or pleasant background noise, like soft music or brown noise.

TOUCH: Are your clothes uncomfortable? Your chair? Your body? Do you feel greasy, like you need a shower? Do you need softer, sensory-friendly clothing?

TASTE: Do you need to brush your teeth or tongue? Would chewing on something help?

SMELL: Is there a strong or unpleasant smell in the room? Do you need to clean or empty a trash can? Would an air purifier help? Would a pleasant smell like a candle help?

INTEROCEPTION: Are you hungry? Thirsty? Tired? How is your posture? Are any of your muscles tight or sore? Scan your body slowly from head to feet, tensing and loosening each group of muscles. Going for a walk or doing a series of quick stretches may help a lot.

Learning how to do this stuff is not intuitive, if you've had an entire lifetime of gaslighting telling you that everything hurting you isn't a big deal and you're being dramatic over nothing.

This takes time, it takes work, it's not intuitive, and it's hard. Most people forget how hard it is, because they learned this as toddlers.

congrats! Now you have a motif! A recurring theme! A focus for your art! Something to haunt you!

Seventeen still lives of dandelions? Three hundred poems about grief? A sketchbook dedicated to your grandmother’s house? Two books trying to unravel the complexities of familial relationships?

An early exploration of the themes Hokusai would keep coming back to is Spring in Enoshima, done in 1793 when he was 33. The wave is small and there are no boats, but Mt Fuji is clear in the background, and Enoshima is in Kanagawa, so we are clearly beginning to work towards something here.

A second pass, eleven years later in 1803 when he was 44. The title of this one begins to get more familiar: The View of Honmoku Off Kanazawa. It has a towering wave over a smaller boat, but Mt Fuji is not present, and the boat is considerably larger and has a sail. But the feeling of danger in the wave and the smallness of the boat are here, and of course the general composition is definitely recognizable.

This is A View Of Express Delivery Boats, done in 1805, merely two years later at age 46. Here we find the wave and the boats almost exactly as we'll find them in The Great Wave Off Kanagawa, though Mt Fuji isn't present, and the location is uncertain. And it's a good picture! The wave is threatening, the boats are small -- but the feeling of "ocean" isn't really there yet, is it? It's unlikely this picture would have become a classic for the ages. But that's okay, there's still time.

And here we have it, a full 26 years later, done by Hokusai in 1831 at the age of 72. The Great Wave Off Kanagawa, one of the most recognizable pieces of art in the world. The boats are there, the mountain is there, the wave is there, and the FEELING is there. He did it! He reached the apex of his ongoing motif and theme!

Or did he? Because the whole point of a motif is not that you're striving to get to the perfect version of it, the one idealized image you carried in your head all along, and when it is done, you are also done. Hokusai is on record at the age of 73 saying he'd only just begun to feel like he was learning how to draw things properly, and that "if I keep up my efforts, I will have even a better understanding when I was 80 and by 90 will have penetrated to the heart of things. At 100, I may reach a level of divine understanding, and if I live decades beyond that, everything I paint — dot and line — will be alive." He had drawn The Great Wave, but he didn't believe he was finished -- he thought that he was still just beginning to get started.

And he wasn't finished with his ocean motif, either. Please check out his Mt Fuji At Sea, done in 1834 at the age of 75.

original about ☆ a Last.fm playlist

fun thing about a memory so shitty that you need constant reminders to function is that those reminders get lost too. so, this is for me to find what Escaped Rotation (or i retired them, forgot, but then want them back). you can use it too, if you like

Stretches — general

how to safely stretch

PT for walking/standing hurts

how to do a plank without wanting to die

the Original Purpose of Blog: Unclench Your Jaw

how to unclench your jaw

fancy text unclench your jaw

red unclench your jaw, orange unclench your jaw, green unclench your jaw, blue unclench your jaw, purple unclench your jaw, pink unclench your jaw, 😤 unclench your jaw

you're not wrong. my jaw needs to be unclenched.

Stretches — eyes

look into the distance (incl deep breaths)

scrunch your eyes (⇀‸↼‶)

original blink; variation gnome cat; variation bird cat

eye stretches yeehaw

focus changes

Stretches — limbs

nerve stretch and glide

shake your hands

wrist diagrams

feet

Stretches — stress spots

eyebrows/forehead

jaw additional PT instructions

neck (circling)

neck (hands on chest)

shoulder moves

Stretches — core

specific pain spots in neck/back

twist (spine/back/sides)

reset your back

binding

hip stretches

Breathing (filter tag: take care comrade)

● fuck that ● counting

Wellbeing — Do Now/Soon

comfort check

eat and rest (inspired by a possum)

brushing teeth

med reminder original; variation shot

hydrate

wash your bottle

outside part 2

how to manage a panic attack

mental grounding techniques to practice

working out is helpful (sounds fake but it's aggrevatingly true)

Wellbeing — Forgetting

subscriptions

forgetting smth, like laundry

use your aids

Reframe and Rest (Spiral Time)

bask in your achievements 🦎

floor time

keep warm / keep cool

(betrayed by sitting being painful) moveable moments

relax (ft cowboy hamster)

Wellbeing — Reframing

purposeful wellbeing suggestions

pain meds are a helpful tool; THE SEQUEL

boundaries; benefits, like a bearded dragon

a seal plushie

mantra against fascism

you don't have to stick with what you try; it's important you try

emotional regulation

Wellbeing — escaped rotation so frequently they're semi-retired

take care of yourself (this is a threat, and i'm proud of your effort so far)

finding joy in the Sisyphean process

brain/body, listen and trust, think/move

bite something

go outside

refs not in rotation

a nice message :>

anger first aid ; extreme emotions advice

regarding eyestrain exercises ; eye strain/fatigue again

research on hip stretches

sitting with discomfort

stretches for sculptors (hand, wrist, back pain)

getting started with executive dysfunction (not my post)

ask w/The Chart

other reminder blogs i've encountered:

drink some fucking water

brushing teeth

shower reminders

meal reminders + recipes

Donations have almost completely stopped for the community kitchen Thomaserena has been supporting. They have ceased operations as of yesterday, and with nothing to send them, ThomaSerena is about to put himself into more debt to try and help get the kitchen running again.

Thomaserena has been left to burden the strain every time we fall short. He has taken out loans to make up for the campaign's shortcomings. We cannot ignore his and other Sudanese people's calls for support. When we turn a blind eye, it makes us no better than the international powers who are complicit in the genocide destroying Sudan.

The chuffed for the community kitchen needs to reach €25k within the next week. It is currently at €21k. Please share and donate if you can.

Thomaserena is vetted on SudanFunds.com and has been shared by Sara (bsonblast). If you check the updates section on chuffed, you can also find proof of the transfers ThomaSerena has made.

joke 100 times and you

will all enjoy it.

will see me and haiku-bot

fuckin tbh

And I got hit with, “oh, I take a bath magnesium when that happens to me—“

As an Indigenous person living in Canada, it is ABSURD to me that my life and wellbeing, in my ways, require and are dependent on me being able to “make nice” with my oppressors, or at the very least, co-exist.

It’s like being forced to maintain a relationship with your abuser. Most people can recognize that, that’s an insane expectation.

Anyway! No pressure to watch the link. Just thought you might be interested.

I have so many thoughts about this, but then I realised I would probably have to make like seven whole new posts.

In Australia, Indigenous people have to conciously make political reforms with the constant idea of 'working together' sidelining our anger because we know it'll just invite retailiation.

But when we do, (Such as the Uluru statement from the heart. three measly minor adjustments to australian government that didnt even adjust the power to make changes) they're absolutely gutted, butchered and we're retaliated against anyway.

and when we get mad about how our human rights are violated, its always 'its all in the past,' 'why cant you let it go?' 'why are aboriginal people always making trouble'

and the blame is always on us🙄