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The American Ballet Theatre is debuting its first same-sex pas de deux tonight, performed by Calvin Royal III and João Menegussi. A snippet of the performance has been circulating on TikTok (above), and it’s so beautiful, I was moved to tears. I tried to capture the tenderness of these thirty seconds in charcoal and pencil as best as I could. (Below.)

Wilde would whisper flowery sweet nothings in your ear during foreplay but then have his very dirty way with you

Fitzgerald would spend like an hour bragging about how good he was and then come much too soon

Create Your Own “Bokeh” Photographs

Here’s a cool trick you can try out with your SLR camera. All you need is a large aperture lens (ex: 50mm / F1.8) and a sheet of opaque paper or cardboard. The out-of-focus dots that you see in theimage are known as “Bokeh,” a term which is derived from the Japanese word meaning “blur.”

1) Create a fake lens hood with the paperboard by cutting out a hole in the shape of your choice.

2) Place the hood over the lens and see how it looks through the viewfinder.