(part 1)Hi, I'm the anon who asked about polyromanticism and demisexuality, thank you so much for answering my question though now I am more confused tbh. What I don't get is how you choose between the terms, in your case: did you choose polyromantic because romantic feelings are of more value, or because you want to feel both romantic/sexual attraction (> men don’t fit in with what you want) in my case: I can feel romantic and sexual attraction for multiple genders but sexual attraction {...}
(part 2)may only happen if a strong emotional bond is formed. That’s why I considered polyromantic demisexual as a label, because the most important point of a relationship for me is romantic attraction (polyromantic) but since there is a possibility in feeling sexual attraction (demisexual). So, do others choose regarding to what is more important? What if you feel all types of attraction for multiple genders? Which label then? And about me, what I described above? Thank you for your time :)
I’m sorry I confused you!!! I will try my best to answer all this better. I’ll try to go point by point, following the questions in your messages. (It will be a bit long…!)
For me personally, I value both romantic and sexual attraction. But the more important part of my identity is the romantic orientation, since the act of sex is not something I’d pursue outside of a romantic relationship (although I could feel sexual attraction to every gender—I just would not act on it with a man because I cannot feel romantic attraction to a man). So, yes, I identify more prominently as polyromantic because I would want to feel both romantic and sexual attraction to someone I am dating, and since I am not romantically attracted to men (and will not date one), my capacity for sexual attraction to them cannot extend beyond mere thoughts.
Based on how you described your situation, polyromantic demisexual does seem like a good combination! Because the genders you’re sexually attracted to are dependent on whether you’ve formed a romantic relationship or emotional bond (?), and the genders you are romantically attracted to can be encompassed in the label of polyromantic (?). Correct me if I am wrong!
I cannot speak on anyone else’s behalf about whether others choose terms based on what is more important to them, but I think it could be a common thing! For me, the terms I call myself are my attempt to describe myself as accurately as possible—even if it’s not that important to know that I am able to be sexually attracted to men!
Somebody who feels all types of attraction to multiple genders could choose to be very specific (e.g., outline every type of attraction and to whom that attraction can be felt) or to be more vague/unspecific (e.g. simply “polysexual,” since I think it is more common to identify one’s sexual orientation as all-encompassing rather than separating the types of attraction).
And I can’t tell you who you are, but I can say that your experience does seem to match up with polyromantic demisexuality. Of course, many people can experience the same exact thing and yet identify with it in different terms. But if polyromantic demisexuality is a combination you are considering, I say go ahead and run with it, cause it sure does seem fitting!
I hope this helps you more than my answer to your previous ask!
And, again, I am here to clarify anything and answer any further questions!
Edit: And if anyone else has any input, leave a reply or add something to a reblog!
(In case my interpretation of the question was incorrect, here’s some more commentary by @alittlebluebug)
“I think they might be asking how someone identifies as "polyromantic demisexual" instead of like "polysexual demisexual" or something like that, in which the answer is you don't have to choose, and can totes identify as polyromantic poly-demisexual or something like that”
Meaning, you absolutely can combine terms within one form of attraction!
