While talking about International mensā day and what men want, someone pointed out ālet us beā - the sheer fatigue in that phrase was hard to miss. In that moment, it dawned on me that just as we have labeled women, we have also labeled men. Donāt cry, get it together, be a man, pay the bills, and plenty of other moulds to fit men in. We have seldom allowed them to just be. So on the occasion of International Mensā Day, this is to let all the men know that you are valued and loved. And a special tribute to my favourites: Papa, we have had our differences, we still do, but I am so proud to see you pursuing your dream of becoming a lawyer. At 60, when people retire from their jobs and let life take its course, you grabbed the reins, said your favourite quote out loud ākuch karna chahiyeā, and set out to don the black and white. Mahith Menon, for bawling your eyes out at emo movies, smiling at strangers, letting me braid your hair, and being an unapologetic softie. Your tenderness is a massive threat to toxic masculinity. Satyaki, for being kind and compassionate, and these arenāt mere words I use for everyone. You embody these terms. You are the one who taught me how to be a feminist. Samarth, for being so honest and human. You are one of those few whom I have seen in the element and I adore you for not holding back. Anurag, for caring for us and feeding us. You make us feel at home. Syam, for being so level-headed and understanding. The sheer patience you have to tolerate not one but two idiots :D Vinod, hamari Amma bol bol k thak gai aur hum nahi sune, lekin tum humko chaar roti khilaane mei kaamyaad ho gaye. Our housekeeper at Social Rehab stays far away from home and works hard to send his daughters to school. A salute to his ambition. Daniyal, may we as a family be able to retain your purity and innocence. May we be successful in raising a Man. A special mention to Malayali men and their brand of masculinity. As I socialize more and more with you guys, I feel that the world needs to learn from you. https://www.instagram.com/p/B5DF8sull4n/?igshid=dn145s2acqho