a day iām pretty sure no one was expecting to ever come has finally approached. despite trying to hold things together and keep people around as things started to change and newcomers became extremely frequent, iāve come to realize that either iāve spent too much time investing in something that was pointless from the beginning, or iāve invested a lot of time into something that really meant something to me. and when i think about it, this place did mean a whole lot to me. even if i started out socially awkward and following 25 people at most; even if i had friends come and go, was mistreated, wronged, deliberately hurt, and most definitely did some of the hurting; even if i strained relationships to make others work. i donāt regret a single second of being here. because of this place, iāve met some of the most amazing people the world has to offer. i also learned a lot while i was hereāhow to be open, how to love someone unconditionally, how to let go, how to fight for what i want, how to brush off those who want to bring me down, how to move on, how to hurt, and how to heal. and thereās no way i wouldāve learned these things without the people who matter to me most. to my gwangkki, whoās already gone. sometimes iām sorry for ever bringing you here; for making you go through the hurt, the criticism, the fights, and the rants. for unloading my problems on you when they shouldāve been mine to deal with. but at the same time iām glad i brought you here, because you made friends you cherish, had laughs when god knows you mightāve been crying, and opened your heart to someone. you probably wonāt see this, but iām sure you know how much i owe you already. to junhyung, whoās loved me no matter what, even though i know i donāt deserve it in the least. i donāt think iāll ever forget how we met. but i think out of everyone, i owe you the biggest apology of all. for asking you to make another account just so that we could be together, and for ruining it by telling you i was in love with someone else at the same time. iām sorry for all the times i ever made you feel second best or unappreciated, and i donāt blame you for one second for turning to gwangchul instead. iām sorry for being the reason you donāt bother with dating at all anymore. iām sorry for every time you snapped at me, for talking to you like you werenāt a person with feelings, and for being such an asshole to you because you always got it the worst from me. but thank you for never giving up on me, and for caring for me, and for being the greatest hyung i had. to my kitty hyung, max. i never told you why i actually hated you, did i? well, it was because you were closer to chanhee than i ever couldāve been, despite the two of us ending up together. my jealousy got the better of me a lot when it came to you. i donāt remember what it was that made me look past it, but i guess itās no longer important, hmm? what matters is how close weāve become over time, and i want to thank you for being such a good friend to me, even though i didnāt deserve it. i want to thank you for giving me the courage to to ask chanhee both of the biggest questions iāve ever had to ask someone in my life; for giving me a reason to try harder when i wanted to give up altogether, for not letting me get discouraged by others, and for being there to comfort me when i needed it. and iām sorry for breaking my promise. also, tell kihoon iām sorry i never visited; iāve been really unfair to him. to erika (or eunyoung). youāre really something else, you know that? you say that i make you happy when i show up, but the truth is you made me happy by making gwangchul happy while he was around. naturally though, you and i have formed a bond with one another through your relationship with him, with our inside jokes and what have you. it find it totally ironic that you asked me how i keep calm and deal with things that should make me angry or make me sad. but i have to ask you how you stay so strong. youāve been through a lot more than i have and iāve been here almost an entire year longer than you have. you somehow always manage to bounce back even if you donāt tell people when youāre down, and i admire you strongly for that. see you on the other side, sis. to narae noona. you were one of very few people i could discuss different things that most people didnāt know/care about with, which automatically makes you awesomely special to me. i know weāre not extraordinarily close to one another or anything, but i want you to know that iām happy that i met you, and that i hope you continue to be your uplifting self. that nothing brings you down, and that no one tries (well, succeeds, i guess because people will always try to bring you down) to make you miserable. you deserve the utmost happiness. to chanshik and jihwan. iām sorry i didnāt stick around to see you two get married. iām not such a great hyung after all, huh? i hope for nothing but happiness for the two of you. to jinyoung and keonu. the two of you probably put a smile on my face more than anyone else around. we werenāt particularly close outside of that, but i cherish whatever ridiculous times we had together. to my son, favourite dongsaeng, and best friend changjo. i canāt tell if iām sorry for bringing you here yet. but i donāt think i am. because of this place, you and i are best friends. and even though we can go weeks without talking to one another, we both know that the friendship still stands. youāve been there for me to lean on since day one and i canāt even begin thanking you for that. i believe you are one of very few who have seen me at my best, and at my worst, and i trust you the most out of everyone iāve met here. i would honestly give my right arm if it meant to see you happyāwhich means a lot because iām right-handed and a writer so my life would be over without my right arm. in a way you kind of were like my child, asking for advice and stuff. i can only hope that some of the stuff i told you actually has value and didnāt distort your perceptions of anyone or anything. youāre one of those people who happens once in a blue moon, you know. one of those people who looks after everyone before looking after yourself. even if it can be a destructive thing, it can also be powerful. the power to make someone else smile is stronger than all other strengths. and i know things seem like theyāre piling up to unbearable heights, but when it all stops and you can breathe, youāll see how amazing it feels to overcome it all. part of me is a little worried about leaving you here, but i know you can take care of yourself. youāll always be my best man, got that? i love you, kiddo. and to my beloved chanhee. i do, will, and will probably continue to feel like the biggest douche nozzle in the world for a very very long time for doing this to youāfor letting us get so far, only to let things go unfinished. you and me have been through everything together, through hell and back over the past two and a half years, huh? hours and hours spent building what we are now; hours and hours of loving, hurting, learning to love again, fighting, talking, not talking, avoiding, dodging, questioning, crying, expecting, disappointing, snuggling, smiling, laughing, planning, learning, trying, forgiving but never forgetting (okay maybe a little forgetting on my endā¦). taking something that was broken and patching up the pieces again, slowly but surely. and here we are 2 years, 4 months, and 5 days later. youāre the longest relationship iāve ever had, you know. whether or not this is just a roleplay, iāve always been in love with you as a personāi still am, and probably will be for a long time. but itās taken a lot of thought to make this decision, a lot of serious looking back and looking ahead. and one of the few things that iāve realized is that i need to focus on me. i know you of all people will understand what itās like to need to separate yourself from everything and everyone else and just look out for yourself because in the end, youāre all you really have sometimes, you know? i learned that the hard way this past school year. i need to get myself together. my love for this place is starting to die out and although my love for you is still strong, itās not fair to you to have to keep yourself tucked away while iām busy not being here, when someone else could be loving you better. i thought about it, and i think youāre right. things are different nowāweāre different. we have been since may last year. even if iām wrong, even if things changed again while i wasnāt looking, even if you think iām the one who isnāt putting in my whole half, itās because iām discouraged. they say only the strong survive, but thereās only so much fighting one can do before they get tired. i donāt know if iāve ever told you this, but iāve always hated being in an open relationship with you, whether or not it taught me how to trust someone wholeheartedly. regardless of whether or not you wanted to be open for you, or for me, or for other people, i always hated it. i learned to deal, sure, but i never liked it. i sacrificed a lot to be with you, and iām not trying to use that against you or anything. itās just time for things to changeātime for us to let go, move on, do better for ourselves because it feels like weāre going nowhere, and itās felt like this for a long time. i need to take care of myself, and you deserve someone who can take care of you when you need it. itāll hurt for a while, but you healed onceāyouāll heal again. whether or not itāll count for anything after this, whether weāll talk to each other on personals or not, just know that iām not breaking my promise. i will really and truly always love you. so i guess thatās it, you guys. itās been one hell of a crazy ride for all of us. some had more fun than others but hey, thatās how the story goes. to those of you i knew well, thank you for everything; for the laughs, the fun, and the near-three years of company you gave me. you all gave me a reason to smile, something that was extremely hard for me to do through my senior years of high school. without you guys, i could still be miserable, still be stuck in that depressed rut, hell i could be dead by now for all i know. but you guys changed that. to those of you i didnāt get to know, itās a shame; youāre all probably amazing people. to those of you i knew but had an intense dislike for, i wish you well; i kind of wish it could be different, but everything happens for a reason, right? right. i thought about it for a long time, and iāve decided that iāll be deleting my account. i know you guys like to keep your favorites and whatnot, but i would like to erase all of thisāwipe the slate clean, not only for me, but for anyone who would hang onto my memory and let it keep them down. i also donāt want any temptation to log in again. i want that when my name goes on the freed-up list, that itās for good. no take-backs, no do-overs, nothing. just moving forward. for anyone who wants to keep in touch, you can hit me up on skype (the13thstruggle) or my personal twitter (deokjins). i will really and truly miss every single one of you. thank you for being a part of my life. forever yours, hyunchul