Anyone can tell you there’s no more road to ride

This summer, an estranged husband violated his wife’s restraining order against him, shooting her — and six other women — at her spa job in suburban Milwaukee, but since there were only four corpses the crime was largely overlooked in the media in a year with so many more spectacular mass murders in this country (and we still haven’t really talked about the fact that, of 62 mass shootings in the U.S. in three decades, only one was by a woman, because when you say lone gunman, everyone talks about loners and guns but not about men — and by the way, nearly two thirds of all women killed by guns are killed by their partner or ex-partner).

Having babies is a blessing, not a duty.

*By the five classic lies they tell 1. If you want to see real oppression, go to the Middle East. 2. How can women expect us to respect them when they won’t respect themselves? 3. Stop criticizing domestic servitude! Some women are proud to look after their families. 4. It’s a science thing 5. Men are oppressed too, therefore women aren’t! Or something. This is the last bastion of the misogynist’s argument – their self fancying checkmate, if you will. What these people are basically saying is that …

Grief is a normal and necessary reaction to loss. It doesn’t have to be loss of life. Like Joe, you’ve probably experienced tremendous losses in your childhood: loss of good feelings about yourself, loss of feelings of safety, loss of trust loss of joy and spontaneity loss of nurturing, respectful parents, loss of childhood, loss of innocence, loss of love

The thing about patriarchy is that individual men, gay and straight, are often really wonderful people who you love deeply, but they have internalized some really poisonous shit. So every once in a while they say or do something that really shakes you because you’re no longer totally certain they see you as a human being, and you feel totally disempowered to explain that to them.

I love how Romney