man don't put me on speaker crab... :/

they're a problematic character TO YOU. they're problematic to me as well but I'm being weird and horny about it so it's different

getting characters into world-endingly intense codependent queerplatonic relationships is literally what life is all about. it is literally what we were put here on this earth to do

july being tomorrow for the love of god this cant be happening

even if your nervous system is shot to hell and you're a reactive dog on a chain all the time you can spend several years retraining your nervous system (with the help of friends to practice Disagreeing With) and one day you can reach a point where getting Disagreed With doesn't cause your whole entire bodybrain situation to implode messily. it's super great. I recommend it

Like with real dog training, rewards >>>> punishments, and you learn best when you are well cared for

this is why I think it is so crucial to be able to Practice Disagreeing about relatively trivial subjects with safe and trusted friends and loved ones where you both know that's what you're doing and you are both actively and continually affirming that you love each other the whole time it's like training wheels. I truly cannot recommend finding friends to Practice Disagreeing with enough.

ohmygod, I've been struggling so hard trying to figure out Raiya's vibe band bc when I listened to the ones I Thought might be her none of them ended up fitting, but I think I just found the answer from delving deep back into the annals of my Christian childhood upbringing, so that's??? Interesting?????? 😂😂